First of all, would you please define feminism for all of us feminists out here?
I read your comment that if someone would ever eve tease you, you will slap him back hard. I was physically abused when I was a child, when I didn't even know what a physical touch means? So how was I supposed to slap that guy? I was so horrified that I spent years but never even shook hands with a boy and finally when I started coming out of the incident, I was eve teased again which brought back all bitter memories and I got scared again. Finally when I was touched again inappropriately, I slapped the guy. But it took Me many years to climb that ladder all because I was abused as a child which shook me to the core and I could not get out of it. So does not being able to slap someone makes my pain less?
Regarding your comments on smoking, drinking, watching po*n; who said all these things define a person's character? Everyone in my family drinks. My friends drink, even I have tried it. So I very well know that drinking, smoking habits can be changed.
We are not so hyped up because Sam is shown drinking, smoking and watching nude pics of girls. Magazine was never an issue for us. We know how teenager boys behave and even grown up men also. Our posts don't mean we are judging him on all this.
We are amused because Sam is silent on eve teasing. I dont know how did you say it so easily that Sam is in a bad company , he has no guidance and he will correct it someday when he gets a jhatka. My question is why does he need a jhatka of Naina being eve teased to wake up from his deep sleep?
Btw,he might change in the future but how does that justify his act? Yes, his VO explains that he is indeed guilty of his actions. But sorry for girls like us who have been facing eve teasing since their childhood, we can not stand a guy whom we adored and loved to see him support it.
And yes I have been through the exact same situation. I found out that my boyfriend was involved in eve teasing. Not exactly eve teasing but he was always with his friends when they teased girls. Nobody knows how I felt when I got to know of it. It hurts a lot. Yaha pe to show me dikha denge sameer changed and naina accepted him but I couldn't accept a guy involved in such a bad act.
Aur haanji haan hum bhi ldke dekhte hain but sorry hum unka peeche nahi krte, unke upar gande comments pass nhi krte, unke chaaro taraf apni activas nahi ghumate. Eve teasing is a very different thing. Dont mix up two things here.
We 'feminists' have always been ardent supporters of sameer not because he was perfect, rather because he was real, a boy with flaws with whom we could relate to. But seeing the same guy whom we have loved watching on screen, befriending people who take pride in eve teasing hurt us all. So if you think we are being negative against sameer, yes we are. Because we have been through worse and we would have loved to see sameer stand against it.
Hme sameer se nahi, sameer ki ek baat see dikkat hai jo mjhe nahi lagta unreasonable hai.
And sorry if my comment sounded rude but it is not always about feminism👍🏼
Edited by AaishaM - 7 years ago
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