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Totally off-topic but I had another random thoughts. Another essay. Sorry, once I got started, it was hard to stop :D
As I said earlier, I understand why Aarti begged the way that she did, but I don't agree that she did the right thing in apologizing.
She shouldn't have to apologize for her actions so far. She's put her best foot forward, and despite her outwardly opinionated ways, she never tries to deceive the Scindhias in any way.
G3 asks, "why are you so distracted?". Aarti replies with "Ansh". She has shown them more respect than Vidhi and Pari combined. They outwardly fawn over them, and then proceed to manipulate them in front of a room filled with people (though Vidhi does so only when necessary. Pari straight up hates G3 I think. And really, who wouldn't?) . I love Pari, and I do sympathize with her, but I much prefer Aarti's method.
She began how she means to go on. And there's nothing wrong with that. Despite the divorce lie, she is a very honest person by nature. Honesty is not just something that is communicated through words, for her it's communicated in actions as well.
There are Bhabis who pretend to be all that is womanly grace, the embodiment of a perfect DIL, and a caring SIL. And then time passes, sometimes just a few short weeks, sometime a year or two, and what happens? Their true colours show. They don't ask after you, they don't think to include you in anything, they prefer your brothers distance themselves from you etc etc. Then there are the others, who never really fawned over you to begin with, but who you share a good relationship with regardless. Because they don't see you as someone they need to "win over". You're an important person, and you're not mocked by fake platitudes and comments.
These are Aarti's true colours, and they're quite beauiftul. She is a loving, respectful, and intelligent young woman. And the Scindhia's have put her in a position, where she finds herself apologizing for caring for her own son! She says she hasn't paid enough attention to PayPal. That's debatable, since its been not even 5 bloody days, and every move she's made has been rebutted by either PayPal or another Scindhia. PayPal have tough exteriors, distinct personalities. They're not going to be won over easily. Thats why Aarti decided to let nature take its course with them. She's very patient with them.
Aarti operates differently than most women. She lets people come to her. She shows her respect, her willingness to learn and adapt, and (potential) affection, but she lets others decide for themselves if they want to be around her. And honestly, with the amount of hate G3 directed at Ansh, and everybody's silence on the matter, why would Aarti even want to make an effort?
So far Prateik's the only one that has tried to strike up an honest conversation with her. Pari's busy with work (and rightly so). Vidhi is busy worrying about the house, and doesn't think to ask Aarti for help and involve her in it to try and build a relationship with her.
A&A are the new ones to join this house, yes. But doesn't' that mean that people who are already settled into the routine owe it to them to involve them in some way? Scindhias are expecting too much from Aarti too fast. And they're not prepared to give anything in return. Part of this is SP pride, and G3 dislike of A&A.
She was relieved when given the ultimatum, but Yash's being shot changed things. He's not just this stranger she lives with, somehow he's become her husband. And so she will do and say what needs to be done. Her apologizes and her "hand-folding" moments are not fake though. They are quite real. Because unfortunately, she has a habit of thinking everything is her fault, just because others point the finger at her. She is also genuinely guilt-ridden for what has happened to Yash. And she wants to stay with him. Those words, when she said them, came from the heart. But out of desperation, not because she truly believes any of that. Thats whats most upsetting. Yash has already realized his own role in her alienation. He will not stand for her head-bowed-down and apologetic attitude.
Once again I defend Aarti. I don't think the Scindhia's are evil. They are quite redeemable. But I think its easy to underestimate how far one's ego can take them. And how their "superior" age and standing in the house, doesn't make it okay for them to make someone else grovel. Least of all their DIL and her young son.
As I said earlier, I understand why Aarti begged the way that she did, but I don't agree that she did the right thing in apologizing.
She shouldn't have to apologize for her actions so far. She's put her best foot forward, and despite her outwardly opinionated ways, she never tries to deceive the Scindhias in any way.
G3 asks, "why are you so distracted?". Aarti replies with "Ansh". She has shown them more respect than Vidhi and Pari combined. They outwardly fawn over them, and then proceed to manipulate them in front of a room filled with people (though Vidhi does so only when necessary. Pari straight up hates G3 I think. And really, who wouldn't?) . I love Pari, and I do sympathize with her, but I much prefer Aarti's method.
She began how she means to go on. And there's nothing wrong with that. Despite the divorce lie, she is a very honest person by nature. Honesty is not just something that is communicated through words, for her it's communicated in actions as well.
There are Bhabis who pretend to be all that is womanly grace, the embodiment of a perfect DIL, and a caring SIL. And then time passes, sometimes just a few short weeks, sometime a year or two, and what happens? Their true colours show. They don't ask after you, they don't think to include you in anything, they prefer your brothers distance themselves from you etc etc. Then there are the others, who never really fawned over you to begin with, but who you share a good relationship with regardless. Because they don't see you as someone they need to "win over". You're an important person, and you're not mocked by fake platitudes and comments.
These are Aarti's true colours, and they're quite beauiftul. She is a loving, respectful, and intelligent young woman. And the Scindhia's have put her in a position, where she finds herself apologizing for caring for her own son! She says she hasn't paid enough attention to PayPal. That's debatable, since its been not even 5 bloody days, and every move she's made has been rebutted by either PayPal or another Scindhia. PayPal have tough exteriors, distinct personalities. They're not going to be won over easily. Thats why Aarti decided to let nature take its course with them. She's very patient with them.
Aarti operates differently than most women. She lets people come to her. She shows her respect, her willingness to learn and adapt, and (potential) affection, but she lets others decide for themselves if they want to be around her. And honestly, with the amount of hate G3 directed at Ansh, and everybody's silence on the matter, why would Aarti even want to make an effort?
So far Prateik's the only one that has tried to strike up an honest conversation with her. Pari's busy with work (and rightly so). Vidhi is busy worrying about the house, and doesn't think to ask Aarti for help and involve her in it to try and build a relationship with her.
A&A are the new ones to join this house, yes. But doesn't' that mean that people who are already settled into the routine owe it to them to involve them in some way? Scindhias are expecting too much from Aarti too fast. And they're not prepared to give anything in return. Part of this is SP pride, and G3 dislike of A&A.
She was relieved when given the ultimatum, but Yash's being shot changed things. He's not just this stranger she lives with, somehow he's become her husband. And so she will do and say what needs to be done. Her apologizes and her "hand-folding" moments are not fake though. They are quite real. Because unfortunately, she has a habit of thinking everything is her fault, just because others point the finger at her. She is also genuinely guilt-ridden for what has happened to Yash. And she wants to stay with him. Those words, when she said them, came from the heart. But out of desperation, not because she truly believes any of that. Thats whats most upsetting. Yash has already realized his own role in her alienation. He will not stand for her head-bowed-down and apologetic attitude.
Once again I defend Aarti. I don't think the Scindhia's are evil. They are quite redeemable. But I think its easy to underestimate how far one's ego can take them. And how their "superior" age and standing in the house, doesn't make it okay for them to make someone else grovel. Least of all their DIL and her young son.
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