Originally posted by: abhilasha_dream
I have a question for all the supporters of Ishita who always hide behind the veil stating that Ishita has done everything for Raman and so she is pure and should be given leeway whereas Raman who is doubting her character and mis-behaved y'day should be flaked.
I would request everyone to put themselves in Ishita's place and do those actions and then think.
Ishita's actions :
1) Talking to her friend for innumerable hours. ( if u r on phone with a friend even of the same gender forget about in-laws, doesn't ur own parents scold u for ignoring family and always being on phone ?)
Yes but I don't talk to either gender "chupke se" and she hadn't been either. It was one time she didn't want Raman to know but if I remember correctly, she did say she'd call him back as her hubby was being a baby at the table. So Raman could've put two and two together, no? Anyways, if he has such a problem, why doesn't he say anything. All he does is taunt; even five year olds don't get paid attention for doing this so why should mr asia head?
2) Changing frnds name in ur contact list so that no one catches u. (This is done by usually all the girls to hide their love's name from family)
This is her biggest mistake. I'll give you this.
3) Going on lunches, dinners, coffee frequently ( ur parents again scolds u for spending too much time with one friend and not giving time to the family)
She is not hiding. Why isn't someone scolding her? If Raman has a problem, then he needs to say something and taunting does not count.
4) Calling ur friend in the middle of the night for help without even informing ur family about the problem (family will be greatful that ur friend helped but also be hurt at the same time that their own child does not trust them or is not comfortable enough to share their problems with them)
When she did it the first time when looking for Raman, I made a post about it myself. I did not find Mani wrong; I found Ishita wrong as she could've called anyone. Her husband was missing so she had the right to look for him. This time I feel it is justified as the current situation/stress on the family and Raman was out of it. Lets not forget it is the middle of the night and everyone is already mad at Romi, sati savitri couldn't disturb her father-in-law at this time could she?Raman was the first and best option but he was tun so she went with her friend (Bala was unavailable at his own house with her kid).
5) listening to u saying - "I love you" and confessing to leave family for friend's sake ( my family would definitely confront me for the same)
NO! She does clarify herself but Raman missed that part! He should've confronted her but he didn't. he got caught up in another misunderstanding that he refused to confront fearing for Ruhi and for himself, that he would lose Ishita completely.
Usually all the above points are done when one has a boyfriend / girlfriend. Hasn't Ishita done all to raise doubt even in ur own family's mind lest her husband ?
Raise doubt, sure. But even when one has a boyfriend/girlfriend, the parents confront the kids, not go crazy . Raman jumping to conclusions is alright but his actions towards that suspicion and conclusion is WRONG.
If Ishita would have informed Raman about the reason she is meeting and even then Raman would doubt her, it would be wrong but without saying anything the actions of her are such that anybody would doubt her character.
Again, he wants to doubt her, that is fine. but he didn't do crap about it. He waited till he couldn't take it in anymore and went almost as far as Param did!
It's a very famous saying - "A person's dignity is in their own hands, as their behaviour and action in front of others makes it."
You are responsible for your own actions- is also another famous saying
If people are questioning Ishita on her character then its Ishita's own behaviour which has brought it upon her. She denying Raman by stating that she will not give him a character certificate is also wrong, as Raman is not asking her to showcase her purity to the whole world, just in the privacy of their room between the two.
He finally asks for clarification in a drunker stupor! Sure, he was "sober" a little while later but that does not erase what he did; hurt her self-respect and dignity! I wouldn't give him a character certificate either!
There are many times, a parent also questions the child on their chastity (if they are in a relationship). Does a child not negate their doubt or do they simply walk off stating - this statement shows ur trust on me and since u don't trust me, I do not need to give u any character certificate. ( yes! We get hurt by such statements of our parents but we do assure them of our chastity, after marriage, one is confined to answer their spouse (not always but once, yes), which Ishita is refusing, so is she right ?
If my parents beat me up before questioning "my chastity" then yes I would! At least initially. I would need some time to gather it all in, especially when they've never hit me before in my life. But lets not forget that Raman is not HER FATHER he is the FATHER OF HER CHILD, whom she married so she can be with. He never forgets to remind her of this either. In his words, they can never have a relationship... So on which base is he asking her these questions after being so harsh with her?
I know, I am going to be badly bashed for this post but ppl plz be a Lil gentle...😊
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