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Originally posted by: MaliciousAngel

Hey

I don't think this is my place to say but i would suggest you do what makes you happy.

You are a really strong lady, speaking up about something of this sorts requires immense courage and you have that in you.

Your husband sounds like a nice chap but given what you said, i don't think he'll ever stand up for himself let alone you and the baby in front of his mother. And living with someone who'll never stand up for you when you need him to, is going to be a really bumpy ride.

Maybe choosing to lead your life alone will be tougher than you think, but it'll make you happy and ultimately that's what matters. I feel that keeping your baby away from such toxic environment will be better than adjusting and living a life you never wished for.

She shouldn't have to see her mom suffering everyday at the hands of her dad and grandma. That will affect the child in more ways than we think

But ultimately do what you want. Don't think what others will do or say, just do what u think is right for your baby and you. Everything else will fall into place.

The decision is up to you. You have a good family, where your parents are supporting you no matter what. Whatever you do, please don't leave your husband out. Talk to him. Tell him that if whatever the issue is, isn't dealt with then you'll have no option but to leave. He needs to know that you are not afraid to do what is best for yourself and daughter. I say this because you mentioned that you know he loves you. Well, then he should know that while you love him, you also love your daughter and yourself. I wish you and your daugther the best, with whatever your decision is.

Originally posted by: brainychild92

The decision is up to you. You have a good family, where your parents are supporting you no matter what. Whatever you do, please don't leave your husband out. Talk to him. Tell him that if whatever the issue is, isn't dealt with then you'll have no option but to leave. He needs to know that you are not afraid to do what is best for yourself and daughter. I say this because you mentioned that you know he loves you. Well, then he should know that while you love him, you also love your daughter and yourself. I wish you and your daugther the best, with whatever your decision is.

Originally posted by: amlavs

Thank u frnd for ur encouraging words...

Originally posted by: MaliciousAngel

always here if u ever need to talk

But do sit your in laws and husband down and talk once. Maybe talking to them will clear stuff out

Tell your husband what u feel. If the outcome isn't positive then do what you have to do

^ lavanya chechi( i heard your a keralite) do try to put your side of the story in front him. As for now, staying with your parents is the best possible option. Once your hubby is back, try and tell him what issues you face in his absence and try and work on the marriage.

Originally posted by: MaliciousAngel

^ lavanya chechi( i heard your a keralite) do try to put your side of the story in front him. As for now, staying with your parents is the best possible option. Once your hubby is back, try and tell him what issues you face in his absence and try and work on the marriage.

If it sees no light then at least you can be at peace that u did everything you possibly could to save this marriage. You'll be able to move on without imagining what could have been or what would have been. Closure is important and this will give u closure.

Lavanya I guess u should move on in your life with ur baby. You have a loving family in ur parents so stay with them. Staying with him and his greedy family won't be a good option in my opinion.

Originally posted by: tikit

Lavanya I guess u should move on in your life with ur baby. You have a loving family in ur parents so stay with them. Staying with him and his greedy family won't be a good option in my opinion.

See i know u would have to face a lot of challenge and criticism because a single lady with child is something which is not considered good. You should do what u want to do but i think u should stay away from such a family. It is possible that in near future they may torture your daughter too as u said they are greedy. I have seen many people doing it so out of experience i am saying it. I know ur husband loves u but still he should have interevened but whats happened has happened just move on in life.

Its a guys responsibility to make the situation fine between his wife and mother. It looks like ur husband has no say in the matter. I know its no matter of me to say this but u can happily stay with ur husband if he moves out of his parents house.

I have seen lot of people go through this situation and later they divorced him. Now they are happy and independent. I am not saying that u should divorce him but stay away from his family for ur childs sake. Your child once grows would really be proud of u for raising her/his alone and in fact everyone would be proud of u. You should take a job as a lecturer.