Originally posted by: FantasiaNarnia
Sorry I cannot comment on your collages today Ganbarun.IF is acting buggish on my mobile,regardless of whether I use the desktop or mobile version.Can't view pics in any post:((
My two cents on today's seemingly train-wrecked episode:
"Once I did bad,and that I heard 'ever.Twice I did good and that I heard never."
"This was the most unkindest cut of all." - Julius Caesar
"Just when I thought I was out,they pull me back in" - The Godfather 3
A lot has been said about Toshi and her face-off with Ishita about laying off Adi,tortured soul that he is.Sexism in its most detestable form.Nothing new.She allowed Raman to wallow in grief for six years,to the point where he did not acknowledge his daughter.In her clan,men have the luxury of psychological breakdowns. Women just have to suck it up and deal with it.Case in point,Raman's ill-treatment of Ruhi during the DNA track.
But the real point to have noted from this awful interaction was dealt with in a blink and miss manner.For the first time,there was mutiny on the bounty.Ishita looked positively thunderous.No lowering of the eyes,no simpering or whimpering "But Mummyji...".Ishita is my pet character,because she is the underdog.One of my pet grouses with her character sketch,however,is the lack of animosity openly displayed towards the rest of her in-laws, even when she is wronged.It was always Raman who bore the brunt.I found that unrealistic. Which professional,modern woman of today totally brushes aside her MIL calling her a lady of the night(Param incident)?Ishita is now finding her bearings as a DIL,and therefore she is digging in her heels.That look of rebellion said "This is my home now too MIL dear,and sorry to say,but I find your approach to parenting a whole load of horse-sh*t.You've basically raised a bunch of orang-utans in human form.And you're doing the same with Adi".
In years to come,she will be vindicated when Ruhi grows up well-adjusted and educated,perhaps choosing a noble profession such as medicine.Adi will be a flunker like Romi,getting work only at Raman's company,and then embezzling to fund his drug habit.By then,the Bhallas would have worked through the entire list of shrinks in Delhi,to help Adi with his 'trauma'.Takeaway from this:Ishita is not going to run,so bring it on Shagun!
Raman,already petulant at having his reconciliation efforts thwarted by the light of his life,goes ballistic when he finds Adi missing.He hurls illogical,hurtful accusations at Ishita,left,right and centre.A day ago,he thought he had all his ducks in a row,love,a stable family and the final missing piece in his jigsaw puzzle of life,Adi.He was living his dream,but he was waiting to exhale.He was choosing to overlook the impending disaster that would result from the horrendous living arrangements he had covertly winked at.He knew that the domino effect had to take place,and hoping against hope it would happen later rather than sooner.And when it did,he panicked.
He accused her of negligence, he said she couldn't handle children.She couldn't make head or tail of this,and with each blow her soul was crushed by his cruelty.Her anger is being delayed,and resurface it will,after she is made to apologise to Shagun.Right now,she is trying to find order in chaos yet again.
All his accusations were his projections onto Ishita.You see,our man-boy has done it again.He has found a new goddess to worship.Years ago,it was Shagun's astounding beauty that held him in awe,that an average geek like him could breathe the same air as her.Today he is hot,successful,rich.He does not need a trophy wife.So when he fell in love again,it had to be for a reason.And she had to be better than him.Ishita was pure of heart,yes.Kind,yes.But most importantly,she appeared to be an alchemist in human relationships, something he was not.And this time around,his affections were reciprocated, by his very own Madonna.He had won her love,and she would wave her magic wand and transform the untransformeable,Adi.Just as she had done with Ruhi,his father,Simmi.
While the other forum members found his repetitive praise of her over the past few weeks tedious and unconvincing, I began to see hints of "Mommy-worship" developing.A weird obsession with hints of Oedipus thrown in."Mommy,only you can fix this,I know you can."
Today he was bawling like a baby."Mommy,how could you let this happen to me?You were supposed to take care of my most beloved toy,and you didn't.You were supposed to have banished the evil witch from our kingdom,and made Adi fall in love with me,like you did for Ruhi.I became a better person for you,why didn't you fulfill my remaining wish?No don't come with me,I know I am being horrible to you,but I can't watch Adi do it as well.You will still love me,undeserving wretch that I am.How will I live with myself knowing that I sacrificed you at the altar of my complex,unreasonable desires?"
In her twilight years,when Ishita looks back at this moment,she will realise that she was not betrayed,but merely that she had chosen to love someone who would always be the weaker link in such situations.She was his Knight in shining armour,you see,not the other way around.
In his golden years,Raman will realise that Ishita,gentle soul that she was,did not possess the midas touch after all.She cleared the debris so that he could see the love that was already there.She could not conjure up unconditional emotions in Adi,as Raman would always be a means to an end for him.
Jodha Akbar
Anupamaa
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