Originally posted by: -Ros-
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Who's bashing Sanskaar???
How is Swara meant to concentrate on Sanskaar by sitting at home? He doesn't want to talk with her-- be it about their relationship or about this mysterious aunty. He practically runs from the area as soon as she comes. Sorry, but all I can see is people being frustrated at Swara. When Swara left, she said she'll set everything right.. she made it clear that their marriage and every relationship bound to him is important to her. She won't stand by & watch people-- who are dear to her-- getting tortured, especially when the deed is done by her own sister. That is not Swara.
At least she's trying to do something. Sanskaar hasn't said anything that suggests that he wants to giver their relationship another chance. Swara is getting nothing from his side. So would you expect her sit at home & wait for him to change his mind? She said she'll win him back & make her realise his love. She can only do that if she's with him. She needs to be back at MM & she can't do that when Ragini is hell bent on kicking her out of it. Swara knows about the aunty and the blackmailing... & that's what is stopping DP from speaking out. So, if she can get to the bottom of that, figure out some way to help Bade Papa & end Ragini's reign, then only can she really concentrate on winning Sanskaar back. You can't expect Swara to not do anything about this aunty, because she simply won't be able to... that's not in her nature. Trust me, I want Swara to put Sanskaar first too, but she can't do that until this whole drama ends. And TRP aunties won't like it when the positive lead stands there with her hands folded while her sasuraal gets tortured. This whole track is stupid, but Swaragini's bakwaas meter is higher than ever.
And why can't Sanskaar tell her what he wants from her? Why don't he just say it as it is? If he's acting and is planning sth & is worried for her safety, then why not tell her that? If she knows that he's already got the situation under his hand then she probably won't run after the aunty. He said he's already started his own plans in yesterday's epi but he hasn't acknowledged the aunty ever since she shared her doubts with him, so she would obviously think that his plan is not targeting the root of the problem-- the aunty? I know he's genuinely hurt and Swara knows that too... which is why she's trying to get this whole drama over with and win him back... which is exactly what she said before she left.
She needs someone from the house to help her- Sanskaar won't, DP won't... Sujata ...she must've had a reason to call Annapurna. Even if it had been Pari or Uttara, the result would've been the same. Ragini going crazy and torturing people is not Swara's fault, so Sujata has no right to blame her. It's not like Swara forced AP to help her... Or do we expect the family members to also sit there and get tortured..??
I hate this unnecessary drama too & this will probably back fire on Swara since CVs love making the negative characters win... I needed to comment because people doesn't seem to be thinking from Swara's POV. 🤔
I get your point re. Swara doesn't need to sit at home and do nothing. She can help. BUT any plan has to follow two simple rules 1) it should not already damage exiting plans that others might be working on (she hasn't bothered asking anyone what they are though she has overheard sanskar telling DP a bit about his) 2) they cannot be one that are stop gap and will not result in any benefit intact are likely to harm the family more (eg key stealing where she took the family to locker only to have them humiliated more; paper changing where she opened up DP to more blackmail; now this ap partnership which is landing ap in trouble).
Compare that to what sanskar did in terms of just getting money and telling Ragini he didn't need her money. That was much better slap and sensibly done that what Swara is going.
Second for the past few episode since that Deepika advice he has been hearing Swara out. He may not agree to it but he is listening to her. Sanskar has shared a major concern with Swara. That he feels everyone else is making decisions as they please without any regard for others and he is left cleaning up the messing and following them with little focus on what he wants. He has told her he feels that he comes second after all the missions or sometimes doesn't come up at all. He has said that she should explore relationship with family etc if and if first she wants to build something with him. He wants her to not just say that he comes first to show it as, well. He has been making it very very clear what he wants. That is what as swasan fan the worry because she isn't listening to what he is saying over and over again
So far Swara has been clear that she loved him.that he comes first to her. Has she on even one instance acted through on it? She gets hurt for a few minutes when he tells her he doesn't believe she has changed her feelings, that he is habit not love. She cries and the next day she is back on Atariya case. She is dreaming of him and then all of a sudden thinks of Atariya aunty. He tells her she puts missions first and him later, what does she do...goes to him to ask for help about Atariya aunty saying she wants to save 'apni' family not hamari family. She didn't sign the papers willingly she loves him but she isn't here to talk about that she is hear for Atariya aunty search. How does that help him believe in any ways that she has changed in respect to him? The moment he wants to believe she add to his concerns
No one is saying she shouldn't help but I find it hard to believe there is no way where she can help family without depriotising Sanskar.
Do you really think that Ragini will all of sudden take her back in mm after she reveals the truth behind Atariya aunty? Will DP allow her to reveal it in the first place? Even when she finds it out, if it is really bad, will she herself act on it to get back in mm. The answer to all this is that this will not help Swara is get back into mm or even show sanskar that he comes first, the only thing this will do will be to bring another storm In mm. I assume this isn't what she wants? The problem is that she doesnt think through her plans and what they will result it, before she goes gung-ho about them.
Sanskar doesn't want her to beg, cry, plead to him. He doesn't need her to win him (he is not some trophy) He just needs her to be with him without any other mission constantly distracting her. He needs to at least come first for someone (he sure as hell doesn't come first for his family). He wants at least someone to consider his wishes and desires... Right now Swara constantly running after missions doesn't allow for that. She effectively has one leg in two boats. He wants her to decide what is priority ...not just say it but show it for real.
Why does she need ragini's reign to be over to concentrate on sanskar. Is he imp or the mission? Her relationship with mm is through him. Right now her actions say that she values that more than her own relationship with him (which is in mess partly because of her mm focus; that is what caused Ragini to plot against her and sanskar is worried as is) That is the frustration of some of us swasan fans, that while her intentions may be well and good and she does love him, she is doing everything to actually make his concerns worse not reduce them she is trying to pass all the wrong messages to him
If she even puts her beautiful confession words into action even for a few days, he will believe her. He is dying for her to prove his concerns wrong. He loves her like crazy...even more deeply than she loves him, if she even shows that she won't get distracted by missions for one day, things will improve majorly between them.
She also need to understand that she isn't the only saviour and that sanskar isn't incapable, she needs to trust him and his skills in bringing the family out of this. He started his business without any family backing or money, and build it torte stage where it was the best in the city. He would be able to handle is one too. Having hat faith in your partner is also necessary. Here she is acting as though ere is no one in mm itself who can help them. She is the only one who can, and without being her , they will be in dire state. That is not true. That completely discounts any ability on behalf of sanskar.
Edited by foresight - 9 years ago
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