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Posted: 2 years ago
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After witnessing MAA's emotional breakdown, Dheeraj, who hardly knows MAA for five minutes, reached the sensible conclusion that only Anuj was at fault. smiley24He justified his claim by reminding Anuj that since he married a mother, he needed to accept MAA's negligence toward him and his child. smiley29But, Aisha can't find Anuj's fault even after looking through a magnifying glass. smiley5Every person gets married to someone's daughter/son, sister/brother. If just one day after marriage a man/woman tells his/her spouse that since he/she is someone's son/daughter or sister/brother, he/she can not go on a honeymoon leaving his/her parents, will you support him/her? If a working mother enters and leaves office as per her convenience, and tells her boss, " Maa Hu Ne, Meri Bahut Saree Responsibilities Hain, I can't be at office during working hours, Please Meri Salary Kaam Maat Ki Jiye", will you support her? Your new commitment just does not need to adjust with your prior commitments, your prior commitments also need to welcome your new commitment. After the second child arrives, the mother has to prioritize the new baby over the older one for a few months as newborns require much more attention and care. Similarly, when you enter a new relationship, you need to prioritize the new relationship over your other relationships as anything new requires more care. People are blaming Anuj for requesting AnupaMaa to prioritize him, but nobody finds any fault in MAA for always prioritizing Shah's over him. Just because Anuj married a divorcee mother, he is not required to tolerate her kids' and ex husband's tantrums everyday in his house. Anuj needs to deal with Toshu's suicide drama, Pakhi's lavish wedding demands, and Pari's fever as he has married a MAA, but if he expects MAA to call his daughter then he is forcing his kid on her. Dolly also belonged to that house for 25 years, but neither she nor her husband gets involved with every petie problems of that family. But, MAA needs to take every problem of that family on her shoulder giving the excuse of belonging 25 years to that family. Anuj maybe a bad son, brother, and father, but he is not a bad husband. He did not make any unreasonable demands to her. And, neither his current behavior is wrong. He did not misbehave with her, or stopped talking to her. He hugged her, kissed her, and is living a normal life with her when nothing is normal in their life. The only two things he did not do are not asking her to visit SH in a 24-hour period, and ignored her bedroom eyes. Only these two activities made her believe his love is diminishing. Did she for once think if him not cuddling her for a day make her so unsecured, how he felt when she let Baa falsely accuse him of hurting Bapuji? Anuj has his share of flaws, but still he is a much better person than MAA, and MAA is the only one wrong here.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Actually the fault lies with the show's name. That name and her karname can never be wrong. All her actions are justifiable so I think we should stop overthinking on this show as it is completely one sided. Anupama will never understand from where Anuj's outburst came from.

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Posted: 2 years ago
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I kinda agree that Maa can prioritize her adult loser kids too but whats up with Maa prioritizing her ex hubby,ex in laws too over her adopted 6 years old kid n new husband ? She is not Maa of baa,bapuji n vanraj naa ya phir unki bhi Maa hai yeh ?

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Even i can't understand this woh maa hai 26 years ka relationship hai bhai har ladki marriage karke susral jaati hai aur phir khud uske maa baap bolte hain apne husband ki care karo apna ghar dekho

N for maa label when bache r married they r not responsibility of mother warna V n dolly r responsibility of baa n kinjal rakhi responsibility right

Married couples r responsible there doing

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Anuj's fault is that he didn't marry a woman, he married jagat maata🤣


Naahi biwi naahi beti naahi daadi naahi kisi rishte mein rehnaaaaa

Wo hai sirf MAAaaaa.....anupaMAAaaaaaa

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Posted: 2 years ago
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I just remembered shristi tavde's rap song- main nahi to kaun be


If anupama got chance she will sing- MAA nahi to kaun be🤣

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Posted: 2 years ago
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I would say this no woman will go to ex hubby house after divorce like anupama even in most modern USA


No woman will call ex hubby parents as her parents and do their seva after divorce


No decent kids will live with father who cheated on their mother after their divorce


Everything is against society and esatblished rules and norms


Regarding CA if anyone get a puppy or kitten home we give it max attention and love for atleast a year over any other pet or human at home because its small and new to home


Even if other pets or kids at home they will understand that new member gets max care and time and will not simply call mother or wife(ex wife in vanraj case) for silly reasons and do their own work unlike anupamas 3 brats who are adults and ex hubby who has his own wife


So whys anupama going so crazy over her ex hubby house when kavya is the wife there is a mystery


If its her 3 kids - when hubby divorced anupama those 3 kids did not walk out of daddy home with mother and left her alone. If not for anuj and malvika anupama would be on streets why bother about such ungreatful kids kaputs. Anyways they are adults. If those good for nothing supported anupama and walked out with her yes anupama support is justified not otherwise. When toshu and pakhi do not care why shes running behind for validation?

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Posted: 2 years ago
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I have learned to not get my expectations up & always be disappointed with the show. No trust in PH at all

Deeraj was brought to glorify Dungarpama

Her tantrums worked in making Anuj feel guilty & further gaslight him

Also anyone getting annoyed with Rupali acting where she is crying & blubbering. OMG I wanted to take tissues and stuff her mouth full. So damn annoying

Lady neglected CA like fruitcake at Christmas & now is claiming she can’t live without her!? Drama queen to the extreme
I don’t even think she has called CA yet? I fast watch the shows online cause I can’t stand Anu/Shahs so maybe I missed the call

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Posted: 2 years ago
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Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

I have learned to not get my expectations up & always be disappointed with the show. No trust in PH at all

Deeraj was brought to glorify Dungarpama

Her tantrums worked in making Anuj feel guilty & further gaslight him

Also anyone getting annoyed with Rupali acting where she is crying & blubbering. OMG I wanted to take tissues and stuff her mouth full. So damn annoying

Lady neglected CA like fruitcake at Christmas & now is claiming she can’t live without her!? Drama queen to the extreme
I don’t even think she has called CA yet? I fast watch the shows online cause I can’t stand Anu/Shahs so maybe I missed the call

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Very apt ..she is behaving like a victim but real victim is Anuj and ca ...dhiraj is brought here to put Anuj in bad light and show Anupama once again as victim ...reality is different

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Posted: 2 years ago
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I have lived in the USA for my entire childhood and have been married for 27 years. I am in the same age group as Anu possibly maybe older by three years give and take. I have cousins, colleagues, friends, and sisters, who are divorced, divorced with kids( much younger than Anu’s batimaaz kids) and remarried but what I have never seen is a woman who runs to her ex- inlaws house to worry about their health, safety and emotional well being over her husband of (6m) and his adopted child. I will use my sister for example, other than monthly child support payments, my sister has not seen nor spoken to her ex-husband in person or over the phone since her divorce 14 years ago. My parents and younger siblings would be the ones dropping her off and picking my niece up from her father’s house after their visits. She is now 16 and can do it herself. My cousin got custody of her daughter the same year as my sister. My cousin’s ex got 8 weeks of visits during the summer. My cousin after the divorce only deals with her ex through her attorney, there is no dealing with her ex-in-laws nor dealing with her ex period. I have colleagues who have remarried divorces with kids and they brought their kids into marriage or fostered kids but yet, but I have never seen anything like the one with Anupama. Even my husband wouldn’t put up with me neglecting our kids and him for my family and their issues daily. No spouse would. I know no American-born and raised spouse would for sure. My desi, American-born kids wouldn’t put up with any kind of this behavior from their spouse.

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