I used to be a big believer in marriage. Still am. have this conventional dream of husband and kids .
The more I grew up the more I saw how demanding it is, the less thrilled I felt abt arranged marriage
It felt like, ur making all these compromises and sacrifices for someone u don’t even really love...feels moot
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U wouldn’t think twice abt making those compromises for someone u love like ur mom, dad, sister etc...it makes sense when the person u are getting married to has the same position in ur heart and mind as them
Now u could genuinely fall in love with the person during the arranged marriage process that’s fair.
But most people get married if the person is “good enough on paper” or if the person “isn’t bad” in the arranged marriage process
It feels a lot like “make all these compromises and sacrifices first, then hope some day there will be love to not make it seem like such a drag”
I just cannot wrap my head around it 😐
Also why does society think a person isn’t settled till he/she gets married? Given there is no promise things will always be fine after marriage? Is anyone ever settled ? I don’t think anyone ever reaches a stage in their life where their problems vanish and they have nothing left to accomplish / no struggle
People who are successful worry themselves sick Trying to maintain the success...add to that a whole host of problems like health issues, issues having children, issues with children themselves , family politics
Kya settle bhai?
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