Husband - Page 2

Marriage is a haven on earth if you love, respect,care, understand and protect each other.

Honestly, not so experienced to give you advise..but could definitely help..what direction of your thought should be..👍🏼

I got married before I knew the meaning of marriage. One thing was for sure , looking at women around me talking about marriages and seeing in dramas, I had come to an assumption that if I'm good with everyone, everyone will be good to me. I thought everyone is essentially good at heart. I guess I had gotten high on Anne Franks diary way too much! As I got into a two year nikah before the final marriage, God gave me a chance to understand my spouse better and give me some time to understand the undertaking I had signed up for before comprehending it. But no matter how much you get to know someone or not, marriage is a gamble and you will have to roll the dice to find out. Living in the USA, people often say I was living with so and so for such a long time and yet they turned out something negative after marriage. That means it doesn't matter, love or arranged, marriage will test you and your patience. Expectations are lethal. The more you will expect the harder your fall will be. And realistically every marriage has its lows and highs. I never had the high highs but yes good moments. For which I think I'm very grateful and many at times undeserving. When the lows hit you , you have to try to remember the good times and the qualities of your spouse. I have this attitude towards my marriage that every day is a new day and I am going to give it my very best! And of course , amnesia is the secret ingredient to a happy marriage! If you remember and hold on to everything that went wrong in the marriage you will never be happy. You have to forget ! If anything you need your partner when your parents will pass away, when your siblings will be too busy with their lives, your children are too self absorbed or your friends will not be around for you. I dreamt of being an Amazonian woman who is independent and doesn't need a male support as a teenager but now after many years of marriage I will tell you that God made marriage for very profound reasons, indeed.

So well said iceblue
One thing I would like to add is in marriage both have to compromise (a lot) to make it work well mainly after kids... Also trust n honesty is very important.. And do not ever compare ur spouse to someone else


Also all battles r not worth fighting with spouse n kids... Pick what is worth agruing

I am not married but I think marrige is a beautiful relation ,where both husband and wife need to understand,love,trust each other both have to adjust and comprise each other too for ex =like we all know our relatives always leave us on our bad times but our life partner always stood by us support us wo kehte hena dukh me koi sath nhi deta but our life partner support us encourage us this is a beauty of marrige u will never feel alone in ur bad times and when ur life partner is with you its a best feeling