Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld
Well , I guess that's were we differ in our thought , I don't see her pushing him out of the boat , I see her jumping into the water as she wants Sameer to be happy. She is doing the same thing that Sameer did to her after listening to dhadhi...but for a different reason.. there he feared his presence will cause pain to her and here she feels that her lack of courage to stand up for him will hurt him...
Though her calculation went for a toss with the marriage proposal which eventually lead to Sameer moving on with a new girl...
Sometimes we take decisions for others thinking that it is good for them and it backfires...as parents many a times we do take decisions for our kids too . Some of those decisions kids don't agree , still we go ahead ...and that's exactly what Naina also did...she went ahead thinking it was right for Sameer.
Interesting points made.I agree with some points you have brought up,especially when you say that she has jumped into the water.True,When two people are in love and one is in trouble,the other ,by default,is also in trouble.So I would say both Sameer and Naina are currently battling the waves of the ocean of life.
In fact,comparing it purely from a pov of how difficult the struggle is,I would say Naina's struggle appears more difficult(at least to me,but I could be missing something).However,there is a slight difference.
How difficult/easy we find the struggles of life,heavily depends on(besides other things) on how we got into that situation.There are three possibilities here:
1) If a person is facing a difficult phase on account of his/her decision,then it makes the situation a little easier to handle.This is because they know that they and they only are responsible for the situation they are in.
2) If they are facing a difficulty because they have been forced to make the decision for the happiness/peace/honour of someone they love,it is difficult but makes the situation a bit tolerable.Reason is that they know that though they have sacrificed their lives,the people they love are happy.So the sacrificer gets something (peace of mind,satisfaction)in return.
3) The third and worst situation is when someone forces a decision on a person and the person doesn't agree with this decision at all .The consequences of such a decision are extremely difficult to handle for anyone.The reason is that the person is suffering for no fault of theirs.The person concerned is likely to feel wronged/betrayed/taken advantage of.
Naina is in situation 2.A decision has been forced on her(her marriage),but she has the satisfaction of knowing that it will bring happiness and honour to her family.She is also partly between situation 2 and 1,when she cut off relations with Sameer.She made the decision(putting her in situation 1),but the decision was made for family honour(situation 2).Overall,Naina has the satisfaction of knowing that she is upholding her family's happiness and honour at all costs.This gives her strength for her struggles.
Sameer is in situation 3.He has been punished for no fault of his.This makes his struggle that much more difficult.
This is completely different from the situation of parents making decisions for their kids.Parents are adults and make hence have a reasonable right to make decisions for their children,esp minor children,who are incapable of thinking clearly for themselves.They have taken care of their children from birth.But more importantly,if the decision backfires,the child will turn back to the same parent for the first line of support and parents unquestioningly and unconditionally provide that support for a lifetime.But when our peers make decisions for us,it is not the same.Why,even if a husband imposes his decision on his wife,the wife finds it difficult to accept it.This happens even though they are life partners and the husband will support his wife through the consequences of that decision.Still,the wife feels used and taken advantage of.In such a situation,when Naina makes a decision for Sameer which is going to affect his entire life and is then not present to help him bear the consequences of that decision,it is not only unfair but also unacceptable.
To sum up,Both Sameer and Naina are fighting the waves of the ocean of life.The difference is that Naina jumped into the water for the sake of her family.In the process,she not only dragged Sameer into the water but also abandoned him in mid ocean without support.They may both find their shores ultimately.But it holds,that Naina made a conscious decision to jump into the water while Sameer was dragged unwittingly into it.😊
Edited by rock&roll - 7 years ago
Arjun
