Patiala Babes: Episodes Two to Three
Ashok Comes Home
For the purpose of today's thread, I'm going to break it down according to what I liked and didn't like. My opinions won't align with yours of course, but just don't send hate for it.
What I Liked:
Dadu - He continues to surprise me tbh. In my initial viewing I had skipped these episodes but even then, I hadn't always hated him. More than any other Khurana, he went out of his way to support Babita and check up on her from time to time. So when Babita made her outburst on her wedding day and said that she simply tolerated them all and didn't do anything out of genuine love, I felt incredibly bad for him. Yes, he may not have done as much as he should have, but he still supported Babita and loved her sincerely. He does see all the sacrifices she makes, and all the hard work she puts in to make them all happy. When Ashok came back, he was the only one who called out for her. Once to serve them all tea (it will give her an excuse to finally come out and meet Ashok), and the second time to sit with them and have dinner. In his own little ways, he tries to keep her around so that she can be a part of their family and not just someone who serves them.
Minnie - I liked her a lot in these two episodes. From her preparing little conversations that she will have with her Papaji but then failing to actually say anything to him; to the inner monologue she had about Ashok's absence and how much she and Babes missed him; to her being incredibly upset about the doll Ashok brought him - it was all beautifully portrayed. Ashok wasn't even there for her birth. The only connection that she has with him is through the stories that she has heard and the pictures she has seen. Her constantly calling him a stranger is truly sad. One shouldn't have to feel that way about their own father, and yet she does.
Sukhi - I always loved this guy and I still do. Why he loves Lovely will always be a mystery to me, but this dude is a gold mine. He's so kind and polite; his camaraderie with Minnie is great, and him feeling guilty over having the AC room was a touching moment. He, out of everyone in that house, saw that it will be the right thing to give it up for just one night and yet no one takes him seriously. 😒
Babita - In the first episode we saw her in a plain look, with beige clothes and bare to no make up. Ashok is coming back and she finally decides to dress up. She's wearing traditional deep red, puts on some bangles and applies make up. She finally pays some attention to herself and even talks to a photo of Ashok and blushes. Then comes Lovely with her taunt of keeping her shame in check since there are elders around the house. The disgust I felt in that moment is to another level. Her husband is coming home after five years, and you're going to tell the wife to keep herself in check?
Babita does what Babita does. She takes off the bangles, puts her hair up in a bun, wipes off the make up and changes out of her clothes to again something plain. We saw the first instance of just how deep her repression goes. Yesterday, she was vocal about Minnie apologizing because she didn't want anyone to question her upbringing. Today, she didn't want anyone to comment on her being provocative. But the thing is, it's her husband. She shouldn't be shamed for wanting to dress up for him or wanting him period.
It really puts her relationship with HS to another perspective, especially Dheere Jalna. In that moment, he wanted her and she him. That was made abundantly clear but she stopped herself from doing anything because she has been shamed for her desires for seventeen long years. Then for people to judge her because she wanted to bask in her marital life, sickens me now. Just look at the kind of home that she was living in? If she wants some time where she's showered with unlimited love, then what's wrong with that?
Meeta - Despite her being the other woman, there's something about her that makes her likeable. Maybe it's her confidence, or maybe it's just Hunar's acting, but I like her. I particularly liked the portion where she told Ashok that Babita has the right to know about her. She has the right to know that Ashok doesn't want to spend a night with her or any day for that matter. Meeta has a selfish motive for thinking this way, but she is correct. It's not right to keep his family in the dark about such a grave matter. Babita is going to react in a bad way regardless of how the news comes to her. There isn't a single person out there who would take news of an affair in a positive way. There will be tears, anger, frustration and a lot of ugliness. You just gotta own up to it.
What I Didn't Like:
Lovely - Everything about her, I absolutely hate. There is nothing good about this woman, it's just all so venomous. First of all, she's the biggest source of Babita's insecurities. She doesn't spare a moment to taunt or humiliate her, and yet she expects Babita to do everything for her. Ashok comes home after so long and she literally hogs him and behaves as if no one loves him more than her. When it comes to gifts, she takes everything and spares nothing for Babita. Dadu has to point out that Ashok must've brought something for Babita. What does she do? She searches through her gifts and leaves behind something that she doesn't want. It's such a petty move, it's unbelievable. Then, when the cooler breaks down, she berates Babita in front of Beeji and Ashok. She doesn't think twice before going into Babita's closet and grabbing the blanket for Ashok, showing she doesn't care much for Babita's privacy. Later, she tells Babita not to be sad as it is just for one night. The next day, the cooler will be fixed, Ashok will be hers as well and they can enjoy their honeymoon. 🤢 Who the hell even says this? The amount of attention she has given to Babita's sex life in these three episodes is unbelievable. Just let the woman be!
Beeji - Her constantly siding with her kids is getting annoying. Then, when Dadu says anything to support Babita, she berates him. Like eff off woman! Again, when the cooler breaks down, she actually supports Ashok sleeping separate from Babita but plays it off as if it's Babita and Ashok's choice. Them living away from each other is all her fault. She doesn't even consider Babita in this equation. She simply sees it as Ashok staying away from her. Babita and Minnie were used as baits to make Ashok keep coming back to visit them. He didn't, and the two were left to suffer horribly.
Ashok - It was weird to see him not yelling, or screaming or fighting with someone. Him being lovey dovey with Meeta, or polite with his parents... it took me some getting used to. It definitely gave a glimpse into the type of man that both Babita and Meeta loved in their own ways. He's not out and out horrible. He actually seems to be a decent guy who just ends up doing a lot of stupid shit.
Him not being on social media makes sense because he doesn't want his family to know about Meeta. But for him to share absolutely nothing, like his work or the friends he has is a bit overboard. Moreover, him not even knowing how old Minnie is, or what grade she's in - that was too much for me. Even if they didn't send photographs to each other, did they never speak over the phone? Did he not once inquire about how she's doing? This is something that every desi relative asks about kids just to make small talk, and he couldn't even do this for his own daughter?
Although superficial, at least he tried to make some small talk with Minnie. He couldn't even do that with Babita. The woman was ready to give him her jewelry if it meant helping him out with financial difficulties, and yet he couldn't be bothered to ask how she's been doing? I was actually surprised to learn that he actively tried to find ways to not sleep in the same room as her during his last few visits. I always assumed his family came in the way, but the fact that he initiated these separations is another thing.
Other Thoughts:
Ashok is a shitty person for keeping Babita and his whole family deluded for so many years. He should have come out with it a long time ago. Better yet, if he had been feeling that lonely, he should have spoken up about taking Babita and Minnie along with him. They're his wife and daughter, he had the right to do so.
The gift scene puts a lot of things HS did into perspective.
Ashok not knowing how old she is, brings her a doll, something that is entirely useless to her. The hell is she going to do with that piece of plastic? He's her father. He should have done more to connect to her and know about her. HS on the other hand, whilst not really having a strong connection to her, bought her her first ever camera. Something she carried with her long into her life and assisted her in her career. It's the first gift that he ever gave her and will remain the most precious.
Ashok didn't bring anything special for Babita, despite her being his wife and him coming back after five years. Yes, he doesn't feel the need to since he's already with someone else but even long back with the earrings, he didn't put a lot of effort into them. The earrings are incredibly plain and frankly ugly as hell. Yet, Babita cherishes them because they're from him and she considered them to be a token of his love when they're really not. HS on the other hand, brought her a personalized gift. They're pretty to look at it, has a bit of pink which is her favorite color, and are just colorful in general. They look light and cute, and can be paired with any outfit she chooses. Moreover, he sent someone home to give the gift to her personally. He didn't disguise it as a general gift for everyone, that she'll have to pick and choose from. No, he let her know that he got something for her and her alone, and increased her anticipation with his countdown. That level of attention and extra effort that he put into making her happy is special.
When Babita was talking to Minnie about her and Ashok's anokha pyaar, it sounded as if it was something that she used to convince herself this separation is worth it. She may have had a different idea of love at the age of eighteen, but then as she grew up, she changed that idea into something that will comfort her on lonely nights. After all, if her love isn't unique, then how else can she justify her being separated from her husband for so long? I don't know if she and Ashok ever had a conversation about them being in this together in regards to their separation, but it sure sounds like something she just told Minnie to keep her quiet. Babita deluded herself with a lot of things largely because she had no other choice. She couldn't voice out her concerns to anyone in that house. If she even made a whisper of it, they would all eat her alive. Sukhi would reassure her that she's over thinking. She may not feel comfortable talking to Dadu about this. Beeji and Lovely will just chew her out and bash her like there's no tomorrow for even daring to think so negatively about their beloved Ashok. She can't speak to Minnie about this as it'll worry her unnecessarily and it's not necessarily something you want to share with your child. Her neighbor Rano is a loud mouth like Lovely, and there haven't been any friends in the neighborhood that we know of. Babita has lived an incredibly lonely life and it's just really, really sad.
They played their own tune for Din Shagna Da, and a portion of the song as well. PB's love for this song is to another level. 😆
Overall, these two episodes were good. I could always do with less of Lovely though. I just don't like the actress for it. She grates my nerves too much.
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