I do realize the 'support' from the family can be nothing more than a coercion tactic to stay in the marriage but it can also be otherwise. That is when it gets worse because you get no one to turn too..
I was rather talking about real support. This was years ago.. Happened in my neighborhood. Arranged marriage happened and the sweet relationship turned sour with an affair. Husband was gone in a matter of months. The girl was left, pregnant
But more than her family, it was the MIL who supported her DIL and raised the child. I remember the elders even talking in a hush about how she had asked the girl to remarry. Of course it is another thing that the girl declined to marry again. She decided to pursue her studies further and did really well I think๐
That was the kind of support I meant. Something that makes you want to believe in love and family๐
I do believe that a love marriage is fine as long as one understands what love is.. Like you said, lust and simple attraction are considered to be divine love today. It is all chemistry you see๐
And that attraction becomes too much that the ones who are barely out of their teens think that they are the next best thing after Romeo and Juliet.๐
In any marriage, love or arranged, it takes two people to make it work. There could be a little imbalance once in a while but if that goes on and on, then the marriage stops working..
Think about SNS.. Can you imagine what would have happened if Rashi married Ahem.. I am sure he would have divorced her on day 2 and she would have set fire to his hair.. One or the other would have happened for sure. The most frightening part is, Kokila was looking at a bride and Rashi may have been that person๐ฒ
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