Does cheating have redemption? - Page 4

Dekho for me personally once a cheater will always be a cheater.

Bt it really depends on the couple. If the partner of the cheating person thinks that he/she can forgive wt the other person hs done and believe it wnt be repeated again then thats their choice.

Originally posted by: Chir-Cute

Interesting points you guys. 😊

While I have never had second thoughts on forgiving a person if I felt that they genuinely mean well after apologising. Taking them back or making them my part of life has been the challenging part. Of course, it's all about the choices of the individuals about how they decide to go about that as well but, I for one noticed that I can never see them in the same light as before. Trusting them again, is totally another story altogether. I had my fair share of heartbreak due to being cheated on especially when the core foundation of the relationship had been based on the trust that if ever, one of us felt that the relationship was not working, we could talk about it and part amicably without causing unnecessary hurt to another. Nevertheless, shit happened. It's been years since that and I no longer have any grudge against that person. I have always maintained cordial relations with him due to our very close-knit friends' circle and also because we knew each other's families, so that too. I knew he tried his best to begin afresh and bounce back in my life by constantly proving that he had changed, and while I respected the change he brought in himself a certain part of me didn't budge at all. Like @Ashviniv said, it was no longer a matter of love, it became a matter of self-respect.

As for redemption, definitely, the cheating party decides how to go about it. Getting forgiveness is the victim partner's choice and how they go on from there is absolutely them and no one else with or without forgiveness.

The point being of that little TB, I just wanted to know what goes into the minds of the other partner, if and when they do decide to give the cheating partner a 2nd chance. Is it just a choice, love or something else? Let's assume that finance, children etc are not the factors here. I am just trying to understand that mindset. I am not even sure if what am asking for even makes sense. Had you been Tejo, what would have been your line of action?

I am sorry that you have to go through such situations in your life and very proud that you have taken right decision in your life.

If I have been Tejo I would have completed my P.hd, I would have rejected Jass's proposal and no matter how much my father Rupi try to pressure me in getting married to my sister's two year stalker/lover for my family's respect.

Coming to the most important point EMA, due to my job in state govt. I have come across many such cases.

Case 1: A man had multiple partners and he had no sign of shame to tell that publicly.His wife stuck to him thinking he would change if she gets pregnant. To her suprise He left his pregnant wife in her maternal home and didn't pay visit to her after that. Later she came to know that he never wanted to marry her as he was already in love with another woman. He only used her for giving grandchild to his parents from woman of their choice and left as soon as she beared his child. She lodged a complaint in Police Station and they are still dealing with this case. Woman doesn't want to give the child to him. She wants to divorce him and live with the child alone. Here woman is not even educated she chose to open a small shop and now doing well with support of locals.

In this case the guy never liked her from the very start of their relationship. He just played his game very well and ditched her. He just took her for granted.

Case 2:

This is my colleague's experience.He was in relationship with a girl for 8 years. I have known him for two years now due to my job. We work in different departments but in our office we all gather during lunch. One common thing he says everyday is that how he wants to marry his GF and live a happy life. During COVID second wave my family and I entire family suffered from COVID delta variant. We were both financially and mentally troubled. I took one month medical leave and when I resumed to my work I have come to know that my friend is seriously depressed and tried to harm himself many times. His GF kept him in dark that she was marrying someone else and when he confronted her she denied about marriage. But that 🤬 got married two days later. He was devastated.

In this case the woman two timed her BF with whom she is emotionally attached and her family who are financially supporting her even now. Here she chose money over the emotions.

There are still various experiences but I don't want to elaborate post. Cheating happens when the person thinks he/she is doing nothing wrong by choosing what he wants. It happens when he/she disrespects the partner and relationship. He doesn't acknowledge the importance of his/her in relationship and thinks he is doing some kind of sacrifice by not telling them his/her's partner's that they are cheating. This is what I have observed mostly.

Originally posted by: Aniash

They think fatejo are their trp fetchers.

Wait at least two weeks after KVG exit then u can see the trp blunders if they don't buckle up on the story

The leads alone won't help . They need to bring interesting plots

Makers should be thankful to KVG he is holding onto this crap show. I don't what they would have written if there was no Angad in picture. I actually lost interest when Fateh-Jasmine started to live in Virks house and totally hated when he left Virk house with Jasmine. Ewwthat drama was pure headache. I want to see how story proceeds after Angad's exit. If it is again JasFaTejo love triangle then it is not my cup of tea.

Izzat toh aani jaani shay hai, banda dheet hona chahiye.. 😆

Banda dheet rahega toh redemption bhi ho jayega aur tejo ki respect bhi paa lega jo usne kabhi kho di thi... Viewers ki respect does not count though.. 😆

a former friend of mine cheated his wife for 6 years

he was a narcissist, lied to the gf about his wife fighting sickle cell anemia n dying soon so she wouldnt leave him

the day his son was born(gf had no idea he had a kid on the way) blocked and cut her out saying I love my wife

right after he went and confessed to his wife about his EMA

now its been 7 years and they live happily ever after lol

so yeah mahaan women forgive and forget, apparently she told him he can go back and start a new life with his gf if he wasn't happy but she gave him a choice I would never have

Does this show know the meaning of redemption versus whitewashing? Hero versus villian? Gaslighting versus true love?

Answer khud hi khud mil jayega.

I think if someone take you back. That person is a very strong-minded and compassionate enough to give you a second chances, don't abuse it. It's not a weakness to love your spouse unconditionally we are human that's where the weakness is we have urges and needs we need to be able to Communicate all are needs to our spouse partners or significant others God Bless you all

I hope it works out for them.

Reconciliation is a beautiful thing, and I have seen couples successfully navigate this. I am glad for them.

But I don’t think it is easy, and I don’t think reconciliation is always the right answer it always depends on your own circumstances and experience, nobody should/can help it this.

It is only them who has right to decide what they want and what they need and how they can trust back.

Originally posted by: Meher_

I think if someone take you back. That person is a very strong-minded and compassionate enough to give you a second chances, don't abuse it. It's not a weakness to love your spouse unconditionally we are human that's where the weakness is we have urges and needs we need to be able to Communicate all are needs to our spouse partners or significant others God Bless you all

I hope it works out for them.

Reconciliation is a beautiful thing, and I have seen couples successfully navigate this. I am glad for them.

But I don’t think it is easy, and I don’t think reconciliation is always the right answer it always depends on your own circumstances and experience, nobody should/can help it this.

It is only them who has right to decide what they want and what they need and how they can trust back.

I will answer it straight. Since you asked cheating is a choice , can it be redeemed.

Answer is : Yes

Explaination : Life is long and some choices can be changed/corrected once you realise that they are wrong in right time. Cheating is one of them. Now coming to partner who got cheated. Well it's his or her decision if they want to give their relationship a second chance. They can decide on the basis of damage done. If it has caused you enough emotional /physical torture, you have all right to file a case. If you realise loosing that person will cause more damage to you better give it a chance. Or simply break up and take your time or just move on if you can.

None of aforesaid choices makes the victim selfish , arrogant , doormat ,shameless or despo. Important is your mental peace and your priorities in life.

I don't see anything in black and white as I firmly believe that every couple is different and the right and wrong and boundaries are set by them. There is no set template for a relationship. Yes certain things are wrong regardless of a relationship and cheating is one of those things. Fateh hurt tejo badly and she moved away from him because of that. Jasmine whom he cheated with on tejo brought him down as a person so much that he couldn't face himself and that was needed for fateh to be free from jasmine mentally forever. If you guys remember, fateh was so deeply and blindly in love with jasmine that it was disturbing many times. He was gonna give up his life, family, dreams for jasmine which is not a healthy start for any relationship. People can see that as a sign of love but imo one has to have the space to do things that make them happy too. Anyways, him seeing jasmine for who she is burned all his love for her and now there is no way he can ever fall for her and now he truly understands tejo's importance in his life. Tejo went away from fateh and that gave her time to think and have some space to breath and truly ponder on what she wants. Its not a matter of self-respect here as I keep seeing in so many posts and frankly its annoying to read such black and white views. If tejo didn't leave him initially I would say she has no self-respect as she would have chosen to stay with someone who doesn't value her or love her or respect her. If tejo had decided to move on with angad or stayed alone it would have been okay too. If she has decided to move past all her hurt, anger and pain and give another chance , that needs a lot of strength as it requires her to open her heart to the same person who crushed it so badly in past. It is still okay at this point but makers have to have the brains to pull this off by going slow and not rush them and show that everything is fine now.