Was Raman really wrong leaving the house? *Updated*

I know it is unacceptable that after a fight, if the eldest son decides to leave the house. But was it a simple fight? Did Raman leave because of what Bhallaji said? Or did he leave because of Bhallaji's actions :

• He reprimanded Raman for speaking rudely to Rinki and interfering in a matter between "Rinki and Ishita". And then while Rinki was going on and Ishita tried to explain the situation...He ordered Ishita to not interfere in the middle. Raman protested against that saying the Ishita is his wife.
  
  
• The next day he instructs Neelu to use the groceries to cook food for only HIS family clearing taking Raman, Ishita and the kids out from that list.
  
  
• Raman tries to apologize. He was not allowed and then infront of an outsider, he told Raman he can take care of HIS house payments.
  
  
• Bhalla ji was present the entire time when Romi barged in and hurled abuses not only at Ishita, but Raman, Mihir and Bala...He told both his sons to retire to their rooms...but nothing to Romi then or later about misbehaving with his elders.
  
  
• And he reprimanded Raman again after listening to the half truth and told him to behave properly with HIS bahu, Sarika. To that Raman said clearly, what about him and his wife's insults.

It was only after all these, he decided to leave as he was clearly told, if not in words but in actions that his father was judging him and defining how he should behave in his father's house. That was a clear underlining of alienation of the unfair kind he faced...Was he wrong to stand up for his own dignity and his wife's? or being a son makes one lose that right to be treated fairly by his parents and rather he has to make amends and digest what comes his way and take it as a parents' love as after all they brought him up and now it's his duty to repay that at ANY cost? That feels really skewed in my eyes.

I'm sorry but today the whole lecture of Toshiji felt that Raman was still judged as a self-serving individual for deciding to leave his parents' home...when the fact of the matter is, he didnt have much of an option...it was either that or be a mute audience to insults being hurled at him, his wife and unfair treatment meted out to his family because Rinki put the thought in his family that he cares only for Ishita by giving her the power of attorney in his absence.

I truly hope the Cvs dont botch this up. Parenting too needs to be fair, at any age.

~Update

• If Raman was right..then was Ishita wrong in siding with Toshiji to try to bring the family together? While she knew Raman's reasons are valid otherwise Ishita wouldn't leave just on Raman's wish, it's in the nature of someone like Ishita who will always go out to keep the family together because deep down she also knows that Raman is shattered without his family...that is his comfort zone...the root of his life. Remember Raman broke down in front of her saying 'aaj koi nahin hai mera'...As also her two children whose lives are built around their Dada-daadi and chacha-Buas...It's not easy to uproot all of those for some misunderstanding. I dont agree with the term "ego" that Ishita used but the fact remains Raman's self-respect took a beating and it wouldnt have been easy for him to just forget everything and go back on Toshiji's pleading. He'll need a nudge ...because after all Raman puts his family before anything...and when the time comes he'll step in as their protector, as the eldest son of the family. And Ishita knows that about him..so for her to take a step in that direction is not a move against Raman, rather for him...as she knows deep down he's all about family.
  
  
• Having said that it would be hard to accept that Mr Bhalla doesn't realize his responsibility in the whole mess...what he told Toshiji about the reason for Raman leaving couldn't have been further away from the fact. Fact is that Raman doesn't see his family as a burden. Fact is that he never has tried to garner more respect because he earns the most...fact is that Raman behave exactly like Raman always did...the difference is Bhallaji and his children have the tinted filter of his POA in Ishita's name distorting their view. Every single behavior of Romi/Rinki stemmed from that sense of 'rejection' combined with Romi's genuine MU. I truly hope that part is delved into.
  
  

I really can't relate to this slap fest on adults in front of your son's inlaws.🤢

I'm really intrigued to see how this family MU is resolved by the saas bahu duo. I truly want Simmi to have some role in eye opener here as she was the neutral one who witnessed almost everything.

Another great day of acting. Karan nailed that scene with Toshiji where his eyes spoke volumes about a guy who's reeling from the unfair accusations of his loved ones.

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Probably one of the worst episodes of YHM😡

Raman was not Wrong leaving the house ...

Gan agree with you and Bang on points you have written .. all are enough to justify Raman's action of leaving bhalla house... if a man even after doing so much for family.. loving his siblings and taking care of there every little thing fulfilling there each demand gets rude behavior.. MU and blamed for no fault then what he supposed to do ? Ok agree Raman shouldn't have talked to bhalla ji in high tone.. but then what Mr bhalla done with Raman was Not at all fair first he reacted against Raman without knowing entire matter what happened between Rinky ishu.. he reacted on Raman about to slap Rinky and telling its his house. And that expenses.. ok there he gets benefit of doubt that he was just knowing half truth but then did he tried to know what actually happened .. No... here also Raman let out his ego his anger and tried to apologise to Mr bhalla but he didn't paid attention...

Other scenario when Adi got slapped by sarika(she may slapped him by mistake) there also Raman was right defending Adi as Adi didn't done anything intentionally it was by mistake.. there also without knowing entire matter Mr bhalla took sarika's side as she is bahu now.. then why he didn't uttered a word when romi was talking to ishu in such rude manner when he was insulting ishra why he didn't said anything to romi ? He was totally unfair to Raman and ishita... Raman didn't take a impulsive decision he forced to take that step as his siblings his father were not listening him or not understanding him.. what can he do when his wife get insulted.. what can he do if his wife get questioned without any fault of her ?

Even when ishra were leaving the house they were watching at Mr bhalla with the hope that he may stop them but he instead went from there.. today Mr bhalla said Raman don't care for his family his siblings .. he has ego and blah blah i was like 😲 what he is saying does he know his son really ? Raman taking care of everything in this family .. what romi has done till now ? Again Mr bhalla was really disappointed me..

As for Toshiji first she have to know entire matter.. how ishra got insulted by romi Rinky how they got unfair treatment by Mr bhalla.. she slapped Raman its ok(Raman doesn't deserve it) being mother she thought his son did mistake and done that .. and being a wife her husband's tears may have hurt her as she said anyone doesn't matter to her more than Mr bhalla.. she was panic.. angry.. hurt cause of whatever happened but I hope after knowing entire matter she also make bhalla ji understand that he was unfair to Raman.. and Raman ishra were not wrong.. and please one tight slap on Rinky's face that girl is really getting on my nerves 😡 going by precap she knows what Rinky's intentions are hope she teaches good lesson to Rinky...

I am looking forward for coming Epis.. and I totally support Raman's Decision of leaving bhalla house and ishra here 😳

While the current track may reflect reality in many areas...I find it hard to stay objective with this track compared to almost every other track, like these characters, these emotions are more powerful. I constantly find myself thinking what I would do in said situation. Maybe once it's over I will find it easier to see all the grey & feel okay with things like Toshiji's reaction, but for now the dil talks. ❤️[/DIV]

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Ego & pride are lofty words. For the Bhallas, it makes sense they think Raman is egotistical because they are blinded by their own prejudices secondary to all the insecurity & MUs. For us as viewers, the label is unfit. To take a stand for the self respect of you & your wife is not out of ego in my opinion. It is out of inner strength.

For Raman to decide to leave & Ishita to follow takes strength because they live through their families. But there is only so much insult one can bear out of love. When Raman hurled cruel words at Ishita in anger this year, we all wanted to her to stand up for herself. Why? Because love should not cripple you to loose your self-esteem. Similar is what we are seeing here.

Just because you are the most reliable one, love your family, & feel a sense of responsibility - should you compromise your self respect just to be a dutiful son or brother?

The scene between the children was the most moving part of the episode for me because I understand that fear. Adi is like Raman in the sense both are quick to blame themselves & to some degree are self-deprecating. Ruhi is like Ishita in the sense she comforts those around her, but like a child she too was scared for the unknown future. What makes this family special is when one hurts, the other supports.

It's mixed blessings the kids don't know the full story. On one hand they feel guilty or that their father's anger to something lead to this, but on the other hand - the reality of the situation - the very fact money can break homes - is too much for young children. They have lived through a lot, yes, but to salvage their remaining innocence is important.

I do not think Raman was wrong, but I can also place myself in the other's shoes to see where they are coming from. I think things escalated too quickly, but had they stayed there - it would be a house divided in itself & filled with bitterness upon Toshiji's return.

I don't know what they will do with the rest of this track. So far it's great minus some small irksome things.

But this family doesn't need to be taught just about Ishita & Raman's importance, they need to be taught to value relationships as a whole. Not everyone can be self-sacrificing like Raman & Ishita, but they can value what, & more importantly who, they have in life.

Families who are lucky to survive such a war come out stronger but will always bear the scars of the battle.

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apt points Gan and i dnt feel raman was wrong even a bit in leaving home , but ishita is also nt wrong as she is woman of house and wants her family together 😊

No, Raman was not wrong this time. Again CVs spoiled an interesting track.

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