Aadhya, Shruthi and Anuj are cut from the same cloth - Page 9

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Watched today’s epi and am all the more convinced that this girl, Aadhya needs either anger management classes or therapy or a big thapad. Everyone has issues and realize the girl feels her mom saved Pari first before her, it was explained to her why, she chose not to believe it and yes, as parents, Anuj and Anupama needed to have convinced her till she believed her mother. Instead Anuj himself pointed a finger at Anupama and she left them both misguidedly thinking it would be for the best. This only reiterated in Aadhya’s mind that her mom really didn’t care for her. 

We all understand the back story and Aadhya’s unreasonable hatred towards Anupama. But creating a scene today at the engagement party, calling Anupama a curse and blaming the entire fiasco on her mother needed a slap. Being sympathetic towards Aadhya is one thing but giving her free rein to behave atrociously is another. 

Few things I liked about today’s episode - 1. Aadhya blaming Shrew for having invited Anupama. 2. Shrew admitting that she didn’t fix Aadhya’s dress - signaled a return of the old Shruthi. 3. Ba’s unexpected kindness towards Anupama. 4. Anupama talking about other stuff other than Anuj. A man does not necessarily have to be the most important factor in a woman’s life. 

Things I didn’t like - 1. Vanraj’s bakwas talk 2. Paritosh’s evil spewing as always. 3. Aadhya literally taking her dad’s hand for Shrew to put the finger on - if that is not forcing, what is? Emotional blackmail until now and physically making her dad stretch out his hand today. 

Anuj should be gentleman enough to call off this fiasco wedding - he cannot sacrifice Shrew’s happiness to indulge his daughter. So wrong in all aspects. Shrew should have enough self respect to walk away from this man who is so obsessed with his ex. And Aadhya needs to be told to deal with the fact her dad and Shrew are not made for each other how much ever she wants it to happen. 

Again, the exact same things were said by others, what was done to correct them?

We are even acknowledging this now, because the titular character is facing it (although, not for the first time).

The things that is being prescribed for Adhya today, why was this never pescribed earlier to others? Anupama, included.

In fact, Anupama's birth mother, Anuj and Rakhi were insulted with terrible words of insults, what was done to correct them?

If the wrong is NOT even acknowledged and not punished, infact repeated over time, it gets normalised. When Vanraj, Paritosh, Pakhi said those things, had they been severely punished, had Adhya, Anuj, Rakhi and Kanta been served justice for the insults they had to go through, others wouldn't have dared taken cue to repeat it.

A weak "Baa" from Anupama for any situation, Hansmukh's conspicuous absense and silence, statements and excuses like "Paritosh, Pakhi you hain hi badtameez, Vanraj aur Leela ne bigada hain, Leela ka dil toh saaf hain, zubaan kadvi hain toh kya" are NO justifications. Because they do or mean Nothing.

Anupama is who the show revolves around, right? Rather than trying to muster sympathy, she should have led by example.

When Paritosh and Pakhi said those things, she should have punished them, when Pakhi was abusing Choti, she should have punished them severely, when Leela insulted Anupama's mother and (then) husband, she should have simply left them to fend for themselves.

Does this need to be taught to a 45 - 50 year old?

If there is a fear of consequences, people tow the line. If there are no consequences for wrongdoing, it will become normal.

True  aadhya  seriously  need  counselling  main to bahut  dino se keh rahi hoon

Aadhya  ne apmi poori  dress  jala di .

Dress  jalane ka,kya sense tha 

 So funny...ha ha! "evil selfish woman" ha ha! Not at all selfish, a doormat yes..but not selfish

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Again, the exact same things were said by others, what was done to correct them?

We are even acknowledging this m, because the titular character is facing it, although, not for the first time.

The things that is being prescribed for Adhya today, why was this never pescribed earlier to others?.

In fact, Anupama's birth mother and Rakhi were insulted with terrible words of insults, what was done to correct them?

If the wrong is NOT even acknowledged and not punished, infact repeated over time, it gets normalised. When Vanraj, Paritosh, Pakhi said those things, had they been severely punished, had Adhya, Anuj, Rakhi and Kanta been served justice for the insults they had to go through, others wouldn't have dared taken cue to repeat it.

A weak "Baa" from Anupama for any situation, Hansmukh's conspicuous absense and silence, justificationa like Paritosh, Pakhi you hain hi badtameez, Vanraj aur Leela ne bigada hain, Leela ka dil toh saaf hain, zubaan kadi hain toh kya are NO justifications. Because they do or mean Nothing.

Anupama is who the show revolves around, right? Rather than trying to muster sympathy, she should have led by example.

When Paritosh and Pakhi said those things, she should have punished them, when Pakhi was abusing Choti, she should have punished her, when Leela insulted Anupama's mother and (then) husband, she should have simply left. Does this need to be taught to a 45 - 50 year old?

If there is a fear of consequences, people tow the line.

Um? Bhai people don't even acknowledge that Pakhi was groomed and abused by Adhik because she has Vanraj's genes and is selfish. As if being a bad person makes it okay for a barely legal college kid to be groomed by her mother's in-law. And then get blamed and beaten for being too immature and selfish for marriage; well... duh! When you creep on teenagers and marry them, they will turn out to be bad partners.

Also Pakhi got told no all the time. She did not get the leeway run or ruin other people's lives like Adhya is being allowed to do. Even Adhya herself told off Pakhi loooooooool. Adhya was constantly being manipulated by Anuj's entire extended family in Anuj's awareness. But selectively outrage karna hai aur whataboutery karna hai kyon ki we care so much about children.

And no, hitting kids is trashy. Adhya needs therapy.

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

The makers have a unique way of re-creating situations and scenes with contrasting characters.

Maaya sacrificing herself to save Anupama and Samar for Anuj.

If there was a Leela, there was a Barkha and Malati Devi.

In ALL, one thing is evident, the difference in treatment and outcome.

Vanraj running on the day of his marriage to Kavya, being brought back reluctantly by Anupama to marry. Anupama staying in the same house as her ex even after him re-marrying and being involved in the love-hate-love issues in their marriage.

Anupama marrying Anuj from Shah House, Vanraj being coerced to be part of the celebrations and Anupama, in many ways, showing how integral a part she continues to be in the Shah Household.

Even now, her over indulgence in Shah pariwaar and her banters with Vanraj is similar.

So, if one is wrong, inappropriate, so is the other.

Itni insecure toh Kavya bhi nahi hai Anupamaa ki "overindulgence" se despite being married to a creepy trashcan like Vanraj.

But NRI-return-Ivy League billionaire is insecure of his wife being involved in her children and grandchildren's lives. The wife he obsessed over for 26 years. 

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Itni insecure toh Kavya bhi nahi hai Anupamaa ki "overindulgence" se despite being married to a creepy trashcan like Vanraj.

But NRI-return-Ivy League billionaire is insecure of his wife being involved in her children and grandchildren's lives. The wife he obsessed over for 26 years. 

Kitni insecure thi ya nahin yeh aaj ke episode me dikh hi gaya na.

Vanraj ne Kavya se simple poocha, Anupama ke aane se tumhe problem nahin thi, she did not deny. Oh how would we forget the instances of Anupama's gyan ke moti to Kavya on grihast jeevan which she detested or Vanraj, her husband lusting over her and his mother supporting it.

What has being a billionaire got to do with expecting the wife to be an equal partner in a marriage rather than returning to her abusers only to be repeatedly insulted and abused?

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Kitni insecure thi ya nahin yeh aaj ke episode me dikh hi gaya na.

Vanraj ne Kavya se simple poocha, Anupama ke aane se tumhe problem nahin thi, she did not deny. Oh how would we forget the instances of Anupama's gyan ke moti to Kavya on grihast jeevan which she detested or Vanraj, her husband lusting over her and his mother supporting it.

What has being a billionaire got to do with expecting the wife to be an equal partner in a marriage rather than returning to her abusers only to be repeatedly insulted and abused?

Yes and then she got married and even became best friends with Upma. People can grow— incapable for people who remain obsessed with someone else's wife for 26 years lol.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Um? Bhai people don't even acknowledge that Pakhi was groomed and abused by Adhik because she has Vanraj's genes and is selfish.

Because she was not groomed. Ang genes are an excuse of perpetual bad behaviour. Wow!

As if being a bad person makes it okay for a barely legal college kid to be groomed by her mother's in-law. And then get blamed and beaten for being too immature and selfish for marriage; well... duh! When you creep on teenagers and marry them, they will turn out to be bad partners.

Clearly, the earlier episodes were either not viewed or was selectively viewed. Because Pakhi, when Anuj or his family was never in the picture had already described what she wanted in her husband and family. A rich, handsome husband where she needed to do nothing.

Also Pakhi got told no all the time. She did not get the leeway run or ruin other people's lives like Adhya is being allowed to do. Even Adhya herself told off Pakhi loooooooool. Adhya was constantly being manipulated by Anuj's entire extended family in Anuj's awareness. But selectively outrage karna hai aur whataboutery karna hai kyon ki we care so much about children.

Exactly, selective outrage is dangerous, we can see that exclusivity towards Adhya clearly.

Funnily, even after being "told off" Pakhi continues to be the brat and evil person, infact, it has only grown. So, whatever "telling off" did not help, nahin?

And no, hitting kids is trashy. Adhya needs therapy.

Adhya hit kids? When?

Comments inline. My personal opinion.

But hey, you have already mentioned, I know nothing, so 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Yes and then she got married and even became best friends with Upma. People can grow— incapable for people who remain obsessed with someone else's wife for 26 years lol.

You are taking the example of Anupama for growth? Who wouldn't let go of the 26 year of obsession with ex.

Sure. Somewhere we agree.

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Comments inline. My personal opinion.

But hey, you have already mentioned, I know nothing, so 🤷🏻‍♀️.

She was very much groomed. Adhik even admitted to his sister that he'd get a claw in Anuj's property by wooing his stepdaughter, just because they flipped the characterisation every two weeks doesn't mean Pakhi was not a victim or that she owes a wifebeater like Adhik anything.

Epi 640 se aage peechhe wale episodes dekh lijiye. Lol

Oh brattish kid without a college degree is unwilling to work in a "marriage" and wants a rich handsome husband! How abhorrent! Here I thought legal teenagers are very mature for marriage. It's not as if legal marriageble age for men is 21 or anything!