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Posted: 10 years ago

"What is home? My favorite definition is "a safe place," a place where one is free from attack, a place where one experiences secure relationships and affirmation. It's a place where people share and understand each other. Its relationships are nurturing. The people in it do not need to be perfect; instead, they need to be honest, loving, supportive, recognizing a common humanity that makes all of us vulnerable."
~Gladys Hunt

~Updated
I have a busy day ...as tomorrow is Thanksgiving here. So I'll not be able to update with thoughts...I liked this scene as it talks about what family is and this couple live their lives for their family so it made complete sense that they were there to support one of their loved ones at her lowest point in life. And support also means showing them the wrong...I liked how Raman pointed out to Mihika that though her heart was in the right place her method was wrong. And then reminded her what she needs to worry about, her family and rest doesn't matter.

Notes:

Hallelujah ! Ashok is half ka🤬a and he drugged Mihika only to have the hotel stuff remove her clothes 😈🤣.. So Mihika is pavitra! Sorry about the snark .. I was 🤣 during the episode...
Here goes another woman... as soon as we saw her brain cells active...Simmo now..I hope her truth finding mission is not another single woman mission
"have you lost it?" is the only reaction I have to Shagun's melodrama...if she was so sure that Ashok was not at fault, why didn't she get married?

Edited by GanBarunFan - 10 years ago

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Drishti Maurya

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Posted: 10 years ago

Coz in soaps they cant show a lady whose Pavitrata is not intact, na! All the forum was in uproar about what happened to her etc,etc but I had kind of guessed this will happen!

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Eyes-Wide-Shut

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Posted: 10 years ago

"The Chinese use two brush strokes to write the word 'crisis.' One brush stroke stands for danger; the other for opportunity. In a crisis, be aware of the danger--but recognize the opportunity." - JFK

There's something like a line of gold thread running through a man's words when he talks to his daughter, and gradually over the years it gets to be long enough for you to pick up in your hands and weave into a cloth that feels like love itself." - John Gregory Brown

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So basement flooded and all day was spent trying to deal with that issue and fetching family from the airport but I had to come and update because as Bhai puts it:

To save time I am gonna focus on the main points that touched me.

1) I loved Raman and his talk with Mihika, I saw him as a protective yet stern father in him. I had seen a similar side of him when he had gone over to talk to Sarika about the preggers situation. Raman like a father imparted wisdom today, he said stop crying, what's done is done, you did the crime now you do the time and we will help during your time of crisis. So chin up and get going with life, no point sitting here sulking. I saw a such an endearing father in him, stern yet full of love. Puttar ji tussi cha gaye 😳..that quote above about the gold thread in every father daughter conversation is so apt for puttar when she talks to Ruhi, Mihika and Sarika, puttar is just perfect

2) While Raman was being stern with Mihika, the missus was ever so supportive and was showering Mihika with all her love and comfort, holding her, soothing her, you know being all motherly! These two make such an adorable team, and I love Ishita even though I don't say it enough, she is a woman that possesses unfathomable resilience, and unmeasurable love. She showers her love on her family and stands next to her loved ones being their strength, she is the yin to puttar's yang! ❤️

3) Oh Shagun 😲, I do not even know where to begin with this one. She is like a black hole in space that just sucks life out of everything! And just like we don't understand black holes we don't understand Shagun. I wanna write more about this character but I am short on time today so i'll pass lol

4) Adi 😭, this poor kid needs guidance and good role models ASAP but unfortunately he will be the pawn in his mom's life to move the drama forward. Adi doesn't know better so I do feel bad for him but my heart goes out to Puttar because he knows the truth. And in spite of knowing that his beloved son is headed towards destruction he can't do anything about it, knowing what the problem is and still being helpless is worse then being ignorant. I trust the missus to handle puttar's vulnerability about his son, and I am excited how they will take this forward.

5) Mihir-Mihika: It was so sad to see Mhir broken and Mihika in distress, poor babies are hurting. Of course Mihika is naive to think she can take on the cunning trio and landed herself and everyone around her in deep trouble. They have guidance and love around them to see them through this crisis, and it is a welcome change to see a supportive family on Indian TV!

6)The Bhallas: Now that Simmi and Toshji are all pro Ishita, it will be interesting to see what happens if and when Shagun enters the Bhalla household or if Raman decides to leave Ishita for her 'good', I am really interested to see how portray this on screen.

Okayz I have rambled on enough, i'll stop here. Apologies for a reply that probably reads like meeting minutes 😆 and I am not in the right frame of mind to pick up a song, if I had to pick a song to reflect my feelings right now... I would pick 'Atta majhi satakli' 🤣

Happy thanksgiving to all my American friends, enjoy time with family, get fat eating delicious food, and booze up 😃...also happy shopping!

Edited by Eyes-Wide-Shut - 10 years ago

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Coco

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Posted: 10 years ago

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~Families are the compass that guide us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter ~Brad Henry

~"Each time we make a choice we are either moving toward freedom and prosperity or bondage and misery." ~ Cameron C. Taylor, Does Your Bag Have Holes? 24 Truths That Lead to Financial and Spiritual Freedom

Gan beautiful quote, collage, and post! I know its really hard to find anything intelligent to talk about lately in YHM but you always nail the coffin! I give you an standing ovation for that!

(sorry really obsessed with Harry Potter)

Today's episode was not as horrible as yesterdays. I actually enjoyed watching the family scenes. Whether it was Ishra-Mikiha or the Iyers-Bhalla scene. It was heart warming to see these families coming together in the hard times. I love how the dialogues werent OTT either. Ammas reaction was quite natural of Mihika and her dialogues made sense.

I actually loved the advice Raman gave to Mihika. How true it was. Her intentions maybe pure but her way of doing things are wrong. I also liked how he said face the consequences of your decisions. Who cares what the media things, they change colours faster than chameleons but your family will be their to support you👏. I love how Ishita was siding with Raman. I always wanted to see Ishra as parents tackling Ruhi's problems together but oh well I got see that with Mihika. The beauty of Ishra is their love of family. Even when they were not in love their were still connected because family came first for them. Their marriage was for family reasons. Ruhi need a mother, and Ishita need a child, and Raman need his daughter, and together because of their needs and desire they became a family. I remember in Ishita's speech at school she said something along those lines. At that moment Ishita and Raman may have not realized it but both of them were looking for a life companion too. They maybe poles apart but because they share the same values their journey in life will be easier for them. Now their unconditional love and support speaks volumes for their enemies. Their silent understanding dangerously says more than their spoken words. Shagun may have accused them for not having a relationship but their relationships is stronger than her so called six year physical love they both share.

I use to wonder why Ishita is casual and understanding towards Adi but then I understood because she knows how important family is. When Subbu left her, her family was her biggest support system. They helped her move on with life. Same with Raman! Same with Ruhi! They had supports systems because of their families but Adi has never had that. And I am not talking about Shagun's random motherly instincts she gets for him(barely). Adi really needs family support and maybe him and his witch of mother moving in with the Bhallas would be a positive experience for him but a torturous experience for the viewers.😆 Maybe he will see what a mother is and the importance of family.

Now coming to the ladies! They all looked very pretty during the awful marriage track. I was happy to see Simmi have a change in her hairstyle although her clothes were gaudy. Her hairstyle really suited the actress playing Simmi (sorry forgot her name).

No comments about pysco Shagun scene. My mom told if you dont have anything nice to say dont say it. Dont even want to mention the four🤬

I know we are not getting any romantic Ishra's scenes but I decided to dedicate poems and quotes to them anyway. Here is today's poem that I dedicate to my beautiful Ishra:

~Basking in the warmth of your smile
And the music of your laugh
I feel your tenderness
And your oh so witty style

I don't know why god blessed me
With such a friend as you
But it makes my pleasure complete
And very happy too

The way you always know me
And exactly what to do
When my loneliness gets me down
And I'm so very blue
The way you see into my soul
And looked behind my eyes
And I don't have to hide my feelings
And put on a disguise

With you I learned to trust
And as I person I have grown
Who could have possibly told me
How could I have known
That you would come in to my life
And my beauty would start to bloom
And like a pretty butterfly
Come out of my cocoon

To share your tender heart
The warmness of your smile
The courage of your wisdom
For these I'd walk for miles

To be thinking of a time
When you'd no longer be there
For me to gaze upon in delight
And all our feelings share
Is not acceptable to me
Because in my life
Is where I want you to be
Always and forever.
~Freida Martinez

PS. I always forget that Thanksgiving in the states is in November! Happy Thanksgiving to my American friends on this forum!😊😃

Edited by cocololo123 - 10 years ago

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Payal

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Posted: 10 years ago

Gan, beautiful collage, and the quote is perfection. I know you're busy; thank you for taking time out to create this space for us.

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"What is family? They were the people who claimed you. In good, in bad, in parts or in whole, they were the ones who showed up, who stayed there, regardless." - Sarah Dessen

"When you choose an action, you choose the consequences of that action." - Lois McMaster

"We all make choices, but in the end, our choices make us." - Ken Levine

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I am beginning to sound like a broken record when it comes to Adi, but that 20 second scene got to me today, and my heart went out to him. As I've said before, amidst the wedding drama, this child has been completely overlooked. I understand that Shagun is dealing with her own heartbreak and emotions, but it seems very unnatural to me that a mother would not hear the pleas of her child and console him at a time like this. Let's give her the benefit of the doubt and say she's not in a proper state of mind, and needs time to pull herself together. But then, if the Bhalla clan are always so concerned about Adi, why was someone not there to put their arms around the kid? If Shagun's life is coming crashing down, so is Adi's...why is Adi an afterthought for the next morning? Am I asking too much of a daily soap? I'm interested to see how the consequences of his parents' actions will continue to effect this kid. I hope Raman-Ishita are able to gain custody soon..but before that happens, I want Raman to start rebuilding his relationship with his son (with Ishita's help, of course). When Adi walks into the Bhalla house, I don't want him to have an iota of a doubt that he belongs there, they are his family, and he is loved.

Sorry for the Adi rant. Also, where is Ru? I miss her.

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Today was about Shagun & Mihika both facing the consequences of their actions, but what we often fail to realize is that our actions also effect those around us, the ones we love and the ones that love us.

Mihika did what she did with good intention, but what is said about good guys finishing first is seldom true. Not in a world where peoples ideals and morals can be bought, where lies and deceit are easier than truth. Sometimes the goodness of a person makes them unable to see the bad in others. Often the good is taken advantage of. We've seen Ishita fall victim to this time and again. Today, Mihika falls victim of the same. She did what she did to protect her fiance's family, and in doing so, unintentionally broke her own. In an attempt to protect Mihir & Shagun's relationship, she put her own relationship with him on the line.

I look forward to seeing how their relationship grows from this juncture. Yes, grows. MiMi remind me a lot of IshRa in a way; this is the first time this couple has faced such a hardship in their relationship, and as long as the TRP gods don't mess it up, I have a feeling they will emerge strengthened. Thus far, we've seen them be patient and supportive towards each other. I have faith in the strength of their relationship...with a bit of faith in each other, and IshRa's guidance, they'll overcome.

As for Shagun, it's as I said yesterday, she's finally having to face the consequences of her actions 6 years ago head on. Today we saw Shagun breaking under the pressure of her guilty conscious. But with her, as usual, its one part regret, two parts vanity. In the end, she focused on the humiliation, and the untimely obstacle when she was finally so close to getting what she's wanted all these years. The Khanna name, the status...or, so close to getting what she's wanted recently - the family, and sense of contentment that RKB has finally found.

It will be interesting to see which path Shagun chooses for herself, though I cannot be surprised at her going crawling back to the lies and deceit; taking the easy way out. As a woman, I hope Shagun learns to have a bit more self respect, but, well, she is of the kind who like to have their cake and eat it too. So much rests on what she does next...her decisions now will weigh not only on herself and Adi, but also IshRa, and perhaps MiMi as well.

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I don't have much to say about IshRa's unspoken support of one another. Just moments ago, they were accused of not sharing the relationship of a husband and wife. Yet, here they are, in true husband and wife form, standing united, to shoulder the problems their family is facing - together; coming together in a time of crisis and standing as pillars of reassurance and support for their family. As we said before, a marriage goes far beyond a physical relationship. It is about working together through the good and bad, to create a nurturing environment for your family. As for these two, the beauty of their relationship lies in their unrelenting support and understanding of each other. They're not a 'you' or 'me' anymore. They are a 'we', an 'us'. They don't require words or justification. They simply are.

Side Note: Loved the way my RKB consoled Mihika today as if he were speaking to his child, showing her the error of her ways, while simultaneously giving her strength to face the consequences - assuring her that IshRa would stand by her. Melted my heart. Have I expressed lately how much I heart him? I do. 😳

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Short on time today.

Love,
P

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Bhuvana

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Posted: 10 years ago

Aarrgghh im so sorry for such delayed posts!! Bad time zone issues!!

And need I say again! Wonderful pictures👏👏👏

"That's what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you're not so lovable." Deb Caletti

And that's exactly what we saw yesterday!! Mihika was wrong on so many levels!! She didn't trust anyone - not her family - not the one she loved and she fell flat on her face as a result of that.. Yet when she fell, the only hands that held her were the ones who love her. Love her despite all the wrong things she has done.

And the wonderful couple that Ishita Raman are, did what was best - while one was being the one to point out her mistakes - and rightly so, the other was being the calm loving and reassuring one! I for one love love and love the way this man - Raman has spoken to each of the women in troubled times. To Sarika he was bang on, to Mihika he was bang on and to Ishita as well he was bang on - when he used both the reassuring as well as the slightly stronger words to calm her and comfort her..

And I also really liked the Vandu scene as well.. The way she was sushing her.. As a mother, Mrs Iyer was right in her angst but we all know no mother can remain angry for long! It was lovely to see Toshiji pitching in as well.. All in all the whole episode yesterday was quite a family day!

But I think the Mihir solitude and FBs had to be my favourite!! Poor guy.. How broken he must be.. For having done only right and no wrong - he got a completely undeserved punishment. But the darling that he is, he will be the one to bring Mihika out of this depression just the way his Raman bhai calmed his Jhansi ki Rani down!!😳

PS: Brilliant brilliant posts Doc and Payal 👏

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Anu

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Posted: 10 years ago

We need to start focusing on the little victories now huh? We certainly won't have big moments to be happy about for a while it seems...😕

Res- be back once i clear my mind of this weird sense of doom with some happy sappy ISHRA FF moments!😉

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Terrific quote and I love the opposing ISHRA shots in your collage, so beautiful.

I know that most people will be focusing on the ISHRA unity and Miku today, but for me there were two other relationships who had defining moments on this episode.

Firstly, today we saw how much of a strong bond the Iyer-Bhalla family has developed. No longer two families,no longer divided by culture or language they came together to support one of their own. In silent support they stood by their family, all of them, not just ISHRA. At the beginning of YHM Ruhi was the one that bonded both ISHRA and the Bhalla-Iyer clan. Today, with Ruhi no where in sight, they came together because that's where they wanted to be, that's where they needed to be. This is family.

And secondly, Simmi. Today, the last remnants of Simmi's illusion of Param were shattered. She realized how much she has been fooled and has finally come out of the shadows in which her true love for her false husband have held her for so long. Hopefully, the upcoming track will give us a strong independent Simmi taking her life back and standing on her own against Param. I admit I am one of those that would love a Simmi- Abhi pairing because, mainly, she deserves it. She deserves to be loved and cherished and adored as much as she did Param. Like Raman, she is damaged by the one she loved , and like him she needs to know that she is loved , desired and wanted and is simply more than enough for the person she loves. And whether it's Abhi or someone else, this needs to come once she has gained some independence.

Today we saw three women react to the reality of their situations- Simmi, Mihika and Shagun. One decided throw away her illusions, wipe her tears and move forward; the other bought into the illusion that was presented to her [by Ashok] and decided to finally accepted the support of her family and the last decided to wallow in her own self pity still holding onto her illusions and lock out the one person that has always been by her side [Adhi].

All three women are connected to RKB, who stands strong supporting and supported by the strongest woman in his life- Ishita.

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Remya

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Posted: 10 years ago

Wonderful post, brilliant quote and beautiful collage Gan...

"To us, family means putting your arms around each other and being there."-- Barbara Bush

Today, YHM is all about two distinct depiction----the first one being building up a family, the other being breaking a family. Today, all the people themselves showed where do they stand; whether in the part of breaking a family or on the part of building up a family. Today, all was shown their actual stance in the tale of YHM.

Mihika, today was blamed by Shagun that she has broke the family that she was building up. But was that a family that she has been building up? No, that was not a family. That was an illusionary picture of family full of deceiving, possession,jealousy and selfishness... that she wanted to show to the world outside...nothing else. Shagun tried to build a family with Ashok by deceiving her husband, children, in laws and her own brother-----by deceiving her Family. A family breaker herself. Mihika, on the other hand was wholeheartedly trying to build one...that too to a woman who dint even know the value of a family.

Ishita, who has build her own family, was thrown to the midst of these blames of breaking up a family. She was the one who joined the Punjabi's and Iyers. All the others expect Ruhi and Shravan were at war cursing one another. Ishita alone settled it. The two distinct families were united. United in such a way that, any problem can't make them fail.

Today, Mihika was not all alone. Everyone stood as a support system; if it was in some other family she would have been thrown out. The prediction of Ashok would have come true then. This man only knows to break family as Shagun...A PERFECT PAIR indeed...

Mihika was shown the right and the wrong then and there...the first duty of the family...what Shagun lacked...

Today, Param, Ashok,Shagun, Suraj, Tanusree------was family breakers.

Raman, Ishita, Iyers and Bhalla's were family builders...they composed themselves and supported each other stood for the family.

In this chaos of all, two people were there who dint know what a family is----Mani and Adithya. The actual truth of their marriage was only known to three people( Ishita was having only partial knowledge, I assume)...Mani, Adi and Mihika.

Mihika knew what a family was. So, she tried to save Shagun. Mani and Adi dint know what a family was...they desperately wanted Shagun to get married to Ashok.

Today, Mihika's dialogues to Shagun about she was trying to help her by showing the true colours of Ashok is for Mani. What Ishita has started in the clinic about marriage, Mihika pulled a little longer to him. What is a marriage, what is a family and what should be a family.

Now, next is Adi to understand what is a family, what should be a family and what is a marriage.

Once again Gan, wonderful wonderful collage and post.

Edited by remya1990 - 10 years ago

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sravvu74

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Posted: 10 years ago

Love u n ur post Gan..!! seriously I hated the whole episode so much that I lost all the positive vibes from Raman-Ishu-Mihikha scene.After seeing ur collage I feel like going and watching it again...

Love you for your positivity...🤗

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Megan

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Posted: 10 years ago

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The collage and the quote is ⭐️⭐️

Really love the quote..

One quote from me too:

Family isn't always blood. Its the people in your life who want you in theirs; the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what.

Thanks for the PM...

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