Out here, to me, it does not matter what Rashmi said or what Boodha said, the only reason Boodha and Rashmi are linked right now is due to Madhav. Madhav was standing right there. When Boodha was about to say what Rashmi told her, Madhav should have stopped her right there and then and ask for forgiveness on Rashmi's behalf by clearly saying, "Dadi, mein aapko apni HONE WALI PATNI ki taraf se maafi mangta hoon." I know he does not know what Rashmi said, but there was no need for everyone else to know what she said. If Madhav had interefered at that moment, the matter could have stopped there. I know Dadi would have taunted Madhav that abhi se only your supporting Rashmi and tell Shuklian that you lost your son. Madhav could have replied that if my mom's respect was at stake, I am sure my dad would have interfered. That to him, rashmi's izzat is his izzat and by insulting Rashmi, dadi is actually insulting him. Anyways, it was not right for Madhav to stand like that when Rashmi was being insulted. I can understand he did not interfere when Rashmi's parents were being insulted as they are older to him and they know what is best for them. But out here, it was Rashmi, and he could have asked for forgiveness from her side. If he even once while asking for forgiveness looked with pleasing eyes at his mom, she would have melted. This issue was over blown only because Madhav did not interefere. I dont care if the situation had worsened if he had interefered, but at least Rashmi would have his support. After all marriage is standing by your partner in bad as well as good times, even if he/she is wrong, you still stand by your partner in front of everyone. Yes in private, he could have scolded Rashmi or he could not, but in front of everyone, he needed to support Rashmi, as out here only she was involved.
By the way, I did not see TN at all when this drama was going on. Wonder how he would have reacted.
Felt extremely bad for Abheer, really really bad. Bichara, with all his good intentions, he was the one who was blamed. Cannot believe dadi insulted her own grandson in front of everyone for her own selfish reason. Oh I cannot wait for Lehar to give it back to dadi in future, diplomatically.
I would not compare Rashmi and Lehar out here. When Lehar gave it back, however diplomatic it was, at that time there was no one around them. I am sure dadi would have over blown her issue too if Lehar had said all that she said that time in public, like Rashmi did. Dadi is a good manipulator, she would have manipulated Lehar's words and made her look bad in front of all.
In the midst of all this, I was just wondering about what it actually means to respect your elders. I know it is important to respect elders no matter what. But the question here is what does elders mean? Does elders mean one who is elder to you by age (which means just by body...physical level) or someone who is elder to you by mind (which means who is wise....mental level). When we respect elders, we respect them because we believe they are wiser than us, not just because their body is much older than us. We think with their age, they have more experience than us, so they are more wise, therefore we respect them. Dadi, even though is the eldest among the lot, I feel is the least wisest out there. So how can you respect a woman, who is just old by body, but not by mind. And you cannot force others to respect you, one should also deserve respect. Respect comes from heart, not by force. You can force people to be scared of you but you cannot force them to respect you. I rather respect someone who is younger to me and wiser than some one who is older to me and very much like dadi. Oh well, I know this understanding does not work in society. If you are an elderly person, people need to respect you no matter how your mind is. This is a sad fact of life and this is the reason why dadi is able to over power everyone in such situations, even though her mind is evil.
Oh and she said in the precap that due to her puja and mantra she will make sure Rashmi's life becomes hell post-marriage...she will give Rashmi some shraap (she said something like this I guess). I had once heard that if you try your mental tactics through puja/mantras on someone innocent, it will get right back at you. Meaning, when you hit a ball on the wall, the ball will bounce right back at you. Daadi's shraap will come back to her in the form of Lehar. You cannot hurt an innocent and that too intentionally and think that you will get away with it.
Anyways, its high time that Madhav speaks up. Like someone said out here, the volcano is building up inside him, which is now ready to burst open and come on the surface. This may or may not destroy his and Rashmi's relationship, but it will definitely destroy his and his parents' relationship. Its sad but his mom brought this upon herself. This is the punishment his mom will have to face as she chose her fake ego and daadi's fake support over her true love for her son. I guess, M-R will move to the US post marriage thus leaving Shuklas alone in their old age. This sounds too bad but if Shuklas dont respect Rashmi, then what else can Madhav do. I hope Shukhlian realizes this sooner or later and behaves normally with Rashmi, as in her old age no society or dadi will help her and support her. She needs to realize that M-R are her family, not dadi and the society. In short, she needs to get her priorities right. Hopefully, when Madhav will give her some sort of ultimatum, she will come on track and stop listening to dadi.
To me, the worst/saddest part of today's episode was the last scene, when I saw Rashmi walking like a zinda laash. Her father or her mom had to literally drag her. She had become numb. As if she died from inside. Felt so bad for her. So many dreams she might have had about her marriage, and right now instead of getting all the importance and good attention that a bride gets, she is being treated as if she has done the most gravest unforgivable crime. Bichari!
Edited by Anvi2009 - 15 years ago
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