It's difficult to be in Adi's shoes... *updated*

Hey Gan, Lovely post as usual. Amazing quote and collage, but then again they are always perfect when it comes to you.

So sorry to begin with for the incredibly late edit on this one, believe me I wanted to do it sooner but somehow just couldn't seem to do it. The episode last night drained me emotionally more than I expected, the more I thought about it and the more it affected me.

What we saw last night in Adi' breakdown, his outburst, his acceptance of feeling rejected, defeated, unwanted and unloved is something no child should have to go through. My heart went out for the child who for no fault of his has become the biggest casualty, the biggest victim of a war he just realized he is a part of.

Over the past few months, we have had a truckload full of issues against the CVs for doing this and that to the show, to our favorite characters but you know what last night - last night made it all worth it. What YHM has done last night I don't think any show has managed to touch in the recent times. There are tons of shows out there catering to the masses using the 'social messages' banner but their version tends to dramatize things to a proportion which makes your mind reel. These so-called brave shows rely on external forces like abusive in-laws of a child bride, feudal landowners, et al to play villains that wreck a child' life, but they never dare show that even parents can be villains. They can ruin a perfectly good childhood; what should have been a perfectly normal, happy, healthy child.

Kudos to the makers for breaking barriers last night by showing that parents can be just as horrible and being a birth parent has nothing to do with being a good parent. Most people think Shagun can't do this to Adi, can't do that to Adi but the point is that she can and she is. What Adi is suffering now is the emotional abuse of the worst kind, Shagun has been an indulgent parent, a negligent parent now she has turned into a parent who is absolutely the worst sort of abusive parent to her child, a parent with no conscience to speak.

I remember watching a show called 'Hip, Hip, Hurray' in the 90's, as a young school going girl myself, wherein a child was shown on the path of self-destruction resorting to drugs, committing suicide by overdosing due to his family life. It took almost 2 decades and a show called YHM to revisit this horrifying reality of our times - teen suicides and depression.

Dramatizing child abuse is easy but to show the slow, almost ignored progression of a child on a path where he feels neglected to the point of harboring suicidal tendencies is something our show has managed to do.

For all the crap subjected to us, I can now forgive the CVs for having the balls to tackle this subject on a prime-time popular show that is a rage among the masses.

Once again, kudos to the makers for being brave enough, real enough to depict this issue with a sensitivity that has warmed our hearts to the character who at one point was someone not even integral to us or the storyline.

This now brings me to the issue of the upcoming track and the spoilers, knowing what is now the reason for Raman doing what he is about to do makes sense, the picture is a lot more clearer now than it was before.

What Raman & Ishita are about to face, as well as Ruhi and Adi too, is something that can be any family' worst nightmare come true in a way. But then again they have picked the lesser of the evils; however, the catch is here there is no option with the label this is the better alternative'. There is no option that allows any respite of any kind.

No matter what, one child is doomed to suffer, unfortunately for us its Ruhi, our darling this time who has to pay the price on a much heavier count which is why we can't fathom nor digest the very thought of what her reaction is about to be.

However what YHM is once again doing is tackling a subject rarely explored on television in our country, that of parenthood and unfortunately this is the one thing for which there maybe tons of guidebooks available in the market and yet you can find yourself lost looking for answers. No guidebook in the world can prepare you for all the challenges that parenthood presents and no matter what you do parents are at the end of the day humans too who can and do err is what YHM is all about as per me.

Isn't it a parent who in loving his one child is about to err where it concerns the other? Does not this parent love both his children equally? He does, but he is about to realize that parenthood is the most difficult of tasks and there is always a chance that despite all your precautions and assumptions you can still make a blunder. When will he realize this - when his other child will present to him a challenge he never saw coming, when she would make him question once again his decisions as a parent.

I know people are outraged by the very thought that Ruhi is gonna say she hates everyone in her family now especially to her Ishimaa but you know what Gan I for one don't find this odd nor do I think it's surprising. It is the outburst of a child pushed to the brink. Her anger is reasonable and very much expected and natural.

In fact, this reminds me of a wonderful quote I once came across,

"If you have never been hated by your child, you have never been a parent."
- Bette Davis

The consensus is that Ruhi cannot hate her Ishimaa, and I agree...but has there ever been a parent-child relationship that has had a perfectly smooth sailing. Have you ever come across anyone who said there really been no fights that we have had with our parents when growing up or still do. I am not yet a parent but know when I do become a mother someday there will come times when I and my child would be locking horns on issues ranging from the most trivial things to life altering ones, would it necessarily make me a bad mother or does it make mine bad when I have fought with her?

To be hated by your child at some point of time is what every parent faces, what matters though is if in the long run your child realizes that though they hated you at some point of time in their life, what you did was the best for them.

Frankly from the way I see, it's not just Ruhi who' about to be set on this path in the future, it's her brother Adi too...who is slowly but surely on the way to hating his mother Shagun, in fact his outburst last night was a clear indication of that. What he said in those moments weren't words of epiphany that he suddenly had, rather they were words he was hiding from and they finally exploded out of him. Last night Adi accepted what he had come to see as the truth for a long time now, that his mother just uses him.

So from the way I see, though all the 3 parents in this track are about to face hatred from their children, what's important is the reasons for being hated will be vastly different and so will their impacts be.

Ruhi' hatred or her rage, which I think can be termed as her hatred will be her anger directed towards her parents and her family stemming from the fact that she would feel abandoned by the people she thought would never let her go, never give her up. Her hatred/anger will be her cry for attention; her need to feel loved and wanted as well. It will be her outrage arising out of her treatment at the hands of her parents as if she were a ragdoll or a trophy repeatedly changing hands.

In the end her hatred, will be that of a child who wants to feel loved and wanted. In the end her anger will wither when she feels loved and wanted again, when she learns that no one ever intended to give her up, nor will they ever.

However, the hatred that would be the one in my opinion to watch out for will be that of her brother. For years now, this child was brainwashed against his own kin, but mostly against his father by the one person he thought loved him, the one person he thought was enough. Now slowly he is coming to terms with the ugly, brutal reality that had been sobbing last night. What do you think would he do when that woman tries to do to his sister what she already has done to him?

Last night in a fit of rage, this child unleashed himself on a man who he thought is responsible for the chaos in his life, in the life of his family and that of his sister. Now he is coming to terms with the fact that the man was merely an instrument, the one who wielded him was his mother.

In her quest for revenge, Shagun has managed to push away the only person who still loved her in the entire world and has not even realized it as of yet.

She will however have the rude awakening just when she would think she has won. Her fall from grace would be complete when the very child she made a pawn will be the one to oust her from his life and that of his sister and the rest of his family.

If I were the one writing the screenplay and the story of this track Gan, believe you me, Aditya Bhalla would be the one and not Raman Bhalla or Ishita Bhalla nor even Ruhi Bhalla who would be the hero of this track.

If I were the one penning this script, I would make sure he would stand tall against his mother and defy her, let her know her time is up and her games have now ended. She may have played so far with everyone around her but now no more, now he will not be a pawn in her games nor will he allow his sister to become one. He would be the one to not only clear his sister' misconceptions but also be the one to let her know she mustn't let her anger navigate her life. She mustn't choose the life he once lived for he knows what it is all about and there is no worse fate than it.

I for one won't be surprised if in the end Shagun Arora is defeated at the hands of the one person she never assumed would be the one to cause her downfall.

Dont know how much sense I have made just that this track has made me passionate about the show once again...

Originally posted by: stylish_VJ

Res...will be back...but this 🤣

Iske andhar kaunsa bhoot ghuss jata hai from time to time?

Originally posted by: stylish_VJ

Res...will be back...but this 🤣

Iske andhar kaunsa bhoot ghuss jata hai from time to time?