Raman is a bad father,worse than Ashok

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Annet and Janet

@loveabletwinz

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Posted: 11 years ago

#11

I agree that Raman hasn't been able to prove his mettle as a father yet; but in no way is Ashok any better. Ashok doesn't want Ruhi to be with him because he all of a sudden feels a paternal closeness to Ruhi or anything; all he want's is that Ruhi is taken away from Raman. Ashok doesn't intend on making Ruhi stay with him ;he's always wanted to send her away to hostel anyways.

Sjparkerfan and Reina1; you both are absolutely right. Raman's behavior will inadvertently affect the person that Ruhi grows up to become. Abuse in any form is traumatic to a child; be it physical or mental. Bhalla ji was right when he said that Ruhi will grow up to be a sehmi hui and dari hui child if Raman continues to behave this way with her. I hope there is some kind of redemption for Raman in the near future; I am sure we will get to see it, but there's going to be a lot more heartbreak before we get to that point.

And I absolutely do not think that Raman is jealous of Ashok and Shagun's relationship; I think seeing them together only reminds Raman of the betrayal and nothing more. I don't think he's still reeling in Shagun's love; he is just jaded towards love and any sort of feeling associated with it.

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Sania

@SRKLuvr

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Posted: 11 years ago

#12

Raman is definitely being a bad father right now there is no doubt about it and something needs to change or else Ruhi will not be able to change her thinking about him ever.

I will not condone Raman's behaviour but I am unable to dislike him even though it hurts seeing him like that.

We can't understand the extent of Raman's pain. He's been scarred mentally and emotionally to a very deep extent by love's betrayal and that pain is, to put as an understatement, quite acute. We've seen that Raman is haunted, he resorts to alcohol whenever he sees Ashok and Shagun together and has lost complete faith in normal human emotions like love.

Raman feels alone in the world, trapped in an abyss of pain and the only way out is the love of Ishita which initially he will have great trouble being able to trust. We know he loves Ruhi very much, and that is another reason I know he'll come around.

Please we shouldn't compare him to Ashok. Ashok doesn't know how to love he only knows how to use other humans and their emotions to fulfil his ends.

Edited by SRKLuvr - 11 years ago

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Tanni

@DivianTanz_Divz

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Posted: 11 years ago

#13

Honestly, Raman is acting like a bad father. He just can't get over Shagun's betrayal. That's why did believe Ashok so easily. He just needs to kill the ghost of his past. And for that Ishu will be a catalyst. And, Ishu needs to know everything about his past. May be the newspaper interview of Shagun will play a great role in this.
Actually, we can't blame Ramz or Ishu. Ishu has always seen Raman as a bad father except one or two incidents. So, she will react like this obviously. For her only Ruhi matters. So, it's not her fault either.

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Simran Ramphal

@SimSimmer

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Posted: 11 years ago

#14

Hmmm... Can't comment on the way he has been pushing her :( - very bad. But what I can say is Raman is not a bad father. Agreed he doesn't shower affection on her. This is due to his egoistic, tough nature. It is clear that he loves her dearly (the way he cried when Ashgun took her away)...he cried all night :( Some people are like that... They don't know how to express their feeling of love- but its there in their heart. I connect with Raman as I am just like him :) Raman Kumar Bhalla is not a bad daddy... He just needs to learn to get rid of that mindblock towards that mole ;) otherwise he is willing to hug her all day :D

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silvermoonlight

@silvermoonlight

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Posted: 11 years ago

#15

well this is the nonsense I was afraid of

cause its an Ekta show

OTT dramatic nonsense

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947708

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Posted: 11 years ago

#16

He is in pain he is in shock to know from Ashok the truth .
He might not be best dad but in some way he loves ruhi .
But the situation has changed for him that frustration he is showing on ruhi .
Poor kid ruhi is facing all the trash .
But Raman too is in lot of pressure and pain .
Ishu is in her own land she cares about ruhi that's why she is best as mom but she needs to read Raman too not as a hubby but as a human as a person.
Try to figure out what went wrong with Raman after custody .
If that is solved rest all will fall in place .

Edited by rockstar29 - 11 years ago

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Vinnie79

@Vinnie79

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Posted: 11 years ago

#17

In my opinion It is understandable that Raman is going through real emotinoal tourture at the moment, but taking it out on a five year old child is totally unacceptable . As his father rightly said, children need you to show that love, not hide it inside.
He is not a being good father, he is allowing Shagun to influence the way he treats Ruhi, 1st with his mole, he passed her off to his mother, and hardly spoke to her, when she was taken then he fought to get her, in a sense proving Shagun true... he did not want her but he did not want Shagun to have her either. He loves her maybe, but not enough to look past a mole and hug his child, he loves her, but on the 1st question of who is her father he is ready to push her away, he loves her but expects his mother and family to take care of her as he can't be around her. He sure loves her alright. 😕
If we use the principle that biological parents are not always the right person to raise a chiild, (ishta vs, Shagun.) Well if he loves his daughter, who has been living under his roof, in his care, and who is craving his attention, should that not mean anything to him?, regardless of whose blood it is in her veins Only then would i say he truly loves the child...
As for Ishita, she formed an opinion on Raman and dose not want to see past that, she is also blind in her hatred and ego. Props to her for the way she tries to shield Ruhi from it all.But common sense would mean her finding out the real story about Raman's 1st marriage and understanding the situation clearly before judging them!

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aadk

@aadk

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#18

The plain truth is yes Raman is a bad father. His every act of arrogance is either ignored or patched up by his past.Its been years since Shagun left him for Ashok.In real life,who would be soo much obsessed with one' past that they align their present and future all based on one bitter truth of their past? Instead of accepting the fact that his wife was no longer his,he directed his entire life towards proving that he too can acquire all wealth and can be top CEO!Is that all the point of his life? In short,Raman let Shagun rule all over his life even after her leaving him.And the worst part is the arrogance that he carries with him all around and yes his past is his saviour again!
I would admire a man who would accept the realities of life,facing them head-on and live a life true to himself.

And he believing Ashok without any second thought is just plain dumbness.And he doen't fail to display his arrogance once again when he pushes Ruhi not once but twice.But yes I know the justifications that rise up once again-he was drunk and most importantly the emotional turmoil!

The character Raman has loopholes everywhere in it.All that can be hoped is to see a redemption of his character for the better.

Edited by aadk - 11 years ago

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canadiankudi

@canadiankudi

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

#19

He isn't a bad father.. he's just naive that he believes into every word of Ashoks before thinking practically. Hopefully they will show a good side of him soon!

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Ishra2

@Ishra2

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Posted: 11 years ago

#20

Raman is not a bad father at all. First like his mother said, he does not know how to show his love. Now his behaviour is due the anger and ashok, he is not able to handle the stress.

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