Suman : the anti-thesis of what Shravan is looking for in a partner

BinKuchKahe. thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Sparkler Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 10 years ago
#1

Just wanted to discuss some of the major parallels I noticed in today's episode between Ramnath/Nirmala & ShraMan..

Seems like the real theme of the show - Self respect VS love is coming into play finally. IMO this show was never just about 2 friends reconciling & becoming one.. that is just part 1 of the story which we've finally crossed. Now comes the second part - the real deal.
ShraMan's connect was always there even when they were apart from each other. They were out of sight, but never out of each other's mind & hearts. The love was always there. Getting to the confession is not a problem either, because its only time that they will realise their feelings for each other. The real conflict IMO has always lied in their different outlooks towards life which have been shaped by their own circumstances & prejudices.

Suman is ambitious & wants to be independent. She wants to earn money, pay off the debt that didn't let her parents live a peaceful life. Nanu wants to find a man for her who will support her in fulfilling her dreams & ambitions.. question is will Shravan be able to support her?
The answer is not that easy.

Shravan has decided to move on from the past & start afresh with Suman as a friend. But has the past been forgotten? NO. The past holds memories of his mother leaving when he needed her the most. It holds memories of Suman breaking his trust when he needed her the most. As a friend he can overlook what Suman did, but as a husband will he able to overlook what she did?

Shravan wants a woman who will never leave his side.. and today he questioned his mother's absence for the last decade.. did she ever check up on how he is doing? Parallel. Did Suman contact Shravan over the past decade?

Shravan wants a woman who will wait for him "ladkiyon ko wait karaya jaata hai" & won't think too much. Quite unlike what Suman is.. quite unlike what his mother was. Parallel.

Shravan wants a woman who isn't manipulative & a woman without an ego. Quite unlike his mother who two-timed (even though its not the truth). Quite unlike his mother who was persistent in proving herself right against Ramnath while her son lay in bed. She even left him. Quite unlike Suman who "manipulated" Ramnath & Lalaji into coaxing Shravan for marriage & did not give him his space.

Also its interesting that Ramnath noticed Suman's independence (her working which he disapproved of in the first episode) as well as her ability to balance family (Ramnath thanking Suman for taking care of Shravan).. something Nirmala was never able to do.

Shravan may love Suman from the depths of his soul.. but in his practical mind (at least until he realises his love for her) she will never be his choice because she is not the kind of life partner he is looking for. She is quite the anti-thesis of the woman he is looking for. He has truly moved on in that sense.

Looking forward to see how Shravan moves past his prejudices to accept that it is Suman for him, even though she isn't the one he has been looking for. And that Suman is able to recieve the much needed love in her life without compromising her self respect.
Kyunki mil jaate hai dil jo bane.. Ek Duje Ke Vaaste❤️


Do share your thoughts.

Cheers,
Samridhi

Edited by AyeChavanni - 10 years ago

Created

Last reply

Replies

50

Views

5.8k

Users

28

Likes

366

Frequent Posters

poppinss thumbnail
11th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail
Posted: 10 years ago
#2
Wonderful post. The main discord is not if they love each other. .. But willlove conquer all?

Will Suman be able to love this mcp shravan? She loves the young sweet boy. That is the person she can never forget not this grown shravan. Who seems to be a replica of his dad.

Yes you can live on love and fresh air. But it will be very short!


Only the relationship of a mother and child is mostly unconditional. Every other relationship is conditional. Sumo wants to marry shravan thinking that she had her old friend back. But this is her first clue as to how much he had changed and for the worse.

I don't think sumo or anyone else could change shravan. His change needs to happen from within through his need to change. The motivation will come when Sumo reveals to him that she loved him as the old shravan and was upset that he did not care that she was moving on. But now she cannot look past friendship with this guy that she has seen today.

Cause If you noticed. .. Sumo knocked and entered shravans room today. She has already set her boundaries for their relationship. Lets see how the big reveal will hit shravan. Sumo saying that she loves the young shravan and friendzoning this desirable one is going to shake shravan up.

I always thought why shravan turned out so bad when sumo is so much better. Even though they have both lost parents at a young age. I think the difference is in positive and negative parenting. While all of sumos childhood memories are happy ones... None seem good for shravan. The only ones that have been good are the ones with sumo. Hence he unknowingly depends and expects a lot off her.

Edited by poppinss - 10 years ago
spnfan thumbnail
12th Anniversary Thumbnail Most Posts (July 2022) Thumbnail + 6
Posted: 10 years ago
#3
Right now shravan dont want to get married at all but if he is forced to get married he will choose a bimbo who he can dominate as much S hr wants, a girl who don't.have an.identity of her own and who will be tpo dependent on.him which indirectly.means.she cant.leave him.evenif she wants... From no angle suman is like that... Suman May adjust upto a limit for someone else but she is sumo in front of shravan and sumo does what she.wants and make people do what she likes... Suman is in.her sumo mode at the fullest when.she is with shravan which won't go.down well with shravan of they get married... She gets angry and.impulsive if shravan dont act the way she expects him to act and he is no more that young shravan who worshipped his sumo... That is gonna create alot of problems
950842 thumbnail
Posted: 10 years ago
#4
For love to blossom, they need to come to a common consensus, a middle ground between expectations, between practical and perfection. Only then can they truly become the people that we saw in love.
Echoesofpassion thumbnail
18th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 4
Posted: 10 years ago
#5
Sammy!! 🤗

At first I actually did not recognize that it was you cuz of your new username haha!😆😆 Honestly I wasn't happy with today's episode and it's execution especially with the montage flashbacks...but dude! Your post as always was SO on point! WORD to everything you said! The parallels are just too good in this show. I noticed the similarities between Sumo and his Mom too, I honestly did not think cvs would show it that way but it's quite clever and opens up a lot of potential for Shraman's "journey" from hereon😳 So an intelligent move on cvs part!

About Shravan moving past his views and giving in to his true feelings from Sumo, and Sumo maintaining her self respect while also giving into her feelings for Shravan, THAT is the real story of this show! And you said it so perfectly👏

Them mending their relationship is definitely a HUGE part, but once they get past that, THIS is what will determine the rest of the journey.
Edited by Echoesofpassion - 10 years ago
Echoesofpassion thumbnail
18th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 4
Posted: 10 years ago
#6

Originally posted by: poppinss

Wonderful post. The main discord is not if they love each other. .. But willlove conquer all?

Will Suman be able to love this mcp shravan? She loves the young sweet boy. That is the person she can never forget not this grown shravan. Who seems to be a replica of his dad.

Yes you can live on love and fresh air. But it will be very short!


"The main discord is not if they love each other. .. But willlove conquer all?" 👏

Thats exactly it!!!😳😆
VellaGirl thumbnail
12th Anniversary Thumbnail Explorer Thumbnail
Posted: 10 years ago
#7

For the first time I liked your post more than the episode😆
saw your comments in the AT.. amazing that you came up with such a beautiful post despite not liking the episode👏
Aadee04 thumbnail
11th Anniversary Thumbnail Navigator Thumbnail
Posted: 10 years ago
#8
Well ,
The initial promo of the serial where Suman goes to meet Shravan at his office after he returns back and shows her their photo collages and the serial which was being shown was different .
The promo didn't match .
But as you said , the real deal starts now .
Self respect vs Love.

Shravan has a scarred memory of his mother leaving him at an age of what 17 without any explanation or was it well concealed by his dad ?
Hard for a boy to understand the dynamics .
And also his only best friend ridiculed him infront of everyone
Adding to the misery .

Now they have to find a common ground on which they would accept each other even though the friendship is present .
And love will eventually follow .
That intense love . :D ( hoping too much .haha )
Till then , this would be fun . :D

-God bless
...-Riya-... thumbnail
14th Anniversary Thumbnail Sparkler Thumbnail
Posted: 10 years ago
#9
I always enjoy reading your posts. I specifically loved the last 2 paras of this one.😳

I was just thinking of Urvashi today. She's dam* lucky that their rishta fell through or else her puny sized gold-digging brain would have not been able to handle 'this' Shravan.😆 And then I would have been forced to feel sorry for her.😆

It's paramount that Shravan deals with his mommy issues before marrying anyone because I would not like to see someone like him father any daughters. I guess since Shravan's fears and insecurities are all out in the open for Suman to see, an arranged marriage between them (at least for now) is very unlikely. Thank God for that.😆 We can be rest assured that Suman would never marry someone for whom she'd have to compromise with her self-respect.
Edited by ...-Riya-... - 10 years ago
travelholic thumbnail
10th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail Networker 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 10 years ago
#10
i love love love reading your posts always!
agreed with everything you said! now i want to see what happens? will shravan heal his past wounds slowly (hopefully get out of manipulative ways of his MCP dad - sorry to anyone who likes ramnath but i personally hated him today) and then start respecting women again. he needs to do that before he can fall in love as respect precedes love

Related Topics

Top

Stay Connected with IndiaForums!

Be the first to know about the latest news, updates, and exclusive content.

Add to Home Screen!

Install this web app on your iPhone for the best experience. It's easy, just tap and then "Add to Home Screen".