Thanks for opening the post as you mentioned Zoya.đ.
As always, a very well written and balanced post.đ. I am just amazed at and truly admire your ability to write with such clarity, positivity and balanced POV every time, It definitely feels refreshing and positive.
I have not went through the other comments. So in case if there is any repetition in my views with other views , I'm extremely sorry.
I had posted my take on Sri's thread yesterday and I would like to use them here as well.
Yesterday, during Raman's self talk outside IshRa room, we got to witness what deep within his heart Raman actually wants and desires for. He believed and was happy that things would fall in place gradually. I feel that his words were meant not only for Ruhi getting back to her family, but also him and Ishita getting back together as husband and wife again in life, so that he can get to live happily with his wife and kids as a complete family. This is what he has been yearning for all these years. At that point he did not bother to think about anything and anyone :- be it Shagun, Mani or the family members or even Pihu's truth for that matter.
From the precap, it looks like the harsh reality has struck him and his mind has taken control over his heart. Hence he uttered those words. According to me was a reminder to both of them. He did not want to get involved with Ishita and feel miserable & get hurt when she decides to leave. At the same time, out of genuine care for her, he did not want her get attached to the family and then get hurt while she decides to leave. Because he understands Ishita and her immense love for Ruhi. After winning back Ruhi's love, he for sure knows the intensity of the pain and the hurt Ishita would suffer when she decides to leave. I do not think he made a casual, sarcastic comment there and neither was Ishita crying. He just spoke the harsh truth while Ishita chose to accept the same by staying quiet.
We are yet to see what Ishita told him and what drove him to say these words. Let us wait for the episode to air to understand the context.
My pure assumption is that this happened after the PTA meet. Ishita might have been happy with the feedback she got about Pihu from her teacher. She might have shared her happiness about that and also about the fact that they are beginning to get a ray of hope in the direction of Ruhi's come back & healing. So she might have expressed her happiness about things falling in place and the family getting back together. Raman, on the other hand might not have recovered from the after effects of Ishita introducing herself as Pihu's maasi. The reality struck him then and hence his words. Though I felt bad for IshRa during that scene, I believe he has a valid point there. Keeping aside what they really want, his words reflected the sad reality; the messy situation they are in now; it is harsh, but it is also the sad truth.
I am still unsure of what is preventing both of them from thinking about Ruhi's condition after Ishita decides to leave. Ruhi wanted her parents to be together and the family to be united. Now if things start to fall in place and Ishita decides to leave, what effect would her decision leave on Ruhi is a bigger question. Ruhi has never given the place of a mother to Shagun and will never ever give that place in future. Adi also is in the same boat. Either CV's have totally messed up with this point or they are taking the route, where IshRa badly wants Ruhi to come back from the clutches of Nidhi first with the belief that they can somehow convince Ruhi & Adi about the realities and make them understand about Ishita's decision. God knows what CV's have in store for us.
This is why I always wanted a straight, honest confrontation and talk between IshRa first. They need to talk about the things that happened 7 years back on that night and in all these 7 years openly and frankly. Other than that, I don't see a solution to this problem. Their actions and words cannot be undone, it is only that they have to be left behind for a new start. Only if they get back together as a couple in true sense, they can plan about revealing the truth to Pihu and handling its after-effects. Ideally only IshRa can and should do the necessary damage control and not others. But in the current state of mind both are in, revealing about Pihu's identity is the last thing they will have in mind.
Now, I do not want to get in to the debate of who should take the lead and start the discussion, because perspectives differ. For me, from what I have seen personally and what I believe in, if you really want to mend a relationship, if you really want someone in your life and you know that the other person also feels the same,there is no point in playing the "you first, me then" game. We have to let go off the ego, assumptions and talk face to face. I would not mind taking the first step as long as the relationship wins over the egos. Male ego, female ego, dignity, self respect all those don't make sense at this place.
But having known CV's, having known IshRa and the messy situation they have been reduced to, thanks to the great CVs , this looks like a distant dream for me.
I don't know if I made sense. But those were my two cents.
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