what if it was an arranged marriage.. - Page 2

@sanathana123...here..not everywomen is same..taking those 3 days off is fine when one is unwell..but restricting and prohibiting them is not right..if they are ok.to.work who are others to.prohibit...let us leave the fact that they go to.work..consider i am ralking about women..what is wrong in suman having lunch along with others..or others getting inside her room..its not like indians ar going western way..its that indians are developing their mindset..atleast i am totally against descrimination on women and isolating them during these times..

Absolutely not offended at all!Sorry if I came out a little forceful what can I say I am a passionate person.Sorry didn't mean to offend anyone just putting out some information that's all.

Originally posted by: Sanathana123

Absolutely not offended at all!Sorry if I came out a little forceful what can I say I am a passionate person.Sorry didn't mean to offend anyone just putting out some information that's all.

Originally posted by: deeps07

no issues..its good to talk and know..😳

the place i am living..i have no friends here..not working too right now..i hadnt been active in IF for 5 years since my marriage..i felt too inactive..its like having friends here to talk to..even if its about a soap..😛..

Originally posted by: hindifan

In my opinion, it couldn't be.

He would look like an alien between Rathis. Somebody would oppose until the end, maybe her brothers.

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Bhabho picked a modern guy for her modern grandchild. Not Uma - whose austere lifestyle would be difficult for Kanak to adjust to. Kanak was trying to listen to her brothers and get herself adjusted to Mayank n family. Ved/Vansh and her had a discussion about accepting the rishta for Bhabho and having to nibhao the rishta. With Uma - he is not Bhabho's choice, he is not on the surface compatible with her soch. Plus there is the forced aspect.

Originally posted by: sneha_17

Uma lifestyle is the bigger issue for Kansk

No freedom for women and so much restrictions

Even for Sandhya, Rathi's family's was so different and difficult

She too had some much restrictions but her support system is too good

For Kanak to accept the marriage won't be easily..

I was also thinking the same what if it was not forced marriage

Originally posted by: A4Anjie

In that case - I would say she should try to adjust a bit and tell them - how she has been living...so will not change completely - will try to adjust as much as she can...
Like... if I have to wake up 4 am or food schedule , it is tough - not impossible. She can get accustom to it after a while.

She should NOT adjust vrat...dharma./ drinking feet water, not going out alone...etc
Sandhya had challenges, too (which prepared her physically for her career indirectly...) - she had Suraj...to be with her...

And Rathi's did not ask her to drink feet water or ban outing... or suraj never thought to burn her alive... or punish her...he helped her to adjust... helped her and Emily .. to continue their study...

Originally posted by: Sanathana123

Waking early morning is brahma muhurthum is a time when the mind is most likely to grasp and understand things faster because of cosmic and human connections are at peak during that To and ofcourse cell phones,electricity etc all those modern science already came out with lot of studies that they are harmful.The place where we live street lights and banned because they cause light pollution.So what modern scientists are doing is rediscovering what we followed for thousands of years and ofcourse when white people say it's worthy for us but if our elders say it's blind belief so on and so forth

True, all of these should come with knowledge...he should educate her ..
she is the one who will decide if she like to follow or not? Or it will take time...can not change in a moment.

I don't see any science in drinking husband's feet water ..even if there is ...I will not follow it...for my self respect...

Originally posted by: Ahlaam5

For Kanak, the bigger problem comes from the forced marriage

--> Even when she has good thoughts of Uma and feels sympathetic for him...she stops herself and reminds herself this was a forced marriage.

I feel like if Bhabho had asked her to marry Uma at first before all this happened then she would said yes, she wouldn't be happy, but she would do it for Bhabho's happiness.

Would K be happy? no (either with Uma or that other one, but more so Uma cos he's very backward) and neither would she accept it with her full heart, maybe with time she would.

With Uma, she would be still questioning his beliefs at every step of the way. Thats just how she is as a person but she wouldn't be against falling for him either.