Lovely post Kri.. 👏👏👏
Frankly I have been appalled at the outrage on both the characters over the last few days.. I'm gonna let myself write slightly more than a few words today! I hope you don't mind..😳
Raman is a man who wouldn't even bother saying thank you to a neighbour unless pointed out.
Ishita is a woman who would even say sorry to a kid if it means avoiding a problem!
Raman is an impulsive man who wouldn't think twice before getting an old couple arrested without looking beyond the top layer of a problem
Ishita is a sorted calm woman who would always think through how her actions could/would bear result before doing something! (She did think and know what would happen even when she brought Shagun home)
Raman and Ishita stand for what is right but their ways are always different. They are poles apart in nature and yet they are very similar in thought!
Raman is insecure. Of his past, of himself. He can't tolerate being compared to another man. Even if that man happens to be her jeeju. He was irked then - when he was yet to realise his feelings for her. He was irked when he thought she wasn't over her past. Then too he hadn't realised his feelings! But he was upset at the thought. But he braved his fears and asked - He asked her if she was happy in the marriage! And he was happy when she told him she had left her past behind!
Ishita is not confident. Of herself, her past. She can't believe she can be loved unconditionally. She can't tolerate the one man hopeful of giving her that love giving importance to anyone else (Shagun is already a big permanent name she's having to live with). He described a girl of his dreams one day. She was irked then - when she was yet to realise her feelings. She was irked again when someone from the past came up and claimed to have been in a relationship. But she didn't ask even then. She cried silently. But he asked again - if she was insecure of her position being taken. She refutes it outright and says she has no doubts about her position with a big smile!
Fast forward a little.. Now they both know how much the other means to them! But their insecurities are intact and so they are yet to muster courage to confront each other and confess.
Enter Mani. Have things changed? NO
She still cares for him, she loves him. He still cares for her, he loves her. And their insecurities intact.
But one thing has changed! What would irk earlier now hurts and hurts deeply! Raman can never tolerate another man's closeness to his wife - that is understandable. And hence the jealousy was fun to watch.
One more thing has changed! EXPECTATIONS! What was non-existent earlier is now there at every step! He expected her to buy him a gift but when he thought it wasn't for him, he exploded. She expected him to trust her and when she thought he didn't she exploded. But now is when it got interesting.. He expected her to be honest with him and when he thought she was lying and hiding he didn't as much as even ask, forget exploding!!
I want to pause here. So yes, Ishita lied.. And it's a BIG mistake agreed - but didn't she lie just a couple of day back when she told him the gift was for Mani? Of course he didn't think it was a lie I understand but he still asked when he felt she was lying while she gave him the gift right? So far, Raman has ALWAYS been upfront in asking her whenever he felt she was hiding something! What stopped him from asking her then n there why she lied now? Instead HE chose to assume! And assumptions can only break never make!
Now from Ishita's point of view.. She has been doing everything right.. She loves her family, does everything for them even at the cost of her health, loves her husband and has gone an extra mile in doing things for him more than once in the past. She now has a friend she can share her troubles with to ensure good for her husband! Why in the right frame of mind like that would a woman EVER suspect her husband of suspecting her???? And she knows he Raman - She even tells her friend that "Raman aise hi hain.. jo bhi dil mein aaya who bol dete hain par bauhat ache hain!" She expects him to ask upfront if anything is troubling him like he always has.. But this time he did NOT!! Cos he was convinced with his assumptions!
Suspicion is a seed that only grows if not uprooted in the beginning. And Raman let his suspicion grow without ever bothering to find out the truth from her! I completely agree and know of his attempt to talk to her but even then in the end he did only draw conclusions based on a half heard conversation!
Now coming to yesterday's episode.. Raman spoke of HAQ. He wanted to show Ishita how to use her right as a wife.. May I ask why this same Raman did NOT use his HAQ as a husband and barge into the conversation between Ishita and mani and ask her upfront WTH she was saying? He could have used his HAQ at anytime.. a) The minute he knew she was lying, b) when he knew Manisha was Mani, c) When Shagun told him about spotting them out somewhere.. But did he?? NO, he chose to drown himself in alcohol along with his well-built insecurities of the past and strong assumptions!
YES Ishita is guilty of lying and unknowingly causing him hurt but whatever she did had a reason that too for his good. But whatever Raman has been doing - he is doing so knowingly and with full intent to do so! Therein lays the difference and the hypocrisy!
If Ishita's mistake was big, his mistake is 10 fold huge! And yesterday he just made an epic blunder of historic proportions! Nothing - absolutely NOTHING can give even a husband any right to force himself even on his wife! He had a problem, he should have asked, yelled, screamed done whatever! But yesterday he tried to hurt the self-respect of a woman! And by his own words - a woman who has taken care of his family and him through tough times.
I have been a RKB fan more often than not cos I believe him to be more closer to reality as a character than Ishita.. But yesterday Ishita was so right! So real! NO woman should ever tolerate such nonsense from any man. Not even her husband. That she was pushing the very man she loves away from her because he was trying to do something without her consent is just the best part of the episode. And kudos to the creatives for showing such a mature scene!!! Even the right man can be wrong sometimes and even the calm woman can erupt sometimes!!!
Absolutely brilliant track and track management. The lighting and the dialogues were just so apt and the acting just made the entire scene that much more powerful. 👏
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Bhuvana
Edited by Ohgod! - 10 years ago
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