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Toshiji's enthusiasm is infectious, I must say. I was smiling when she came and was asking them to welcome her and was loving her grandson. And the way she was talking about Ishita was too cute 😳 Goes on to show the bond that these MIL-DIL have developed with each other 😳😳 When she gives, she gives, just doesn't use her brains much and gets blinded easily 😆
Bhalla Ji's hurt was clearly visible in his expressions. I know he's come across as the father discriminating between his kids, listening to half-baked stuff and reacting impulsively, but somehow I feel like sympathizing with him just a li'l bit. From my personal family experience, Ego, at this age, plays a huge role in decision-making. It is almost equivalent to teenage. When you're a teenager, you're dependent on your parents, but you're also exploring your own independence. There's an insecurity fuelled by parental constraints and peer pressure (Adi-Vinni case). Similarly when you're in your late 50's, or early 60's, your kids have their kids, they've grown up, become responsible and started taking authoritarian tone. You feel a li'l lost, suddenly your family stops taking your advice for small issues (or minimizes it), your kids start taking decisions for the entire family which is not wrong, just that you're mentally unprepared because it is that phase of life. Unaware, an insecurity creeps in. What if my kids think I'm of no use? One word, one action is enough to add fuel to this fire inside your brain. Raman's one phrase - "Main ye ghar chalaata hun, yahan vahi hoga jo main chaahta hun" was that fuel. Yes, he's said that multiple times in the past. Yes, he's said it to multiple people. That is where the plot inconsistency comes in. But from Bhalla Ji's POV, his son has suddenly started feeling like he runs the house, he's started ordering married siblings to get out of his (Raman's) house, he's started hitting his younger married & with-a-kid brother - All on the basis of his reputation, or the fact that he does actually support the household. In his heart, he still knows that this issue has now gotten out of hands, but that is where his patriarch & male ego is stopping him from accepting his own mistake, stopping his son's family or bringing him back to his home. No matter how much I rant about his character being butchered, there's still a touch of realism that I am able to connect to.
Coming to Toshiji's inconsistency, when has she not been inconsistent 😆😆 But before bashing her left, right and center, I'd like to praise her one bit - She DID ask Bhalla Ji the same questions she asked Raman. How could he let Raman & Ishita & the kids go? Why did he not stop them? If Raman had said something, why did he not forgive & forget being the elder one? But her husband's words and his tearful eyes are what swayed her away. Wives, especially home-makers, are so emotionally connected with their husband's person and identity, that sometimes they cannot see beyond that sphere. She was logical, until the moment she saw her husband hurt. Her life-partner, who she's supposed to grow old with, who has given her 4 wonderful kids and a lifetime of moments to cherish. For her, his self-respect & tears are at the forefront. Also, again, the old age insecurity comes into play. What if her husband breaks down in this age? Who will support her throughout her remaining years? And I'm not talking about financial support, but emotional support, because that is what is needed at this age. Inconsistent behavior, yes, but with a tinge of realism.
Please don't throw chappals at me because I, at some level, can empathize with Sr. Bhallas 😆😆
But hitting Raman in front of his in-laws, at his in-laws' home, was a strict NO-NO. What if Raman now takes offence at this? Will they again call him high headed now? Thankfully, he considers the Iyers his family, but as Appa once said during MiMi track, "ek aankh ki sharam toh rakhni hi chahiye."
There are 2 people that really, really disappointed me today. One is Simmi, who chose to stay quiet after Bhalla Ji ranted to Toshi ji. The other is Ishita. She walked out of Raman out of obligation of being his wife, not because he's right. In being the great DIL & Bhabhi, how could she ignore his disrespect and the hurt thrown at him, at them. For it was her, who he was trying to defend 2 times out of 3. NO, Raman was NOT wrong in leaving the house.
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