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Track: Taming the Shrew - Take 6 Parent's Effect on Child Behavior
I know you all are with me on this one - a parent has tremendous effect on a child' behavior.
Children are like sponges - they model everything a parent (or an adult family member like grandparent, uncle, aunt, etc) does and incorporate what they see into their own lives. It is important that parents set the right example.
Ayaan is no exception. We saw how Anuja's negative example had a detrimental effect on Ayaan and lead to bad, nay dangerous behavior.
Veer's stressed out response towards Ayaan at the peak of the fight between Ayaan and Rhea too affected Ayaan in a deep way.
But there is a world of a difference in the effects that the behavior of Anuja and that of Veer had on Ayaan.
Anuja instigated antisocial behavior in Ayaan, she filled his mind with distrust towards Rhea, Pakhi and Veer.
Veer on the other hand was dealing with the shock that Ayaan would go to the extreme of causing a fire (even though it was brought under control) and with the inability to exert control over the two quarreling kids (yeah - Rhea was behaving like a ten year old and not like a college teen). In an effort to regain control over a situation that was deteriorating rapidly he yelled at Ayaan and pushed him away from Rhea. No doubt he used more than an excess of force - but under the circumstances it was understandable ... immediately to Pakhi. (And the later to Ayaan - with some guidance from Pakhi). Veer regained his cool right after his act - and tried to reach out to Ayaan immediately.
Pakhi took a positive approach to disciplining Ayaan. Luckily Ayaan could not stay long away from her and reached out to her. She took this opportunity to explain to him that Rhea was not responsible for placing the cigarettes in his school bag. She also made Ayaan realize that PakhVeer love both him and Rhea equally.
Most importantly, Pakhi made Ayaan realize how wrong his behavior had been and that even when stressed out Veer's love for Ayaan did not change.
Rhea reacted to everything in her usual way which is to hold Veer responsible and taunt him for getting her to come and live with them in order to get custody of Ayaan. Remember she blames Veer for everything that has happened in her life - including the trauma of being left an orphan. It is all about her childhood and her parents leaving her. In her mind Veer is a poor substitute.
I personally think Veer did a terrific job in controlling the fire and in separating the two kids. At that time they were totally out of control and a stern voice was needed to stop the quarreling.
The next day, Veer was super calm, and said all the right things to Rhea. I think he gifted a car and driver because there was no way she would take a ride from him or from one of Pakhi's chauffeurs.
This is my take - feel free to comment and write your opinion of the situation.
