Aadhya, Shruthi and Anuj are cut from the same cloth - Page 6

Originally posted by: ShahH8er

Stop indulging her needlessly when your posts aren't even read and a gamut of baseless allegations keep being made just to emphasise how Anupamaa is a victim in every scenario (you can watch and re-watch the show for that instead of engaging with someone who argues in bad faith here)

Ikr! Jumping from one topic to another without any context and without even reading or trying to understand what the other person is saying just to prove your point.
The level of hate for Aadhya and the sympathy for bio kids is just appalling and then coming on a virtual platform with rigid views to question others on why and how they dare to use terms like mental health. I can’t with such thinking!

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Well, if Adhya is a US citizen, she should be in child protection services' care.

Sorry on what basis again?

Originally posted by: whatthelife

Sorry on what basis again?

On exactly which basis is Upma called an abusive mother to her? On what basis is Anuj called a good father? Isn't he neglecting her health needs and physical wellbeing by doing his Anupamaa jaap. If she is a self-dependent child with adult parents neglecting her emotional needs, she should be put in CPS custody no? Assuming MaAn would reconcile and she would get exposed to her ABUSER again Khud hi contradictory baatein hoti hain iss forum par.

Anuj stalking his foster-unadopted child to another city in US would not have been allowed around any child, but khair.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Insecurity & uncertainty are excusable. But constantly searching out her fiancé’s ex-wife and forcing the ex’s attendance is selfish especially given the circumstance that her soon to be daughter gets triggered by the sight of the ex. Forcing the ex whilst knowing that the ex is the trigger for Aadhya’s outburst just to assuage her own insecurity is selfish and immature on the part of Shrew.

The makers have a unique way of re-creating situations and scenes with contrasting characters.

Maaya sacrificing herself to save Anupama and Samar for Anuj.

If there was a Leela, there was a Barkha and Malati Devi.

In ALL, one thing is evident, the difference in treatment and outcome.

Vanraj running on the day of his marriage to Kavya, being brought back reluctantly by Anupama to marry. Anupama staying in the same house as her ex even after him re-marrying and being involved in the love-hate-love issues in their marriage.

Anupama marrying Anuj from Shah House, Vanraj being coerced to be part of the celebrations and Anupama, in many ways, showing how integral a part she continues to be in the Shah Household.

Even now, her over indulgence in Shah pariwaar and her banters with Vanraj is similar.

So, if one is wrong, inappropriate, so is the other.

Exactly. Every character is wrong in some way. From a multi-dimensional perspective, the show is nothing but thrash!

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

On exactly which basis is Upma called an abusive mother to her? On what basis is Anuj called a good father? Isn't he neglecting her health needs and physical wellbeing by doing his Anupamaa jaap. If she is a self-dependent child with adult parents neglecting her emotional needs, she should be put in CPS custody no? Assuming MaAn would reconcile and she would get exposed to her ABUSER again Khud hi contradictory baatein hoti hain iss forum par.

Anuj stalking his foster-unadopted child to another city in US would not have been allowed around any child, but khair.

Abandoning a little kid and running away is not abusive? In what world? Anuj is a good father as he didn't run away like a coward.

if you don't even acknowledge that leaving a adopted kid and running away is abusive there is absolutely no point in anyone ever talking to you about anything

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Aadhya is not a little kid. She is a teenager and at 15, hopefully she is learning some etiquette and coping skills. She can hate her mother all she wants, behaving like an entitled brat is another. Behaving rudely to Bapuji, creating a scene cos her dress got ruined, these are acts of a spoilt brat. No one here is comparing her with Anupama’s biological kids, Paakhi is no better. And as for Paritosh, he is beyond help.

She was abandoned as a little kid. Trauma builds from childhood. And any psychiatrist will tell you that abused and abandoned kids act out for attention.

Her behavior is reminiscent of someone having trauma and it's very very common with kids and teens who went through abandonment. She was a well behaved child but had trauma and underwent this change. Her behavior is a direct result of Anupama's action.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/abandonment-issues#:~:text=People with abandonment issues may,person may act without thinking.

From the above link

People with abandonment issues may develop harmful communication techniques to ease their anxiety.

For example, they may engage in attention-seeking behavior to get the love they feel they might lose. This may also have associations with impulsivity, where a person may act without thinking

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This is one of the things the writers have got 100% right, she is acting up as now she is scared of losing her dad.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

On exactly which basis is Upma called an abusive mother to her? On what basis is Anuj called a good father? Isn't he neglecting her health needs and physical wellbeing by doing his Anupamaa jaap. If she is a self-dependent child with adult parents neglecting her emotional needs, she should be put in CPS custody no? Assuming MaAn would reconcile and she would get exposed to her ABUSER again Khud hi contradictory baatein hoti hain iss forum par.

Anuj stalking his foster-unadopted child to another city in US would not have been allowed around any child, but khair.

I never said Upma is an abusive mother ... she was an absent parent in Adhya's life who would be around the child only when nothing else in the entire world came up ...

Anuj may not be the best father but he is definitely better than the mother who was never there for her. In Adhya's own words, he sucked in his sorrow and helped Adhya when Upma walked out (for a lame reason, and dare she do this with her bio children?) ... She was a happy child until Upma showed up again ...

and about Anuj still longing for Upma, I agree with you there ... but that alone is not a reason for CPS to take the child away ... if that's the case, there will be a shortage of CPS services in this part of the world lol

@bold - what?!
who is stalking who child ...

Both anuj aadhya indirectly disown anupama

Aadya did not ask anuj where mummy has gone .she was ok anupama has gone I don't think that aadhya Has miss anupama in all these years .she must be praying that anupama should not return bavk

Anuj was saying addressing to anupama as anupama instead of anu( when anupama return after accident )

Baatein chahe Kitni lacchedar kare anuj But u have disown anupama tabhi to anu ke bajaye anupama word use Kiya.

Anupama ne nahi choda anuj aadhya ko balki anuj aur aadhya ne disown Kiya hai anupama ko

If anuj did not want to leave anupama seriously he would have stop her would have file sec 9 but he,did not do such thing

Face is that aadhya is jealous person she just want sole attention by hr parents and could not tolerate anupama giving love ti other children

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Both anuj aadhya indirectly disown anupama

Aadya did not ask anuj where mummy has gone .she was ok anupama has gone I don't think that aadhya Has miss anupama in all these years .she must be praying that anupama should not return bavk

Anuj was saying addressing to anupama as anupama instead of anu( when anupama return after accident )

Baatein chahe Kitni lacchedar kare anuj But u have disown anupama tabhi to anu ke bajaye anupama word use Kiya.

Anupama ne nahi choda anuj aadhya ko balki anuj aur aadhya ne disown Kiya hai anupama ko

If anuj did not want to leave anupama seriously he would have stop her would have file sec 9 but he,did not do such thing

Face is that aadhya is jealous person she just want sole attention by hr parents and could not tolerate anupama giving love ti other children

Anuj and Adhya indirectly disowned Anupamaa because Anupamaa directly disowned them . Surely, Adhya dislikes Anupamaa for many reasons, one of the main reason being - walking out on her. Hence she does not miss her. She has nothing but anger towards her and rightly so.

We can keep beating around the bush till the cows come home, but the core of the problem will not change. No mother, absolutely no mother on this earth would walk out of the life of a child in a fit of rage over an argument. If there are mothers like that in reality, my sympathies for the child.

Sibling jealousy is no joke, childhood trauma isn’t a joke either. What is funny is that a mother disowns her child over an argument and calls herself the “beshtt Maa”.