It's all about parenting *Updated*

"No one is ever quite ready; everyone is always caught off guard.
Parenthood chooses you.
And you open your eyes, look at what you've got, say "Oh, my gosh,"
and recognize that of all the balls there ever were,
this is the one you should not drop.
It's not a question of choice."
Marisa de los Santos

An episode about different shades of parenting.

Yes the anniversary celebration came to an abrupt end as the CVs were in a hurry to open the next track.

I think the track really shifted gears to facilitate Adi and Ishita bonding; prepping Adi to be folded into the Bhalla family and so we see a much normal Adi compared to the one with criminal instincts. It's either the football camp was a character building camp or Logic has gone again to tel lene.

Finally Romi is paying for his past deeds in a way that when he's no more the spoilt brat of Bhalla siblings, yet he's still ostracized by his own family as sort of a non-entity. Romi is understanding the meaning of Karma is a b*. And Toshijee is again in her pushing agenda avatar..why is it so important to get a girl married when she's already pursuing her education?

So again we're standing at another cross road of Ishita v Shagun as parents..And we know what's going to happen tomorrow at the exhibition. Again I think the CVs are revisiting the FL Mahan Abhiyan. No problem so long they don't turn Raman back to side character as often the tendency has been of late. During Ruhi custody track they never kept Raman out of the loop...as close as Ishita and Ruhi was getting...they kept the focus on Raman and Ruhi's relation too. Adi and Raman have still a fractured bond and more than Ishita Adi I would have preferred Raman re-emerging in Adi's life as the primary parent. Maybe it's too early to pass a judgment. I just hope Raman-Adi bonding is not put as secondary.

Raman, Ruhi's reactions to the file deletion was normal...Raman is the CEO of a company and that file deletion put not only him but his entire company in jeopardy. Well we can talk about some technicalities about file recovery from recycling bin...but I can look the other way as it's not a major blooper. And Ruhi being a 7 year old, was obviously scared after Papa's rebuke. One thing I didn't like was Ishita telling Ruhi that Papa is unavailable to help her with project, the night before. Well she's a professional woman herself she ought to know sometimes grown up deadlines really take over and Raman didn't have much of a choice in there.

Talking of choices...So Shagun is all about outsourcing when it comes to actual process of parenting. Why am I not surprised? She outsourced Adi to boarding school when she needed and looks like she's used to outsourcing school projects to others too.

RKB is looking at some rough waters at professional front and guess who were there to enjoy it? I really am hoping Ashok rattles RKB with his taunts tomorrow...I enjoy that more than his "Mihika" jaap.

An episode which didn't have Ishra moment but was ok nonetheless.

Haven't watched the episode thoroughly but here are my quick points...

Finally opened yayyy..

Today's episode was nice... Adi and Ishita's bonding... Fresh and new... This time, Adi stayed silent... He didn't give Shagun a chance to manipulate by letting her know that Ishita brought that food... This kid is yearning for love... He wants to be taken care of but he's forced to take care of Shagun... Poor kid...

I watched it the episode and apart from a few scenes I missed the emotional connect.

RES... to taking the a moment and observing- at the moments that matter, at the things you missed out on and at the l moments you never thought you'd miss.

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G... your collage is looking awesome- looks like KP has finally gotten some rest, he looks os much fresher and on point then he did during the Lohri episode. Back to being our drool worthy RKB at his best. *sigh*

And your post, honestly one of my faves that you've written - you really touch on some very important points- terrific job!

Going into the episode I had a little more expectation regarding the way that the way they ISHRAnniversary would be wrapped up- the wrapping up of that little part felt a little stunted. I suppose I expected a little more from the CVs considering how smart they are about introducing and seamlessly integrating tracks but...it was okay.

The scene with Adhi was nice and natural though my favorite part was Raman observing it and his little comment. It's kind of funny when you think about it- they both gifted each other something that they thought the other wanted/ would appreciate... but in the end the real anniversary gifts that they gave to each other were the intangible ones which confirmed their own worth in the other's eyes and made them realize their own value.

At the clinic, with his words, thoughtfulness and overtures Raman made it perfectly clear the value Ishita has for him and in his life. He told her all she was for him and what a difference he has made in his own unique manner. She brought him to life, made him live- made him everything he is , everything she fell in love with.

Yesterday Ishita gave Raman the gift of knowing that he completed her- once and for all she made it clear to him that he is the one that makes the difference for her- he is the one that completes her, the one that makes her her - the woman he loves is who she is only because of him. And by this too the CVs are giving a message a message to the viewers as well- it's a subtle but very clear message: the sirf Ruhi ke liye chapter of this marriage, of this family, is over for good once and for all- it's now it's sirf ISHRARU ke liye.. and what a way to spread the message.

And today, today, Ishita gave Raman the second part of his gift- the gift of being witness to the unending depth of her love, of her maternal instinct. Her love for the child that constantly doted on her was the reason for their marriage and it ended yesterday... and today RKB witnessed her love for the child that constantly rejects her love , and he was yet again given proof of the depth of goodness of the woman he loves- the woman he now knows he completes. And just like her innate caring nature brought RKB to his senses and into the warmth of her love, so will it do to his son. That's the knowledge of that scene for him, that's the gift. And because she was not awe of his presence it also stands to confirm that everything she told him in that hotel room about not needing another child that their life and child(ren) are enough because she already is a mother, was the complete truth. He gave her a the possibility of motherhood in that hotel room and then came home to witness her exert her maternal instinct over his son- in effect adopting yet another of his children into her heart. Yes, he has seen her overtures before as well- but this scene at that back of that conversation, it is significant.

I did, however, think that it would have been nice if Raman and his family could have seen Shagun's return but I suppose it's important that for now only Ishita is privy to Adhi's protective nature... She knows how much he cares for his mother and maybe this will lead to her realizing the extent to which Adhi has been manipulated by Shagun against the Bhallas as well as herself. If that is what awaits us, I shall forgo my complaint about RKB's blindness to the situation... if only for awhile.

I also really loved the little instance with Romi, standing by and watching as life goes on around him- for once his mother, his once strongest ally, is also holding strong... hopefully this leads to Romi finally breaking out of the fear of his truth and finally taking charge and responsibility of his own life and decisions. The scene was very minuscule but it was also significant as he sees the indirect consequences of his actions (which are usually forgiven) on his sister and Bhabi as well as realizes the preciousness of being locked out of the little moments in life that he always took for granted.

As for the ISHRARU scene, I can't say much more or much better then you all have. It was natural and beautiful and gave me the ISHRARU moment I have been craving so I am happy. Personally I thought it was weird that Ru wasn't seen interacting with ISHRA on the anniversary episodes because she is the one that brought them together so I am glad that at least at that end of their anniversary day we got that scene.

The scene at the office was realistic , though it really made me miss the real RKB. Hopefully this track will lead him to leaving the company and his bipolar boss and starting in a new venture on his own. Not only will that give us our RKB but will also bring about issues about finances and struggle... perhaps adding another reason to Shagun finally leaving the Bhalla-Iyer fold. #I'll take any reason #Just get her out

On that note I have one thing to say about seeing RKB at his RKB-est, before he had that encounter with his boss:

#Hey good lookin

#51 regular episodes since Shagun re-entered Bhalla house #Why this Kolaveri CVs #Let's move this track along #Lets get the other players in the game #Make your moves Romi #You can turn it all around

A beautiful collage again Gan!

I thought there were far too many things happening today- and nearly all seemed hyper- right from Ruhi, ishita, Toshi, Raman, Rinki, Romi etc... It was a HYPEPISODE😆

Edited:

Still no laptop, so ignore the lack of sense (not that I make much usually), punctuation and gifs/emoticons.

Coming to the episode - kind of a downer after the emotional high of the past episode. No touching scenes or anything with real depth as far as the three main characters are concerned.

Raman's anger, Ruhi's tears and Ishita's consoling - almost seemed like a complete flashback to correctly a year ago.
However, Raman is far more empathetic, Ishita understands him far better and there was some maturity in the fight, so there's the silver lining. Also, there was a sort of realism - all of us have been shouted at by our parents for messing up their work or just something important. Ruhi and Raman's relationship nuances could be explored to depth in this track - not much hope but #sometimes magic happens #happy to be surprised.
Adi and Ishita scene was touching in a more subtle way. Starting from the beginning when Adi mistakes Ishita for his mother and she corrects him - almost a symbolism for the kid's life, wasn't it? The one he considers his mother, his everything, is someone whose love stands to be conditional while Ishita worries and cares about him as if he were her own. One day, hopefully in the near future, Ishita will correct his wrong beliefs too.
As a general rule of thumb, Adi isn't my favorite character. But today we saw the same kid I felt for the first time - the one who cries with and consoles his mother when she is broken after her sangeet ceremony. Unconditionally supporting his mother in front if whom he considers an outsider. On some level, as a kid who has seen so much and done so much evil, it doesn't resonate with his character that he fails to see his mother's shortcomings, he rather simply ignores them and dons rose colored glasses. But today or tomorrow he will have to take them off and come to terms with her actual priorities. Shagun does not lack in love for Adi, she lacks in giving him the correct place in her life. As an answer to someone's question on this thread - no, Shagun does love Adi in her own way, but her materialistic needs take a forefront when it comes to being a real mother. In her own convoluted way, she is possessive about both her kids, but when it comes to choosing between them and her wants, she chooses the latter. Which is where she fails - examples in yeaterday's post of mine.

Back to the episode - Adi's address of Ishita with respect and the faltering thank you was probably the only scene that spoke today. It set the tone for their relationship's future - Ishita is going to always put the breadcrumbs for their relationship and it's onto Ado to either grasp it with eagerness like he did the food today or be slightly confused and hesitating to do so as he was with his gratitude. Either way, these two are going to move on in a positive direction if today is anything to go by. #highhopes #optimismFTW #puttar's genes will start working someday

Loads of things happened later on which made little sense on their own but set tunes for the future nusic to be played.
- Ishita-Rinki-Diya of MJHT whose name I don't remember on the show
- Romi's boycott aandolan reaching his breaking point and spilling over of #GKC no more #swimmers have drowned truth
- Raman's office drama which seems abrupt because till yesterday Raman was the decision making authority. Suddenly he is treated like a second-grade employee. #RKB is now Raman Kumar Bechara.

Either way, Ishita is going to be the focus for all these scenarios - as Rinki and Romi's sister-in-law, as Mihir's sister, as Raman's wife, as Toshi's daughter-in-law and Adi and Ruhi's mother. Let's hope they don't mess up her character will clearing up the mess they've made with so many tracks.

I don't understand the lack of IshRa scenes after the whole anniversary thing...which couple just goes to sleep after so much of drama and emotional rollercoasters in a day? I miss the days when we would see the end to each and every day as they slept on the far ends of the room and reflect on their relationship. Not asking them to #getdowntoit, but would a little emotional intimacy in the confines of their bedroom really kill the CVs? #stupidity has a limit.

DT looks lovely in her floral blouses and less glittery sarees. At least to me.

More later because my hands are tored of typing on the phone.

Originally posted by: krishy13

Haven't watched the episode thoroughly but here are my quick points...

• Looks like they are trying to undo the damage of criminal Adi, which is good and way more relatable. I just wish Raman was given a larger role in bringing Adi back to the Bhallas.
• I hope this track of Raman's office tensions isn't stretched like gum and goes down the stereotypical route.
• So far - the build up of this office track is relatable, because we often do express our office/school frustrations on our loved ones.
• There's so much potential to this track - hopefully it shows the reemergence of RKB the shrewd businessman. I'm getting tired of Bheegi Billi Raman at work. I want the regular presence of the smart businessman who's CEO of the year, President of the Delhi Entrepreneur's Association, & Head of the Asian Business Group. I hope the CVs haven't forgotten in a jiffy that they gave him all these respectable titles!

#Puttar needs a giant bear hug, and...