Originally posted by: sonali_dg
@ Bold--I fail to understand your point 😕 How can a mother not connect with her Baby?? Unless its those exclusive cases I have highlighted who are still in denial that from being a wife they have become mother's (getting counted in 'Aunty' category) I don't believe any woman can say that!
Even if its so, in an extremely hypothetical situation, that they cannot connect mentally (which is impossible, even animals do fully connect the minute their children are born) but physically, a mother has to constantly keep nursing the child and coincidentally the baby is also hungry during the same time when the mother needs to nurse, else it cause severe clumps pain which is impossible to tolerate.
In Tapasya's case - ok she couldn't connect mentally, but what about it when she was hearing her Baby cry sooo loudly that Nani from else where came running! She being a couple of foot steps away didn't hear/ didnt WANT to hear! 👎🏼 Secondly, while she saw Nani pacifying the child.. a normal mother who would have witnessed it, would have snatched the baby from whosoever and hugged it. A single touch of a mother is enough to pacify a Baby!
I would **not** draw analogies from animal kingdom about mothers connecting with babies. There are some animals who eat their young and there are some animals who abandon their young as soon as they are born. so its not an apples to oranges comparison.
I am not commenting on Tappu's character. I am commenting on the assumption that a new mother immediately connects with her baby. It is not that simple. motherhood is a very complex process. Besides, many new mothers are tired after long labor and would appreciate any help they can get minding the babies and not necessarily run to snatch the baby back.
As far as nursing goes, very often babies fail to latch to mothers, or mothers dont generate enough milk to feed the babies.
I would not generalize or go further into the experience of motherhood, but suffice it say that motherhood is a very unique experience for each woman. What worked for one mother does not work for another. What one new mother feels is not necessarily what other mothers feel. The social stigma and society's judgment on new mothers is so harsh that a big population of the world does not even want to acknowledge the serious and very palpable threat of post partem depression that often leads to suicidal thoughts.
disclaimer - these are not applicable to tappu, i am just commenting that the generic societal expectation of instantaneous motherly feelings from a new mother are highly misplaced.
Edited by serialjunkie - 14 years ago
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