Question for Ishita supporters

I have a question for all the supporters of Ishita who always hide behind the veil stating that Ishita has done everything for Raman and so she is pure and should be given leeway whereas Raman who is doubting her character and mis-behaved y'day should be flaked.

Originally posted by: abhilasha_dream

I have a question for all the supporters of Ishita who always hide behind the veil stating that Ishita has done everything for Raman and so she is pure and should be given leeway whereas Raman who is doubting her character and mis-behaved y'day should be flaked.

I would request everyone to put themselves in Ishita's place and do those actions and then think.

Ishita's actions :

1) Talking to her friend for innumerable hours. ( if u r on phone with a friend even of the same gender forget about in-laws, doesn't ur own parents scold u for ignoring family and always being on phone ?)

2) Changing frnds name in ur contact list so that no one catches u. (This is done by usually all the girls to hide their love's name from family)

3) Going on lunches, dinners, coffee frequently ( ur parents again scolds u for spending too much time with one friend and not giving time to the family)

4) Calling ur friend in the middle of the night for help without even informing ur family about the problem (family will be greatful that ur friend helped but also be hurt at the same time that their own child does not trust them or is not comfortable enough to share their problems with them)

5) listening to u saying - "I love you" and confessing to leave family for friend's sake ( my family would definitely confront me for the same)

Usually all the above points are done when one has a boyfriend / girlfriend. Hasn't Ishita done all to raise doubt even in ur own family's mind lest her husband ?

If Ishita would have informed Raman about the reason she is meeting and even then Raman would doubt her, it would be wrong but without saying anything the actions of her are such that anybody would doubt her character.

It's a very famous saying - "A person's dignity is in their own hands, as their behaviour and action in front of others makes it."

If people are questioning Ishita on her character then its Ishita's own behaviour which has brought it upon her. She denying Raman by stating that she will not give him a character certificate is also wrong, as Raman is not asking her to showcase her purity to the whole world, just in the privacy of their room between the two.

There are many times, a parent also questions the child on their chastity (if they are in a relationship). Does a child not negate their doubt or do they simply walk off stating - this statement shows ur trust on me and since u don't trust me, I do not need to give u any character certificate. ( yes! We get hurt by such statements of our parents but we do assure them of our chastity, after marriage, one is confined to answer their spouse (not always but once, yes), which Ishita is refusing, so is she right ?

I know, I am going to be badly bashed for this post but ppl plz be a Lil gentle...😊

Dont follow ishita plan in ur life warna gharwale dhakke mar kar nikal denge. cvs are giving wrong information to the society. Mahaaan ishita is sooo pure. Not even ishita whole iyer family are son of GANGA MAIYAAA.

what a post..perfect...👏👏

completely agree with you.

one day she feels raman should give her his pain. now when he has blurted her behavior has become worst. she is just spitting poison on him. that is even worse than raman has treated her when he had hated most.

Yes Raman has been wrong in this marriage but he is not the only person wrong, Ishita too is equally responsible for his insecurities and doubts.

I'm already badly bashed for pointing it out more openly in a post earlier .😆
I sympathize with you in advance for your upcoming bashing.🤣
Here is my one's link: http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4208298

You are perfectly right...and you have only stated FACTS...thanks for having the guts to say it👏

If my better-half is doing all the things that Ishita is doing and I am aware of it - more than being jealous, I would suspect that he is having an affair. I am not against a women and a man being best friends - but involving a friend in personal household matters when your own family members are unaware of it - is just not right. The only time a friend would be approached is if you knew he had the resources to help when your own family doesn't but at the same time, you shouldn't let a friend make decisions on behalf of your family (as Mani did with Romi and Sarika). There are boundaries, and there always will be especially if you are married. It's about understanding and keeping to them that's important.

Originally posted by: ThruMyEyez-Nita

If my better-half is doing all the things that Ishita is doing and I am aware of it - more than being jealous, I would suspect that he is having an affair. I am not against a women and a man being best friends - but involving a friend in personal household matters when your own family members are unaware of it - is just not right. The only time a friend would be approached is if you knew he had the resources to help when your own family doesn't but at the same time, you shouldn't let a friend make decisions on behalf of your family (as Mani did with Romi and Sarika). There are boundaries, and there always will be especially if you are married. It's about understanding and keeping to them that's important.