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Diverting from your initial list of questions but I want this out of my system. I admit I don;t have the nerve to post something like this on the forum and be mauled. Not that I am scared of a good fight but it would be just waste of time considering how vicious and imbecile folks can be...
It's about Anjali...Did I hear a groan? Not again, you say? Nevertheless hear me out. I have almost always referred to Anjali as a dumbo. The only reason being that at a very human level, for an average sane person she comes across as a dimwit.
Most recent example being, OK she stepped on something and hurt her feet, you don't walk around with bloodied feet when you have phone in your hand, especially so, when you are at least 7 months pregnant. She only wanted Shyam to make a exit without being caught ,right? So what would you and I do? Draw the attention of 0thers to your injury and that would have created enough diversion for Shyam to slip away. She could always talk to him later to check on him.
Anyways, the point of this post was that at the scripting level I empathize with Anjali's character. I liked her fine, when she wanted Khushi in ASR's life and even when she was- to quote people from the forum -"sneaking around her bro's back".
If I were Anjali and had such a traumatic past that I was trying to overcome by over compensating with the relations I have and those that I forged from there on ;it makes perfect sense to stick by Shyam, the husband of at least 3-4 years than to say Khushi who I know for about a year.After all, Shyam has never given me any reason to be unhappy about, has he?
Even if my family were to tell me, one fine day, that I am married to a cheat , who cares two hoots about me and my baby, thank you but I would like to come to my own conclusions.
Specifically because,
my family of many years- Nani , Mama ji, Mami ji, Akash, Arnav- have had no issues all these years with Shyam.
Now, suddenly, Khushi an outsider , decides to malign him and everybody is fine with that.
My brother is supporting his wife, despite the fact that she has no proof to the contrary. How is a husband-wife relation any different for my bro and bhabhi than it is between me and my husband.
You trust your wife, I trust my husband. Period. Why are you forcing your views on me? You accuse my husband then the burden is on you to prove his guilt. Have you done that?
Ok, you are my brother and you have been my pillar of strength, loving me to death...yet you don't let me have a private word with my husband to gauge for myself if he is in the wrong. You just decide I can't do any thinking for myself and that whatever you say is always right and you force your views on me. I should accept that because you love me and want the best for me.
By that logic, would it be wrong for me to say, that Khushi had plotted against us all, winning our family's hearts and trust all to get to my precious little bro and lay claim on the wealth. and I don't need to prove it. You just have to believe me, because I am your sister, and I love you and now what is best for you.
You see where this is going, don't you??
Arnav tells only Nani about Shyam admitting to his sin of adultery. The rest of the family have been forced into acceptance of and submission to Arnav's decision. because he s this big shot business tycoon , whom the Raizada's live off, they just have to finally succumb to Arnav's whims and fancies. Is that how families function?
Whatever be the past, neither Anjali nor ASR, know the truth of their parents committing suicide and what they know is only one side of the coin. ASR grudges his dad for it all and Anjali simply remains pained and scarred.
Their mother killed herself when she had a daughter of marriageable age and a 14 year old son because she couldn't bear the pain of infidelity. So,why is it disgusting that Anjali considered aborting her child? Why should she bring into this world another soul that will forever have to leave with a tormented past. Just like herself and ASR. She has seen what the circumstances, turned her brother into, dint she? They can never be normal.
I am not pro or anti abortion. But what I do believe in truly is, if I am bringing a life into this world, I will be responsible for everything to do with them. No matter what the circumstances. If I din't want a child in the first place but it happens anyways, will I truly be able to justify my role as a mom. Would that be fair to a child? I would never be happy and that in turn will not let me the mother that the unwanted child will consciously or sub consciously seek in me all of his/ her life.
If I am a mentally, emotionally fragile person like Anjali, would I be able to raise children in a way that befits a normal child. Look at ASR and Anjali's parents. What did they do with their lives, their children? How did they behave? How did ASR and Anjali turn out eventually. Both of them are emotional wrecks deep down. One dons a angry young man persona and the other goes all honey dripping to hide their anguished souls.
And look at what these children are doing to others?
ASR is rude to people, all autocratic in nature, blackmails and man handles people, is cocky about his reputation...all signs of an insecure person.
Anjali is extra nice to people and is trusting by nature s much so that it robs her of common sense.
Anyways.. I have ranted enough, but the point is I don't grudge Anjali for anything...
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