Isn't it normal for Partners to sometimes walk away n then come back?

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Posted: 9 years ago

Even though I understand why Swara reacted the way she did, Not supporting Swara at all, so dont misunderstand me!!

But I just wanted to share something relative to SwaSan situation right now since everyone is annoyed with Swara for walking away😆 😆 But I feel this is in a way a normal reaction as well. Please dont throw chappals at me😆 😆 😆

I have seen this things happening a lot of times between my friends. When you are annoyed at the your partner or when you think the argument has no end, you would just either hang up in frustration or will walk away. Even if they know they are wrong, they will still do that for whatever reasons. At least thats what I have seen. But in real life, things do get sorted soon. Like, my friends if they hang up like that with their partners, they will make sure they call back and try to talk and sort it out. There are times when it gets stretched for couple of days as well!! Yah, i know coz i am mostly the third wheel😡

But now here we are talking about an Indian TV serial which loves to add drama quotient way too much!! They would show the normal hanging up or walking away in anger happening between partners, but they won't show the sorting until its very much necessary or its too late😆 😆 So lets just accept this the way it is. There is nothing else we can do about it!!😆 😆 😆

Just wanted to calm everyone down. Not trying to defend Swara. Just wanted to talk about a real life situation I have seen being the THIRD WHEEL ALWAYS😆

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Posted: 9 years ago

It is very normal. Very Very normal and that is not at all why every one is bothered. 😆

The problem is her insecurity does not come across as jealousy because at this moment there is nothing to be jealous about. Sanskaar is not thinking positively about Kavita - he is thinking negatively about her. If she stops using the goddamned 'obsessed word' - it might look like she is not doubting his love but sadly it always comes across as that. 😆

I just dont find it right that she thinks she can be right and Sanskaar can be wrong just because he is thinking about Kavita. She can be jealous all she wants - but be jealous - dont sound like a woman distrusting her love because you are too dumb to believe that the other person could be right too. 😆 But the problem is she can still give Sanskaar the benefit of doubt - trust the man you love - he is not an idiot you know. He has seen the world more than her and he is quite understanding of people around him. 😆

But that is Swara for you - she trusts those who should not be trusted and she distrusts those who should be.😆

P.S : I am used to Swara's unnecessary chappad chappad - she tends to talk rubbish whenever she is worried or tensed so I ignore her. One reason why I dont like her character and dont relate to her. 😆 And Helly plays this so well that it is believable.

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Posted: 9 years ago

Well I do agree there are times when you have an arguement and dont know whether its going to end soon , a person tends to walk away. It has happened with me many a times when I argue with my best friend inspite of knowing that she is right but then get angry and disconnect the call .

Later as I ponder over the conversation I realise its important to talk it over and not drag on for long. And so the second call happens and things are sorted out or sometimes a third person has to come in between and sort it out.

Now as this is an Indian daily soap this argument is going to drag long and create a very big MU which will benefit the villains and it will be used to full advantage and then when almost everything is going to be over TAAADAAA the realisation will strike and MU's will be sorted out.

I only hope in Swasan's case it does not go on for long and is sorted out soon.

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Posted: 9 years ago

Shona... as you said walking away in real life can be sorted but in shows they dont sort it.. and hence I dont like it. My current disappointment about Swara is not that she doesnt consider Kavita as a suspect or she walked away. My main disappointment is that she is questioning the fundamental bond on which their relationship rests. Ek baar bola.. ok its fine ... but every time Sanskaar take Kavita's name and mind you, why he takes?? Because he thinks that Kavita is dangerous for Swara and then she goes and doubt his love. They both have their suspects... they both have their clues... Swara saw maasi doing suspicious things and Sanskaar saw glimpse of Kavita running away from MM like thieves.What at this point they need is to sit down and make a plan where they can keep eyes on both their suspects. Otherwise it will be like Ye dono fight karte rahenge over petty things and Kavita and Maasi will succeed

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: --Anna--
It is very normal. Very Very normal and that is not at all why every one is bothered. 😆
The problem is her insecurity does not come across as jealousy because at this moment there is nothing to be jealous about. Sanskaar is not thinking positively about Kavita - he is thinking negatively about her. If she stops using the goddamned 'obsessed word' - it might look like she is not doubting his love but sadly it always comes across as that. 😆

I just dont find it right that she thinks she can be right and Sanskaar can be wrong just because he is thinking about Kavita. She can be jealous all she wants - but be jealous - dont sound like a woman distrusting her love because you are too dumb to believe that the other person could be right too. 😆 But the problem is she can still give Sanskaar the benefit of doubt - trust the man you love - he is not an idiot you know. He has seen the world more than her and he is quite understanding of people around him. 😆

But that is Swara for you - she trusts those who should not be trusted and she distrusts those who should be.😆

P.S : I am used to Swara's unnecessary chappad chappad - she tends to talk rubbish whenever she is worried or tensed so I ignore her. One reason why I dont like her character and dont relate to her. 😆 And Helly plays this so well that it is believable.

I agree with you Anna. She is being way too stupid and naive by not even giving the benefit of doubt to him. The problem here for her is that for her and also for MM wasis, it is very crystal clear that it is Maasi (obviously not the proofs but her actions). So the stupid head is not ready to see beyond this that it can kavita especially when kavita united them😆 😆 😆

And I also feel that it wasnt her mistrust about his love talking. It was her insecurity and frustration over their plan failing to catch the real culprit was talking. Again, we know she just talks rubbish whenever she is scared or frustrated. So can't really help here😆 😆

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Lavender_Love
Shona... as you said walking away in real life can be sorted but in shows they dont sort it.. and hence I dont like it. My current disappointment about Swara is not that she doesnt consider Kavita as a suspect or she walked away. My main disappointment is that she is questioning the fundamental bond on which their relationship rests. Ek baar bola.. ok its fine ... but every time Sanskaar take Kavita's name and mind you, why he takes?? Because he thinks that Kavita is dangerous for Swara and then she goes and doubt his love. They both have their suspects... they both have their clues... Swara saw maasi doing suspicious things and Sanskaar saw glimpse of Kavita running away from MM like thieves.What at this point they need is to sit down and make a plan where they can keep eyes on both their suspects. Otherwise it will be like Ye dono fight karte rahenge over petty things and Kavita and Maasi will succeed

Nitzy they will sort it out you dont worry baby! 😉 This will continue for a few days and going from what I saw, Sanskaar will be careful from now on and I think Swara too! Kuch dinon ki baat hai and everything will be alright. 😉

Maine kaha tha na - they will have to look at each other's suspects and then will they come together. Abhi both are focused on what they saw and even though Sanskaar believes Swara - Swara does have to trust Sanskaar on Kavita. But they will soon show Swara on board with Sanskaar, I am sure of it. 😆

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Lavender_Love
Shona... as you said walking away in real life can be sorted but in shows they dont sort it.. and hence I dont like it. My current disappointment about Swara is not that she doesnt consider Kavita as a suspect or she walked away. My main disappointment is that she is questioning the fundamental bond on which their relationship rests. Ek baar bola.. ok its fine ... but every time Sanskaar take Kavita's name and mind you, why he takes?? Because he thinks that Kavita is dangerous for Swara and then she goes and doubt his love. They both have their suspects... they both have their clues... Swara saw maasi doing suspicious things and Sanskaar saw glimpse of Kavita running away from MM like thieves.What at this point they need is to sit down and make a plan where they can keep eyes on both their suspects. Otherwise it will be like Ye dono fight karte rahenge over petty things and Kavita and Maasi will succeed

I know Nitzy, not supporting her at all. She is being way too stupid here. I just told Anna that for her because Maasi is being too upfront about her displeasure with SwaSan wedding, it is very very easy for everyone to doubt Maasi. So she is just irritated thinking that when things are so clear with Maasi, why is he hell bent with Kavita being the one. She hasnt seen her do anything. So she definitely would not believe it. Also, it was her insecurity and frustation about their plan failing talking then. I didn't feel it was mistrust!! I could be wrong too. Swara really does need to give him the benefit of doubt.

Both need to either inidividually find proofs and show it to each other and come to conclusion that two witches are in this together!!! Or sit down, talk it through calmly, make a plan and figure and expose them both

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: SwaSanFanGirl

I agree with you Anna. She is being way too stupid and naive by not even giving the benefit of doubt to him. The problem here for her is that for her and also for MM wasis, it is very crystal clear that it is Maasi (obviously not the proofs but her actions). So the stupid head is not ready to see beyond this that it can kavita especially when kavita united them😆 😆 😆
And I also feel that it wasnt her mistrust about his love talking. It was her insecurity and frustration over their plan failing to catch the real culprit was talking. Again, we know she just talks rubbish whenever she is scared or frustrated. So can't really help here😆 😆

With Swara I just find it hard to understand what she is actually saying. For me its exactly what Maasi said, whenever Sanskaar takes Kavitas name, Swara chid jaati hai - so for me she is jealous and insecure and the more she questions Sanskaar - the more it will seem like she is doubting him. And she herself did say that the more Sanskaar takes Kavitas name - he is not able to forget her and she literally did question him - so she is doubting him and his love for her even if in insecurity. 😆

Simple : She needs to become his strength and not his weakness. Thats it! Give him the benefit of doubt and trust him like he trusts you.

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: --Anna--

Nitzy they will sort it out you dont worry baby! 😉 This will continue for a few days and going from what I saw, Sanskaar will be careful from now on and I think Swara too! Kuch dinon ki baat hai and everything will be alright. 😉

Maine kaha tha na - they will have to look at each other's suspects and then will they come together. Abhi both are focused on what they saw and even though Sanskaar believes Swara - Swara does have to trust Sanskaar on Kavita. But they will soon show Swara on board with Sanskaar, I am sure of it. 😆

Sailing in the same boat. I am sure its gonna be sorted and they are gonna be in this together.. And plus, Sadist in me is all ready to see Swara on death bed and Sanskaar panicking..

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Shona dear, i meant to reply even in AT but got diverted with some other conversation.

You are not wrong in defending swara. And yes i can ser you point. It makes sense. Normally couple or friends behave like it. But the problem is with the fact that i have seen angry sanskaar when swara refused to believe him and i domt want him to make an reappearnce. I just have kavitha and janki reappearnce to worry about.

So all this anger, well not anger but disappointemet towards swara stems from the fact it might lead to a big MU. And so we are worried about it. So relax. I love swara too. And i wont be able stay disappointed with her for long

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