There are sadly many women who face what Babita did, even if they marry at an older age, are educated, have jobs, etc. Financial independence does not always help when you are socially conditioned to be submissive when dealing with your husband/in-laws. I have seen so many examples of this that I've lost count. The conditioning is so solid that at times the woman in question is not even aware that she is a victim of it, and neither is the rest of the family.
and this is not also about how the in laws are or how bad or good they are. People are generally grey not black and white. Once a person is too submissive and starts listening to everything, never even shows that she is not liking it because of her thinking, people around her will take her for granted. People are not generally intellectual enough and have a good perspective of others feelings to get what the other person is feeling. On top of it they may have been similar DIL s before so they think it is the norm, or they will think they are blessed to have a DIl who listens to everything never demands anything, never asks or questions anything. So they will just go along with it. It is a similar situation in which parents praise their obedient children that my child listens to everything i say, is obedient, never throws tantrums , never asks for things etc etc. without thinking that children will have questions and they need to have a dialogue with them instead of blindly expecting them to follow what they say. The child then has a standard to live up to, similar to what a good bahu has a standard to live up to
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