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Originally posted by: Kalma007

Another point: Kalyani needs to point out in one of their arguments that Malhar is her husband,he needs to behave like one,stop behaving too much like a father and making decisions for her without consulting her or asking her opinion or openly discussing an issue with her... she already has a father figure in Kaka.

If she's old enough to handle responsibilities related to motherhood,being a DIL and all that comes with it,she's old enough to decide if she wants to have a physical relationship with her husband,inless... Malhar isn't over his first wife and this so called concern for Kalyani's education is a way to hide that from her and keep her too occupied with other things to worry about their sex life ... the fact that Kalyani could doubt him like this could enrage/make Malhar desperate enough to convince her otherwise to do something drastic.

Malhar doesn't get to dictate all aspects of their married life,even if it's done out of concern and love.

I agree with you but I don't think the reason is because he is not over Sampada. I think he's fully over Sampada, the more I discovered their relationship, the more I feel like it was a pretty superficial relationship where Sampada was just pretending to be the perfect wife and daughter and Malhar was just doing his duty as a husband and part of that duty was to love his wife. Malhar didn't question anything, his feelings or Sampada's suspicious behavior cause he was too "honorable" and he didn't grow up with his parents, so he was just emulating what a marriage should be and so was Sampada.

With Kalyani, it's completely different. He started his journey to fatherhood with Kalyani, he went through his betrayal with Kalyani, they have been through so much and he's completely dependent on her now. It's always the emotionally vulnerable person in the relationship that becomes dependent. Kalyani was also emotionally vulnerable but she became dependent on Anupriya not Malhar, which is has now brought an interesting imbalance to their relationship.

As for the sexual abstance, I think it's guilt. Before, like someone said, he was simply not attracted to her cause he hated Kalyani's guts. Malhar isn't the type to think with his sexual urges. But the minute he fell in love with her sometime during that KarVa marriage track, he became sacred that Kalyani would grow to resent him, which is his guilt coming out. He's terrified of her resenting him and leaving him as a result one day. So that's why I think he's staying away from her physically so she doesn't feel like he used her for sex and that's why Malhar is so, so determined to make sure Kalyani is educated, so she doesn't feel like it is Malhar's fault that she was unable to achieve her dreams like Atul said she would.

Originally posted by: sas79

I agree with you but I don't think the reason is because he is not over Sampada. I think he's fully over Sampada, the more I discovered their relationship, the more I feel like it was a pretty superficial relationship where Sampada was just pretending to be the perfect wife and daughter and Malhar was just doing his duty as a husband and part of that duty was to love his wife. Malhar didn't question anything, his feelings or Sampada's suspicious behavior cause he was too "honorable" and he didn't grow up with his parents, so he was just emulating what a marriage should be and so was Sampada.

With Kalyani, it's completely different. He started his journey to fatherhood with Kalyani, he went through his betrayal with Kalyani, they have been through so much and he's completely dependent on her now. It's always the emotionally vulnerable person in the relationship that becomes dependent. Kalyani was also emotionally vulnerable but she became dependent on Anupriya not Malhar, which is has now brought an interesting imbalance to their relationship.

As for the sexual abstance, I think it's guilt. Before, like someone said, he was simply not attracted to her cause he hated Kalyani's guts. Malhar isn't the type to think with his sexual urges. But the minute he fell in love with her sometime during that KarVa marriage track, he became sacred that Kalyani would grow to resent him, which is his guilt coming out. He's terrified of her resenting him and leaving him as a result one day. So that's why I think he's staying away from her physically so she doesn't feel like he used her for sex and that's why Malhar is so, so determined to make sure Kalyani is educated, so she doesn't feel like it is Malhar's fault that she was unable to achieve her dreams like Atul said she would.

I agree on both points,but I was thinking from Kalyani's POV... if after little more than a year of marriage,lots of challenges and him confessing his love he still keeps a distance from her,she may end up questioning whether he really is over Sampada or just using Kalyani to get over her but not being able to get physical with her.

Malhar has also a tendency to keep most of what he feels and thinks to himself and only tell her what it's gonna be like.

It's not unreasonable to assume Kalyani could end up wondering whether he's still thinking about his ex or afraid to move forward or a combo of both and that's why he's keeping a distance from her.

Actually show makers always take the route of octane drama. No one dares to take show such relatable issues which are actually possible . Thinking that he is not over sampada is quite a natural thought or the aspects we are being discussing that she is too naive to understand sex and Malhar" s guilt that he will lose control over his desires must b shown . Sirf web series mein nude scns dikhana maturity nhi hai . Soch kitna matured hai yeh vi matter karta hai .And showing that is a challenge indeed.

Originally posted by: pyaar2012

Actually show makers always take the route of octane drama. No one dares to take show such relatable issues which are actually possible . Thinking that he is not over sampada is quite a natural thought or the aspects we are being discussing that she is too naive to understand sex and Malhar" s guilt that he will lose control over his desires must b shown . Sirf web series mein nude scns dikhana maturity nhi hai . Soch kitna matured hai yeh vi matter karta hai .And showing that is a challenge indeed.

kalyani is over 19 near to her 20's as kalma been married for more than 1.5 years now. it's silly how malhar or all others refers her as a 'bacchi' in the show and give her all household responsibilities, responsibilities of a mother and give harsh punishments when she fails to do any small works.

and this education wala excuse is something out of my understanding. when she can take us all mental and emotional burden and do everything and anything when fulfilling responsibilities of a wife, is'nt she getting distracted from her studies by that? why they give this excuse in the show only when it comes to starting a sexual life?.

government gave right to girls to get married at 18 means everyone thinks that a girl is capable of starting a new phase in her life at that age. i never heard anyone saying that a girl can get married at 18 but can't have sexual relationship as she is too young for that.😂

many girls get married at that age around the world and leads their married life happily even without having any complications in pregnancy. they are just making her sound like a 15-16 year old by making all this age related fuss in the show that's it.

infact i think instead of feeling guilty for getting married to 18 year old, malhar should be guilty for not being about to give kalyani the right she deserves as a wife. instead calling her bacchi and behaving like father he should start behaving like a husband first.

they just get a eye lock when they fall on each other or in some other situations when they get close that's it. i never saw malhar appreciating her beauty or say u look good in this dress or staring at her. if in future my husband turns out to be like him am probably just gonna divorce and go and say ' sirf ek dost chahiye to ayise hi banalete mujse shaadi q ki' 😂😂

Now a days these serials are getting over dramatic and changing the total meaning of marriage just to sound more 'sanskari and mahaan' other than that i don't think that kalyani's age is such a big issue here. Malhar ko koyi hosh me lao aur 'how to a husband' wale tutions do koyi.😛

Sampada and malhar had a marriage of 1 year or just 1 yr and few months.( Though not clearly mentioned it is evident from flashbacks that their marraige was not a long one and when sampu preg I believe Anu was happy that she is lucky that she concieved immediately after her marraige whereas Anu remained barren and also samotharva was trying hard to elope whenever possible I don't think they had to wait five years)

It was mentioned that on the day of marriage they tried to elope but AS caught and brought her back and when the next time they tried sampu was Prego with moksh . Which means sampu was Prego within short time

Five years of childless marrige often discussed about in the show was of Anupriya and Atul and yes Anu was some what 19 or 18 when she was married to Atul. Because malhars mom's death caused it and it was a marraige of convinence.

One more thing I also feel kalayni yet now hasn't confessed her feelings though it is evident from her actions

Last time they had a talk during sr 2 and then her behaviour was not out of love she said literally that she wanted to prove a point that she is good enough to please her husband .

I don't think malhar will take a big step until she confess and is ok beacuse the main guilt he has is with sampda he had started a relationship without knowing her heart . Both of them did the duty and later on he was hell shocked to realize that he had relationship with a woman who never wanted to have with him but did it just to play with his emotions and just get her things done. Sr talk of kallu also remind the same that I want to prove a point and I am capable enough so malhar said no it should be out of love. He doent want to end up with kalyani until she is fully ready and accepts him in every aspect he don't want to commit the mistake he did during his first marriage.

Sampu was never 19 she was married to malhar after her collage education was completed like22-23.

Originally posted by: GAYATHRINAYAR

Sampada and malhar had a marriage of 1 year or just 1 yr and few months.

Five years of childless marrige often discussed about in the show was of Anupriya and Atul and yes Anu was some what 19 or 18 when she was married to Atul. Because malhars mom's death caused it and it was a marraige of convinence.

Ohhhh🤔🤔 thanks for the clarification.

Originally posted by: GAYATHRINAYAR

Read my edited post

Yeah i saw. That makes sense. I didn't know that was of anu and atul's marriage. Thanks for the clarification.😃

But i still think that age fuss that they are creating in the show is too much as i already discussed that when kalyani can take emotional and mental burden then why not this right?. And the points you send are right i didn't think it in that view as it wasn't mentioned by malhar or others clearly that he wants to kalyani more before starting a proper life with her. He just spoke of her studies and said maybe with time she would start loving him.

Your points make sense tho.😊 i just don't like the way they refer her as a bacchi and give all other works and responsibilities then call her bacchi again. Lol.

And i also think that malhar's behaviour seems more like father figure than a husband in the show. That must be changed according to my opinion.

I feel as I said malhar made a mistake in his first marraige he feels like he forced himself on sampda without knowing her consent or wishes and even moksh is an after effect of an unwanted marrige from sampadas side atleast. Maybe that's why though she superficially shows she is never able to really connect with the child or love the child.

There is a lot of difference between going to your husband due to love and going to ur husband just beacuse he is your husband. Sampada did the second as she was not clear about how long it will take for atharva and her to elope and she had to maintain her goody goody image before malhar to lead a luxurious life till they elope. And yes kalayni also gave malhar exactly the same vibes with her second sr thing . There was even a dilaouge from her that she just wanted to prove everyone that even she could keep him happy. If you watch the segment again you can clearly see that only after that particular dialogue malhar starts really explaining her the rest. We can clearly see a change the moment that dialogue came.

One more thing is he doent want her to regret later on that she had all these experiences in life at a point where she really never wanted it under normal circumstances.

Then also her vocal confession is still remaining and not to forget malhar took 2 baby steps one during that ardhangini episodes and ekkis vala tarika as a romantic side but we ourself know what happened.

One she had gudgudi and second one she didn't understand so may be he feels she though performs all duties as a wife is yet to discover the real essence of the relationship.

But now things are different I think once kallu confess there won't be much or any hesitation from malhar side unless kalyni show some discomfort

Originally posted by: GAYATHRINAYAR

I feel as I said malhar made a mistake in his first marraige he feels like he forced himself on sampda without knowing her consent or wishes and even moksh is an after effect of an unwanted marrige from sampadas side atleast. Maybe that's why though she superficially shows she is never able to really connect with the child or love the child.

There is a lot of difference between going to your husband due to love and going to ur husband just beacuse he is your husband. Sampada did the second as she was not clear about how long it will take for atharva and her to elope and she had to maintain her goody goody image before malhar to lead a luxurious life till they elope. And yes kalayni also gave malhar exactly the same vibes with her second sr thing . There was even a dilaouge from her that she just wanted to prove everyone that even she could keep him happy. If you watch the segment again you can clearly see that only after that particular dialogue malhar starts really explaining her the rest. We can clearly see a change the moment that dialogue came.

One more thing is he doent want her to regret later on that she had all these experiences in life at a point where she really never wanted it under normal circumstances.

Then also her vocal confession is still remaining and not to forget malhar took 2 baby steps one during that ardhangini episodes and ekkis vala tarika as a romantic side but we ourself know what happened.

One she had gudgudi and second one she didn't understand so may be he feels she though performs all duties as a wife is yet to discover the real essence of the relationship.

But now things are different I think once kallu confess there won't be much or any hesitation from malhar side unless kalyni show some discomfort

I understood what u are saying. Yes i haven't watched the segments just the episodes And yes malhar took a step during that ekkis thingy but that is what currently going on in the show and as he confessed his feelings that makes sense. But am talking about real couple romance not just sex. We never saw him appreciating her beauty or at least say that this color suits better on you. As audience we At least that kind of romance in the show. Without such chemistry between couples in a show it their this ekkis was thingy and everything all of sudden feels like made up stuff. As they were together for 1.5years and malhar never bothered to see her like a lady at least other than a small child.

Which makes it seem like he is just conserned and cares for her and he knows that she is a good hearted women and a good wife he is just trying to keep the marriage work. Kalyani gets romantic dreams like she is dancing with him, holding hands etc showing that she is falling for him. Nothing like that was shown from malhar's side. He doesn't feel shy when shez around or anything at all in a romantic way. He just stays still and reserved. Lol. Thats what am talking about. And i think that should be changed.

They should try to show some real chemistry. Like may be the shower scene we get to see in the future and stuff. Now i think it's high time. That's my opinion.. 😃

Originally posted by: Chandana_1998

i have a doubt. when atharv is currently 25 years old in the show. as they used to refer him as 'pacchees saal ka ghoda'. whuch means sampada must be 24 or at least of same age as him as they were having an affair before she even got married to malhar. which means she must have been 19 years old at that time as i heard that malhar and smapadha was in their marriage for 5 years(in the show). then malhar didn't have any issue to marry her at that age and start sexual life with her, why does he have an issue doing the same with kalyani?

kalyani is over 19 near to her 20's as kalma been married for more than 1.5 years now. it's silly how malhar or all others refers her as a 'bacchi' in the show and give her all household responsibilities, responsibilities of a mother and give harsh punishments when she fails to do any small works.

and this education wala excuse is something out of my understanding. when she can take us all mental and emotional burden and do everything and anything when fulfilling responsibilities of a wife, is'nt she getting distracted from her studies by that? why they give this excuse in the show only when it comes to starting a sexual life?.

government gave right to girls to get married at 18 means everyone thinks that a girl is capable of starting a new phase in her life at that age. i never heard anyone saying that a girl can get married at 18 but can't have sexual relationship as she is too young for that.😂

many girls get married at that age around the world and leads their married life happily even without having any complications in pregnancy. they are just making her sound like a 15-16 year old by making all this age related fuss in the show that's it.

infact i think instead of feeling guilty for getting married to 18 year old, malhar should be guilty for not being about to give kalyani the right she deserves as a wife. instead calling her bacchi and behaving like father he should start behaving like a husband first.

they just get a eye lock when they fall on each other or in some other situations when they get close that's it. i never saw malhar appreciating her beauty or say u look good in this dress or staring at her. if in future my husband turns out to be like him am probably just gonna divorce and go and say ' sirf ek dost chahiye to ayise hi banalete mujse shaadi q ki' 😂😂

Now a days these serials are getting over dramatic and changing the total meaning of marriage just to sound more 'sanskari and mahaan' other than that i don't think that kalyani's age is such a big issue here. Malhar ko koyi hosh me lao aur 'how to a husband' wale tutions do koyi.😛

This is my issue as well... he either should have thought about her age before marrying her twice or gotten over it after the second one.

I really want a scene at least in the fanfic where Kalyani directly asks him if he only married her simply to have a babysitter for his son and because she's the total opposite of his first wife,so he doesn't have to fear her betraying him lie Sampada... Kalyani is,afterall, inexperienced in matters of love and intimacy and insecure about certain issues,thou she puts on a brave face and does a good job at not letting it show.

It would make a lot more sense if he finally decided to take baby steps towards intimacy and then remembered her miscarriage and how deeply traumatized/hurt she was by it (and that she has,at such a young age,lost a lot) and got scared by the idea that sex could lead to an accidental pregnancy and decided to avoid it altogether for fear of causing her pain and,by extension, possibly risking losing her again.