Veer's gift to Pakhi ... GROWTH

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Veer's gift to Pakhi ... GROWTH


Pakhi in front of the sacred ceremonial fire, ink, and paper was wedded to Anshuman. She wedded him twice not once.

The first time she wedded him - she was not aware of the true meaning of marriage and perhaps considered him no more than a one-time visitor to her house.

However, in the interim between her first and second marriage - her mind was most likely shaped with all kinds of definitions of marriage, all kinds of expected behavior from her with respect to remaining single and faithful to him until he came and claimed her, all kinds of stories of the Dhola Maru type when he jilted her and married another woman (Ayaan's mother), and all kinds of sati stories after his marriage to Ayaan's mother.

However the most significant ideas and stories that shaped her mind and thinking were her own fantasies that were built on all the ideas fed to her. As a teenager she most likely fantasized about the ideal love she shared with a fantasy man (who because of her child-marriage) was named Anshuman.

She continued to live with her fantasy man in a fantasized married life by likening it to that of Dhola Maru after his marriage to Ayaan's mother.

When he still did not come and claim her after Ayaan's mother's death , she was a bit shaken but continued to live a fantasized married life with her fantasy Anshuman - for she did not have the courage to break away from her own self-built fantasy walls and accept that the real-life Anshuman was rejecting her.

When the real-life Anshuman married her the second time with the sole purpose of divorcing and getting rid of all ties with her - Pakhi was in euphoria because one tiny piece of her fantasy was fulfilled, in that the real-life Anshuman came and claimed her.

She lived in denial that he hated her, openly cheated on her, and colluded with one-and-all (including his son) to get rid of her. Her need to live her fantasy was so strong, that she put up with all his character defects and tried to mold him to, at the very least, accept her. It is to be noted, she did all of these to fulfill her fantasy, not out of love for the real-life Anshuman - for Pakhi truly loved her fantasized man named Anshuman.

She ran away from the real-life Anshuman when he questioned her fidelity because only she knew the depths of her loyalty to the fantasized Anshuman. When Anshuman got her back - she again, began remolding him and their life to fulfill her fantasies. Unfortunately, he did not live long and died in an accident.


She chose to marry Veer out of love and loyalty to (the fantasized) Anshuman's mother. She cornered Veer to marry by declaring in front of Ayaan her choice of husband and indicating that Veer is the best father Ayaan could have. Veer, who did not want to marry Pakhi was forced into the marriage by Ayaan, Pakhi's brother, and Girish who were witness to Pakhi's declaration.

Now Veer has divorced her. He has realized that Pakhi is still in love with her fantasy Anshuman. He knows the impact of fantasized love on one's mind - he went through it with Kirti.

However he does not know the depth and extent to which Pakhi lives in a fantasized world. Her conversations with Lavanya indicate that it almost borders a neurotic level.

Irrespective, Veer by giving her the divorce and walking out of Rathore Mansion, has given her the best antidote. The opportunity to find a healthy outlet and get over her grief.

Veer left Rhea behind to help Ayaan and make sure Pakhi does not slip into severe depression. Veer will help her take care of the Rathore business until she feels mentally equipped to do so. Veer is too self-effacing to say "I am doing this Pakhi for your good and out of concern for Ayaan", so couches it in term where he requests her an opportunity to be of service to her.

Pakhi's true test comes now - is she capable of self growth? Is she capable of breaking free from a fantasized man that she loved for over 25 years of her life? Will she turn into a neurotic or will she discipline her mind to face reality? This is the choice that seeks her immediate attention.

Veer by freeing Pakhi is giving her the freedom to grow independently as she chooses.





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Posted: 10 years ago
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I kind off agree and kind off don't.

But I definitely think, like you, that Veer has given Pakhi the gift of time (similar to growth).

Veer loved Keerti to a fantastical degree. It was probably just like the love Pakhi had for Anshuman. But, let's not forget that Veer had time to move on and grows after Keerti's death. He had over 10 years to come to terms with the fact that Keerti was gone. That's a lot of time for someone to reflect on. After his self-imposed loneliness, he met Pakhi. He got to know Pakhi and fell in love with her.

Compare this with Pakhi. Anshuman just died like what, at most a year ago? (not sure of the timeline) And after that, she was thrown into fire, having to handle his business (with added difficulties by Veer and Anuja), take care of Ayaan emotionally and physically, go through the drama of a marriage with Veer (again indirectly because of Veer and Anuja), then the emotional time of Ayan custody case, then the quick arrival of Veer's family, etc. After Anshuman's death, Pakhi has constantly been on the go. She has not necessarily been able to come to terms with the fact that he is gone. She hasn't had a lot of time to reflect on what it means to live alone.

Alas, due to the show ending, we won't get to see her journey of moving on.

My interpretation of the ending was that, eventually after years passed, Pakhi would finally learn to move on from Anshuman and end up spending her life with Veer. Like so many people in the forum pointed out, they would've gotten together eventually, due to their similar personalities.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Lovely Post Anonee,
Well I am not sure if she will take that gift, or spend her life wallowing. It is sad that they did not get what they needed time...
I agree with Lovely Lady Paakhi herself did not get the chance to STOP AND JUST GRIEVE AND DEAL WITH HER LOSS.
I think the time line went like this ...He died...13 days after Anshuman was thrown into Jail. Paakhi took over the business Veer entered... I remember them saying specifically 6 months had past just b4 the wedding.
soon after that in newly wedded state, since they were still doing Rasams ect. the custody battle started. All in all I doubt even a year past since his death which is no time at all really.
Altough I am saddened and dissapointed by her mindset at the end of the show...I will take solace in maybe with time she would see and decide to Live her life ...
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@LadyLuv and Vinnie 😊

This post is a follow-up to a post that preceded it by a day. Here is the link to it https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/tumhari-paakhi/4232067/the-ending.

I address the issues that you raise in that post
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Posted: 10 years ago
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I think this is the most positive interpretation of a nasty end, really I m not able to see any growth from here..
For veer this is all about... "wo afsana jise anjam tak lana na ho mumkin, use ek khubsurat madh dekar chodhana behtar..
so... for him this is good..
But for pakhi ..? No future..they left no ray of hope ... at the end they glorify anshu-pakh like a great couple. and their story to something very unique.. and pakhi is fully satisfied to her .. she assumed that ..anshu is waiting for her..she told to riya and aayan that moon loves the most to Rohini among in all his wife .. that means she has no problem with anshu's bigamy ..she is ok to being cheated,insulted, because according to her Anshu loves her the most beside Tanya or Aayan's mother.. u know when she took the photo of anshu and was about to sleep ..for a second I was scare..Oh no !! what r they going to show..Pakhi has dead ...because she want to be with..her so cald dhola.. luckily they din't do as such..but what next... ? lots of unnecessary FB.. Anshu & pakhi's happy moments, that 10 minutes was waste for me ..they could have utilize that 10 minute in better way if they show pakhi is talking to riya & aayan.. about their plans, her small monologue about her own future, a glimpse of her new office life..but No instead of all these they were busy to glorify anshu & pakhi like a great couple, what a irony... a man who has always been confused... who took his some major personal decision in influence of others .. he is a great lover ... after aayan's mother 's death.. he had influence of Tanya & her father,because of them he was ready to sent Aayan to boarding school.,he brought to Pakhi because of media pressure.. after that when pakhi arrived ..slowly he was impress with her.. and because of pakhi he changed his view about Tanya..not because of himself.. but Tanya's a small plan crashed, his prospective in a secound.. ( though that time he was a changed man) and he called her "Characterless".. he got his senses back when Lavanay gave her a tight slap.. he went to singapur to bring her back.. because of Anuja...his mother..who helped him..and encourage him to do as such ... no guarantee if he was alive he would have never changed again... because u cant change basic nature of any body ..and by nature he was very uncertain, fickle kind of person..i never seen a responsible or dedicate person in him.. but for cvs he is mahan lover and,and their story is something classic.. this is really ridiculous.. they did glorify them like a spiritual couple ..kewal phool-mala, agarbatti aur diye ki hi kami thi..

It could be a gift if u cut last 10 min of the last episode..because that made all difference... it ruined all hope for the future..
there is no growth for me...at least..
there is only one possibility left as u said some where if pakhi lives like this ..then sooner or later she has to concern a psychologist... 🥱



Edited by croziaxx - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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wow mansi
aapne to humari dil ki baat likh di
ITA with your post
those 10 mins were waste of time for me too because she ended ALONE
because when veer was around her, she did not think about anshuman but think of their kids and their future , any ways... worst ending because here paakhi ended alone
Not with anshuman and not with veer !!!
may b she happy waiting for her death
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Ronshaan

I chose not to see the last 10 mins of the serial.

I saw the serial until Veer got into the car with Jiji and drove off. And then I turned off the video-cast. For me that was the end.

I do not believe in giving credence to child-marriage, and to the abuse that Pakhi sustained at the hands of Anshuman. It goes against my principles. So, I did not watch it.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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hmm well i was watching it and got bored seeing it,
i m currently watching the prev episodes of the show - i m on march episodes and i see that now its the battle b/w tanya and paakhi who would win anshuman's love, the man is confused, he is feeling attracted to paakhi but he claims 2 love tanya, the man is confused and as some one wrote in the forum he does not know what he wants, when he sees tanya in some sexy cloth he is attracted, when he sees paakhi stomach he is attracted, he saw her in skirt he was attracted, i might give a better reply when i reach to veer's entry, they claim he is being changed but the name - characterless is about to come... i m not sure was it a real love or as veer said it - when u have a kuktus in your room, u fall in love with it as well... may b that's the case of anshuman - he fell in love with paakhi because he was used to her... that happens... i could see people saying to him what to do and he just does it as they say, he takes other opinions and does it, it did not come out of him , some thing that he thinks that should be done !! may b it was needed for him to change and say sorry to paakhi, be happy and die... who knows.

Edited by ronshaan - 10 years ago

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