Mihika - Why she is wrong?

I am silent member of this forum. Much has been discussed here about this issue I too would like add my two cents here. Being a married woman I feel Rinki is not wrong with her POV but her antics are.

Mihika has the right to live her life the way she pleases to. As long as she is not trying to get mihir back ... I dont find anything wrong.

Originally posted by: appuss

Mihika has the right to live her life the way she pleases to. As long as she is not trying to get mihir back ... I dont find anything wrong.

Ishita delt with shagun day-in and out,... at that time I didnt see anyone in bhalla-iyer house being this much affected by mere presence of an ex...

I dont agree to people who say mihika should go back to chennai just becoz her ex's wife is insecure of her ...she need not run away.

mihir-rinki should work together if they find their relation worthy and stop getting others involved!!!

I agree with you totally. Infact Mihika pointed it very well yesterday that she will run into Mihir everywhere they are relatives and neighbours as well.Is she starts ignoring him that will be more awkward. Yeah i agree that they shouldn't go overboard like sometimes they did the gol gappa competition and all and Mihika should stop advising Mihir to go on a holiday with his wife and all, No wife ever will tolerate that her husband takes her on a holiday because his ex advised him to do so. In this Rinky is correct. But other than that shevis completely wrong. She shouldn't have come back to her parents' without even talking to Mihir. Mihir was drunk and he loved Mihika for a long long time to forget her so easily. Rinky knew abt this so she she should act a bit mature like Ishita did when all Raman did was come home drunk and ill treated her. Mihir atleast is not ill treating her. So she should give him a little time and shouldn't expect Mihika to disappear from everyone's life just because she is insecure.

Originally posted by: sskazii

I agree with you totally. Infact Mihika pointed it very well yesterday that she will run into Mihir everywhere they are relatives and neighbours as well.Is she starts ignoring him that will be more awkward. Yeah i agree that they shouldn't go overboard like sometimes they did the gol gappa competition and all and Mihika should stop advising Mihir to go on a holiday with his wife and all, No wife ever will tolerate that her husband takes her on a holiday because his ex advised him to do so. In this Rinky is correct. But other than that shevis completely wrong. She shouldn't have come back to her parents' without even talking to Mihir. Mihir was drunk and he loved Mihika for a long long time to forget her so easily. Rinky knew abt this so she she should act a bit mature like Ishita did when all Raman did was come home drunk and ill treated her. Mihir atleast is not ill treating her. So she should give him a little time and shouldn't expect Mihika to disappear from everyone's life just because she is insecure.

Originally posted by: appuss

Bang on!!!

Mihika cannot die to accomodate rinki in mihir's heart and life.

It is Rinki's job to start it and mihir's to complete it... means it is their headache NOT mihika's.

If rinki thinks that mihir's love for her will sprout one sunny day all of a sudden and will be served to her in a silver platter then she is naive.

No one is asking Mihika to die... But she n mihir both understand that over friendship of Exs do cause irritation to the present wife so they should behave less touchy n decent... Its not just Mihika's responsibility its abt Mihir also... N for the fact Rinki didnt say anything to anyone either Mihir or Mihika it was Mihika who poked nose asking Rinki abt it... N who the hell is Mihika to advise Mihir to talk to his wife take her to trip n all

The current situation between Mihir-Rinki-Mihika is way more Mihir and Rinki's creation than Mihika's. Mihika has made a lot of bad decisions in the past that have affected a lot of lives. Her trying to trap Ashok, agreeing to marry him to save Mihir- those were pure dumb moves, not sacrifices. Those moves changed Mihir's life, changed Shagun's life and triggered all those problems for Raman and Ishita. However, the current misunderstanding between Mihir and Rinki is due to their own doings. After the marital rape fiasco, Mihir was over reaching which naturally affected Rinki. Mihir shouldn't have over reached. That was the point when her insecurities were triggered. Ishita did talk to her about relationships but that didn't seem to help her. What Rinki should've done is talk to Mihir openly about these issues. But she didn't. She assumed things on her own and reacted like an immature person. Truth to be told, immaturity runs in the genetics of the Bhalla clan. Toshi has contributed much to Rinki's insecurities by continuously pushing her to turn her marriage into a romantic one- it wasn't the right time to push. Mihir and Rinki both needed more time to get out of the friend zone and be in a couple zone.

And please, don't start with 'Ishita should've'. Mihir, Mihika and Rinki are all adults. They are accountable for their own mess. Not everything happens is Raman's responsibility or Ishita's responsibility.

Originally posted by: manasa.hegde

No one is asking Mihika to die... But she n mihir both understand that over friendship of Exs do cause irritation to the present wife so they should behave less touchy n decent... Its not just Mihika's responsibility its abt Mihir also... N for the fact Rinki didnt say anything to anyone either Mihir or Mihika it was Mihika who poked nose asking Rinki abt it... N who the hell is Mihika to advise Mihir to talk to his wife take her to trip n all

Originally posted by: manasa.hegde

No one is asking Mihika to die... But she n mihir both understand that over friendship of Exs do cause irritation to the present wife so they should behave less touchy n decent... Its not just Mihika's responsibility its abt Mihir also... N for the fact Rinki didnt say anything to anyone either Mihir or Mihika it was Mihika who poked nose asking Rinki abt it... N who the hell is Mihika to advise Mihir to talk to his wife take her to trip n all

@Bold
This is the problem.She didn't speak to anyone. She should have atleast spoken to mihir. She is not doing anything to make her marriage work except for suspecting Mihir and Mihika. There is a reason the system of communication has evolved. If she won't communicate then how does she expect her relationship to progress?

but in everything didn't mihir sidelined Rinky she already had a broken marriage and here we can't blame mihika nor Rinky same way as Subbu isn't too b blamed but didn't Raman get insecure of Mani or didn't ishita get upset when Raman went out with Shagun and ruhi ishra's relation had Ruhi to tie them whereas Minky's has none. After Mihika's truth was out Mihir should have confide in Rinky that they both should work out to make mihika normal and lead a happy life and they should also lead. I don't know of others but definitely if I see my present roaming around with his ex I would have not liked it. Seeing his agreeing to go out with me cuz his ex has asked I wouldn't have liked it. All were quite known to this insecurity part of Rinky's Raman Ishitaa and Mrs bhalla too they should have spoken to rinky Or ishuu could have spoken to mihir, he was sensible he would have handled the situation for Rinky ofcors she will think mihir is in love with mihika and she is a burden its normal. Didn't ishuu feel bad wen Raman took side of shagun during accident case though she handled it another way but all humans r not same. And rinky is the smaller one in the family the most pampered one she will need a guidance, all these r new for her -marriage relation n all

coming to mihika we know she is clear but does Rinky know?? Even though subbu has been positive we aren't liking him Reason ?? So yeah If we see in that way Neither mihika nor rinky is wrong but the situation is wrong Not every one can see their present with their ex es roaming around in their a sense giggling hugging n all its not so easy P.S :Iyers tend to worry too much with shagun/subbu's return but didn't even gave a single thought about rinky. What will she face seeing them getting along Mihika lacked her love and trust mihir falled for the trap Ishita decided the marriage Bhallas gave it a nod what's rinky's fault here