Obsession with First Born - Fail to understand

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Posted: 11 years ago
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I see there are lot of topics floating around the forum related to yesterday's episode and i have read most of the replies .After reading few responses I fail to understand Raman's obsession with first born kid and few people justifying his actions .A child is a child ,how does it matter when she/he was born?I do see few post saying Ruhi or any other kid cannot take Adi's place in Raman's life ..if that is true then they have no right to bring another kid into this world.Every child deserves same kind of love from their parents.It was not Ruhi's fault that she was born second .It was Raman who was eager to have Ruhi .
Even during hospital scene he was remembering Adi's birth nor once did he say anything about Ruhi .I agree that he loves Ruhi but unfortunately he cannot love her as much as he loves Adi and this pains me a lot.She deserves same kind of treatment from her father atleast .It was Raman who wanted to have a second child.I feel she is blessed to have Ishita in her life else she would have never got her parent's love.She is Ishita's daughter and she will always be.

Being his daughter's mother,Ishita deserves some respect from Raman. He knows that Shagun doesn't leave a single chance to insult Ishita but still he gave her the superior feeling by mentioning that it was she who gave him the happiness of being a father .Shagun might have given to birth to his first kid but it also true that she is responsible for snatching Adi his first born from him.How could Raman forgot this.I understand his thank you and sorry but I was unable to understand his other dialogues regarding memories and happiness which only she can give.

My intention was not to offend anyone .I was just sharing my feelings and I would like to clear that I am not Ishra's fan but a normal viewer who likes seeing some sensible stuff on TV and YHM is one serial which hasn't disappointed me.



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Posted: 11 years ago
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That's exactly my point is. Today saying so much to Shagun he proved one point that Adi will always be special compared to Ruhi.Even though he didn't say that but whatever he does proves that. Ruhi and Ishita deserve each other because no one in this world can make them complete,only they both to each other. Raman is a father who is obsessed with first-first feeling, first child first love first ehsaas blah blah...Ishita will get the completeness only from Ruhi and Ruhi will a true parent in the form of Ishita.So better they both nuture their love rather expecting anything from atleast Raman.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Regarding his love for his first child, how is that wrong??? Adi gave him the happiness of being a father... So, he felt that moment to be special... He doesn't hate Ruhi... Also, he's away from Adi which is making him miss Adi more and more...

Regarding Ruhi, even Raman declared his helplessness in his inability to love Ruhi. Now, he's changing but Ruhi was not born out of their love. She was the last nail laid on the coffin of Raman and Shagun's relationship...

Regarding yesterday's scene, it was needed and it is the harsh reality of Raman and Ishita's life... Raman is a divorcee and along with him, Ishita has to accept his past relationship with Shagun. As a wife, it is not easy for Ishita... That was the message given by yesterday's episode. Raman and Ishita are right in their place...


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Posted: 11 years ago
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It matters dear the first child is always precious and the most loving one because it gives the very first experience to parents how to take care of a baby
By the second they gets well matured.
Just for example a first baby going to school the fear etc etc gets lessen when the second one goes as they are already well known that nothing is their to get so nervous

I am my fathers first child and I get pampered more than my bro😆
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: krikumar.91

Regarding his love for his first child, how is that wrong??? Adi gave him the happiness of being a father... So, he felt that moment to be special... He doesn't hate Ruhi... Also, he's away from Adi which is making him miss Adi more and more...

Regarding Ruhi, even Raman declared his helplessness in his inability to love Ruhi. Now, he's changing but Ruhi was not born out of their love. She was the last nail laid on the coffin of Raman and Shagun's relationship...

Regarding yesterday's scene, it was needed and it is the harsh reality of Raman and Ishita's life... Raman is a divorcee and along with him, Ishita has to accept his past relationship with Shagun. As a wife, it is not easy for Ishita... That was the message given by yesterday's episode. Raman and Ishita are right in their place...



👏 Word !! He loves Adi way too much and even Ruhi otherwise he wouldn't have married a girl whom he hated. And a guy who can love his in-laws whole heartedly can fight for the love of his freinds sister [trisha] how can the guy not get obssessed with his own son/daughter. Ofcors he will. He hates Shagun but he is kind hearted he can't see anyone in trouble or pain be it his biggest enemy also

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Posted: 11 years ago
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even if we dont want to believe first child is always a special one... and for raman adi is his lifeline... he was the first one who gave him the joy of being father.. and as for ruhi... he was never a good father for her... as in her he always saw the glimpse of shagun.. who had ruined hs life and taken away adi from him.. he has recently accepted ruhi and started loving her... whereas he has loved adi from past 12 years.. .thats how two situations are different... but that mean he doesn't love ruhi .. no .. he loves her too.. but adi has a special place of his own.. with ruhi he has no memories at all.. and with adi.. all he is left with memories... and as of now ruhi's future is secured because of ishitta.. and adi's situation and unstability of his present and future is always on his mind!!!
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Even I m a parent of 2 kids...and my first one was indeed special till my 2nd one was not born...now both r special for me and I love them equally...I personally don't see any difference in my love for both of my babies...
Raman is definitely obsessed with Adi...otherwise there was no need to say sorry to shagun,...why sorry? She is adi's mother...if this contract is so important for her too...why this drama...she would hav simply called Raman...and told him...why waiting for his call...and all this crying...like world knows what happened...
They had made a mountain out of a mole...in last episode ...
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Actually its not Raman's fault...i can complitely understand and yes first born are always loved...i can understand this also as i saw all this in real life because that time adi was first born of bhalla house...so all loved him...and specially raman...i can complitely understand the fact to have beautifull memories with someone but he thendid something that hurt you and then you hate that person
I have already seen and feel all this in real life but i dont understand why he said "i cant receive this happiness anymore" in real life too i wacth kids who are been grown up by their BT and its her whom they love...but then legally its her parents who have rights and all...and i found this complitely wrong...as i feel it hurted ishita even if she didnt express it...
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Posted: 11 years ago
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first born - this is just Blah!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just to keep the story going and keeping shagun in focus...
every child is special, like they say - your left eye is as important as your right...
if u cant love your 2nd child like first, u have no right to give birth to a 2nd...it is because every child deserves equal love and affection
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Posted: 11 years ago
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When he says Adi is special it dosen't automatically mean Ruhi is less special 😛

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