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vandana

@VandyP

Trailblazer

+ 6

Posted: 15 years ago

hey frends....

its me vandy here.......😊

i'm here to post the

||~*~ Discussion Of the Week~*~||

for the week from 27th September To 3rd October 2010

I Love You....But I'm Not In Love With You.....

since this dialogue aired...it has left all of us confused.....we have seen members tearing their hair off right left and centre....in almost every thread...wondering what anuraag actually meant wen he said this to taani.....

after loads of discussions....some members concluded the following...

Anurag and Taani's relationship has always been very pure, it was based on caring for each other and they both could do anything for each other , there was nothing physical involved there .. even when they were accused of kissing they could never have imagined doing anything of the sort with each other because what they felt for each other was so pure.

If love is pure people never tend to get physical, they love through soul and they just have intense feeling for each other and start caring and loving without getting attracted sexually hence the love of taani and anurag ... hence tere liye

So when (for emotional reasons or in frustration or whatever) Anurag got physically involved with Nupur, he started thinking that is what love is because he could never think that way about Taani due to the purity of their relationship and still can't

Anurag can care , love and even die for taani \he has never imagined Taani that way so he is not able to understand that nature of love because he was never physically attracted towards Taani

So Anurag is unable to recognize this form of love and taking it as friendship

with this note...lets get together and do some serious discussion...

"Is physical Attraction necessary to be in love....Can't love just be love?????

lets see wat the members have to say abt this....😆😆😆😆and can we really put some brains into our mr. bhondu...so that he can realise who his true love is😆😆

IF Dev Team

Edited by -vandy- - 15 years ago

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SheVi4life

@SheVi4life

Dazzler

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Posted: 15 years ago

nooooo physical attraction isnt needed..belive me there r many couples which either have a pretty girl or guy but the other person isnt the prettiest person in the world..nd besides u cant love sumone based on their looks..u can have attraction but not love since u dont kno how that person is from inside..u could love a person from his looks nd later reret it if he or she turns out to be a cheater..nd isnt it hard to love a cheater doesnt matter how gud looking they are??..for me hell yea i wouldnt care if the person is damn hot or pretty if theyr a cheater or a bad person from inside..so my logic is this...physical attraction=crush only.......if u care for the person nd want to be wid them coz they have a gud nature nd are a gud hearted person=true love...so acc to me nupur is just onus crush but taani is his real love since he liked her in childhood no caring for the looks..now hes just confused..coz in all these years he has it in his mind that taani was justa friend nd since nupur was always wid him in these 8 years..shes his true love...but in the end he cares more for taani..its not like he doesnt give a cr*p to nupur..its just that he cares a lot more for taani...

nd one more thing i dislike the people who judge other wid their looks..either deciding if they could love that person or not by looks or deciding that theyr a gud person or actor by their looks=P...

nice discussion topic..we have some members in this forum who think that looks matter a lot..since ive read so many of their posts

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-Alina-

@-Alina-

Rocker

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Posted: 15 years ago

Hey Vandy di,

Hmm that's really a complicated topic to discuss...lolxx...

But on a serious note...I don't think looks does matter in love. Attraction doesn't mean that person should be good looking,handsome, beautiful etc etc. It also depends on person's nature too. I know few couples they are not that much good looking, but the thing which attracts them both is the nature of the other. Its always the soul which attracts you. As physical appearance wont last for forever, its the beauty of nature and purity of soul which attracts you the most.

Similarly, In Tere Liye, Anurag is attracted towards Nupur due to her physical appearance and like you said he doesn't know that he does love Tani as maybe he is blind by Nupur's beautiful physical appearance that he can not see purity of Tani's soul.

luv Alina

PS. This is my POV...no offence to anyone.

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vandana

@VandyP

Trailblazer

+ 6

Posted: 15 years ago

pata nahi...

i have a different view regarding this thing....

i feel physical attraction does play a major role for a person to fall in love......

i know many would disagree...but the truth is....

it does!

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Rimi.Rimz

@Rimi.Rimz

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

i can only say d love anu having 2wardz tani is only one love n if anu says i luv u bt nt in love wid u so i'll only say u r in love wid her day y u love here

u r living dat love dat y u r alive for dat love

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Megha

@IndigoBlues

Rocker

+ 4

Posted: 15 years ago

Jo banda pyaar karega

Woh hamesha mistakes ka yaar banega...😆

anu was alone for 8 years. he attached himself to nupur. a kid attaches himself to his favourite toy, he is madly in love with that toy, cannot live without it, demands that he be allowed to carry it everywhere. but the toy remains a posession-something which is immortal, the way love is, and yet can be easily broken or replaced. so though he feels for taani, he's afraid to let go of nupur, because he knows she will never leave him, unlike taani, who has already been separated too many times by cruel circumstances. so see..he loves her, but he doesn't want to' fall' into that love.

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mary78613

@mary78613

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: IndigoBlues
Jo banda pyaar karega
Woh hamesha mistakes ka yaar banega...😆

anu was alone for 8 years. he attached himself to nupur. a kid attaches himself to his favourite toy, he is madly in love with that toy, cannot live without it, demands that he be allowed to carry it everywhere. but the toy remains a posession-something which is immortal, the way love is, and yet can be easily broken or replaced. so though he feels for taani, he's afraid to let go of nupur, because he knows she will never leave him, unlike taani, who has already been separated too many times by cruel circumstances. so see..he loves her, but he doesn't want to' fall' into that love.

Wow really nice reasoning..!! totally agree with u..!!😊

Anu has always loved Taani.. He is very possessive about her.. but he is all confused about what love really is... So he has oped for the physical attraction which he has towrds nupur...When a person stays away from his family for 8 years, he gets pyaar ka BHOKA hahaha ( sorry cudnt find any other word... And jaise pyaase ko paani dekhte hai to woh forun uski taraf jata hai.. waise hi anu ko jab Nupur mili and she was willing to give all her love to him .. He quickly grasped the opportunity.. N 8 years is along time, u get used to the person.. He must have this feeling ke jab koi nahi tha.. Not taani not his family but nupur was there.. He is grateful towards her that she loved him when no one did( as he thought).. Any 15 year old if suddenly is taken away from all the people he loves will obviously think that there was sum weakness in him that his family doesnt love hm anymore... He is just confused between love and gratitude..!! Hope he figures out the difference soon..😆

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Kesha

@--Kesh--

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

Hi everyone,

I think this is my first post on this forum. I watch Tere Liye in snippets really. I do really like Harshad Chopra (loved his chemistry with Aditi in Kis Desh...) and the actress who plays Tani's role is really gud as well, but frankly I dont see the chemistry between the two. On their own they are superb. But then this is my opinion & I might be wrong.. as I said I only watch TL in snippets.

Coming to the discussion topic.. love it.

One often hear's people saying.. I love you but I am not in love with you... and it alwys makes me wonder what are they taking about😕 To me sounds as if they are taking bonkers . How can you love someone but not be in love with them 🤪. I can never get my head round it. But then does it translate to..."tum mujhe pyari lagti ho par mein tumse pyar nahi karta.." This makes more sense to me. Cos this then means; haan tum mujhe achi lagti ho, mein tumhari parwa karta hun par pyar nahi karta. It means tum achi ho per mera pyar nahi.. does this makes sense at all🤔. I dont know may be does to some.

I think LOVE is a very complicated emotion and it can mean different things to different individuals. You love your parents, your brother or sister, your boyfriend or husband, but love them all differently. I believe you can never love two people in the same way ( some may not agree), at least I say this from my experience. I am married now to the person I love but he was not my first BF. Their were others before him and each time I felt this is it.. this is the love of my life. But ofcourse that was not true. Did I love them?? Yes. May be here I can say that Yes I loved them but was not in Love with them?!? 🤔

I feel some people are in Love with the concept of Love. They are attracted to this emotion cos its intriguing in itself. Then others think they need to have someone to love (like a BF) cos everyone in his or her peer group has one. I have seen my best friend destroy her teenage life becos she hooked up with a guy cos she felt left out. 😒

I have increasingly seen lot of young teenagers mistake physical attraction for love (I dont mean to say that physical attraction is not a part of loving someone). How can you love someone if you dont love them in their entirety? I think for love to develop its really important that you love them as a whole - physically and mentally. You have to love them as a person and not just their looks. I believe that if you fall in love with someone because of their looks then thats not love its infatuation & infatuation is always short-lived.

To me loving someone is accepting them for what they are. You accept their faults cos no one is perfect in this world. But you equally appreciate their good qualities. You dont compare them to others cos no two individuals are the same. You hurt because they are hurting and you smile and laugh with them even though you may not understand the reason for this. Your heart skips a beat everytime you see them or just by a mear touch. You understand them but dont take this for granted. I believe that like every relationship loving someone needs constant nurturing. Taking things for granted can destroy the emotions. I dont believe love is possessive but I do believe that when you know you love someone and they reciprocate this feeling you strive to make this relationship successful. You fight with the whole world to live your life with them. But you never disrespect others emotions and feelings as well.

Ok.. I have gone on for ever... But like I said earlier... Love is a complicated emotion...

But what I still cant get my head round is - How can you love someone but not be in love with them 😕😕😕😕. Seriously.. sounds as if they are taking total gibberish.

Sorry guyz for the long post. Hope you like it.

Love 😆😆

Kesha

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Pooja

@pooja_l

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 14 years ago

first of all, this is one of the best dialogue i have heard in tv serials

and i think aisa hota hai, in real life too, we love our frens, but we are not in "that" love for each and every person(fren)

there is always someone very special, "special fren" or "special person"

i toh totally love this dialogue😳

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