I would want both too. It's like wanting the cake and eating it too.
In the case of YHM, come on the couple have not even hit the 1st base, they connect for others (neighbours, family, children) but never for themselves. After so long, we have seen a couple of 'touching' scenes but never a hug with emotion. So, seriously, couple time is needed desperately
More like in a dilemma! *you can't have the cake and eat the cake*
Maybe different circumstances would let you choose easily. like if youve been with your parents for a long time, never spent enough time with your husband, then ofcourse he stands a chance and vice versa