Ishita needs to know when to stop!! - Page 6

I agree with the thought that Ishita is very judgemental and impulsive by nature.For a moment I would like to pay attention to the kind of circumstances that have propped up before her. Raman refusing to give blood to the very child who has grown up before his eyes as his daughter(when we often hear about a stranger helping another total stranger in cases of emergency for blood just out of humanity),he treating the child with an aversion and pulling and pushing her because of his own insecurities formed by a third person' words,the words that were spoken by Raman in his office and he mocking Ishita for her infertility was disgustful to even watch as a viewer,the nature of Raman to attach a monetary value to everything and every person around him could be seen when he offered money to Ishita to help him in Ruhi' case..Many more incidents could be added over here.The image that Ishita has of Raman is that of a stone hearted man whose present is obsessed with his past and who has made himself nothing but a money earning machine,devoid of any emotions.Everytime the circumstances have given Ishita good enough reasons to stand by her views about Raman.They have just added more fuel to the image that she has formed of him.Now,when do we realise we are wrong in any situation?Its only when we come across something that points out to a flaw in our worldview.Its just a matter of time before Ishita begins to introspect her nature with respect to her habit of forming opinions without any second thoughts or a benefit of doubt.

Originally posted by: aadk

I agree with the thought that Ishita is very judgemental and impulsive by nature.For a moment I would like to pay attention to the kind of circumstances that have propped up before her. Raman refusing to give blood to the very child who has grown up before his eyes as his daughter(when we often hear about a stranger helping another total stranger in cases of emergency for blood just out of humanity),he treating the child with an aversion and pulling and pushing her because of his own insecurities formed by a third person' words,the words that were spoken by Raman in his office and he mocking Ishita for her infertility was disgustful to even watch as a viewer,the nature of Raman to attach a monetary value to everything and every person around him could be seen when he offered money to Ishita to help him in Ruhi' case..Many more incidents could be added over here.The image that Ishita has of Raman is that of a stone hearted man whose present is obsessed with his past and who has made himself nothing but a money earning machine,devoid of any emotions.Everytime the circumstances have given Ishita good enough reasons to stand by her views about Raman.They have just added more fuel to the image that she has formed of him.Now,when do we realise we are wrong in any situation?Its only when we come across something that points out to a flaw in our worldview.Its just a matter of time before Ishita begins to introspect her nature with respect to her habit of forming opinions without any second thoughts or a benefit of doubt.

If Ishita is judgemental and impulsive,then so is Raman in all respects,but its just that this character gains sympathy because of his past which has made him so.He is impatient,arrogant and too cynical of the world.From the time Shagun left him to his present,all that he has done is to harden himself on the outside while from within he was the same Raman who was vulnerable and gullible in the hands of Shagun and Ashok back then and even now.Little did he grow as a person in all these years.Everyone in the Bhalla household dance to his words.Except for Mr.Bhalla at times,there is no one who can show him how he has been running behind something all these years which is not worth spending a portion of his life.Now this is where I find Ishita doing the right thing.She is the one who can show him the mirror,help him out of the mess and bring to the surface the person he actually is. I agree with everything that Ishita spoke out yestedary(except for the bit regarding Aditya).Though she might have been judgemental all the way but it is the need of the moment that Raman be made to realise how he has been wasting all his life in perpetual misery and that revenge which most of all is burning him from within.

To sum it up,both Ishita and Raman are highly flawed characters.But what matters from here on is the way the writers would actually develop the characters for the good.Wish to see that happening in the coming days.

Originally posted by: Heema22

Hey friend so good to converse with you on the forum . I thought , I will never get this golden apotunity again . Thanks .lovely post . I agree with your POVs

Now these are my POVs .Two educated and successful adults .both are suffering from betrayed ,rejection , hurt and insults and both feeling terrible sense of loss and anger .

Ishita rejected by her love and other men for being infertile. Ramen rejected by his wife for not able to provide and keep her happy .both have one thing in common pain and anger .

. He wasn't good provider and she wasn't real women to propagate babies . One has fear of loosing children and other has fear of not being a parent both very real fear for mankind . Devastating to both. .

Both with exact same emotional issues but reacting differently. Both have same goal but approaches different . The way Ramen is acting is easy to digest ( I don't agree but I understand ) but the way Ishita behaves, its hard to understand . This is educated girl has mind of her own , very loving daughter. why did she marry him ? Just for Ruhi ? Instant motherhood? Chance to prove some one that she wasn't reject ? !For her obsession or her love ? Why she didnot find another solution? Being in loveless marriage is very hard . I cannot imagine spending rest of my life in the family who hates me . Bhallas with totally different culture , non vegetarian ,drinkers , Ramen who hates women. Arrogant, rude . . In near future Ruhi might not need her .then what ?

Ramen obsessed with money , fame . Revenge . Typical male ego . He doesn't realize that when you begin to start taking revenge , you start by digging two graves, one for your enemy, and one for yourself.. End results are very ugly .

Ishita obsessed with being married and being mother,so she can to prove to society and to make her mother happy .At any cost she wanted to get married and become a mother. ( very sad ) . but at what cost ?Is it love, obsession, infatuations ?why Ishita , why ?

Both have insulted and hurt each other ( misplaced anger ). But Two wrongs don't make it right but it makes it even.

When Ishita talks or lecture he listens .doesnot agree with her but he gives her time to finish .when he tries talks she interrupts doesn't listen . What Ishita is saying to Ramen is 100% right but the way she says is wrong . She doesnot mean tobe mean or rude but she come across very bitchy . She needs to know When he talk, listen completely , she never listens .Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn her life around.she might be very happy with him .he is caring and loving man .i just want Inshita to listen to him once and have heart to heart talk ( this is not good for the show )

In my previous post, I wrote and you also mentioned the same, they both are flawed character. Deserve each other . This why we are enjoying the story. Who wants to see perfect couple and happy life ? Who has that ? We are all dreamers . .