Ragini - An alternate perspective - Page 2

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

Come to think of it, the show projects the Marwari community in a very negative light. The hateful Dadi, ferociously uptight and prejudiced DPM, doormat Maheswari women including confused Annapurna, scheming Uttara, vengeful Sankskar and delusional Ragini. Not to forget the spineless Shekhar. Lakshya seems to be the only one exempted from the black-brushing.

To contrast with this picture, the Bengalis in the show are: liberal-minded, witty, sensible Dida. Strong, independant Sharmistha. Mature, sensible and chilled-out Swara. (not counting their flaws, of course)

And the most laughable thing is that they're haughtily prejudiced as such against the overwhelming native majority. Can you imagine DP having gotten so rich with such an attitude towards Bengalis? And the moral of the story is that the good sensible Bengalis will always have to continue pander to just aweful ppl?!?

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

And the most laughable thing is that they're haughtily prejudiced as such against the overwhelming native majority. Can you imagine DP having gotten so rich with such an attitude towards Bengalis? And the moral of the story is that the good sensible Bengalis will always have to continue pander to just aweful ppl?!?

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

Precisely. I burst out laughing whenever his tirades against 'Bangalaans' start. 😆 But seriously, the Marwaris in this show behave like they live in a cordoned-off neat little Marwari-world Isle of their own. But on a serious note, this is a dilemma most immigrants face. On one hand, they want to leave their homeland looking for greener pastures, but, on the other, they find it difficult to merge in with the culture and lifestyle of the host population, and end up somehow 'hating' them or convince themselves that the other culture is 'inferior'. This problem is especially acute in case of South Asian immigrants in Europe. Its an amusing paradox.

Oh yes! I'm well aware about the existential identity crisis that many SA ppl abroad face. My own relatives and many of my mother's friends even are products of this issue and being bi-racial I've been at the butt end of many of their cruel taunts. Thus I do feel a connection to swara on that end. But I don't know many, if anyone, whose been unable to merge, be as successful as DP is shown to be. That to me is insane. He talks about his izzat in samaj. Is samaj of Kolkata made up of the 1% Marwari population? I certainly can't imagine any Bengalis respecting him given his open discrimination towards them.

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

Oh yes! I'm well aware about the existential identity crisis that many SA ppl abroad face. My own relatives and many of my mother's friends even are products of this issue and being bi-racial I've been at the butt end of many of their cruel taunts. Thus I do feel a connection to swara on that end. But I don't know many, if anyone, whose been unable to merge, be as successful as DP is shown to be. That to me is insane. He talks about his izzat in samaj. Is samaj of Kolkata made up of the 1% Marwari population? I certainly can't imagine any Bengalis respecting him given his open discrimination towards them.

@krystal haha looks like we've hijacked the topic. 😆 but ya I'm well aware of this attitude, my mother used to live in kolkata at one point and i have many friends there. but nowadays i think generally the marwaris care more about money status in the whole of kolkata than just whether they are marwari or not. and even though many aren't open to intercaste marriages, they'll still never ever express resentment towards bengalis in front of the whole samaj and all cos they're very enterprising people and know the value of a good rapport with the locals.

Yeah, the whole point of the community's existence is money, money and more money. 😆 Just like a middle-class Bengali would shiver at the prospect of a child of the family going into business (even today), a typical Marwari family would consider it a taboo to let their sons do anything other than join the family business. Independent careers a no-no. So yep, DPM's extremism is a tad unrealistic. And you're bang on with regard to the point on inter-regional marriage--its mostly about the financial status of the other family rather than whether they're Marwari or not. And certainly not about "maas-machhi" as they keep on harping like a broken cassette in this show.

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

Yeah, the whole point of the community's existence is money, money and more money. 😆 Just like a middle-class Bengali would shiver at the prospect of a child of the family going into business (even today), a typical Marwari family would consider it a taboo to let their sons do anything other than join the family business. Independent careers a no-no. So yep, DPM's extremism is a tad unrealistic. And you're bang on with regard to the point on inter-regional marriage--its mostly about the financial status of the other family rather than whether they're Marwari or not. And certainly not about "maas-machhi" as they keep on harping like a broken cassette in this show.

Btw I'm a Bengali and a resident of Kolkata myself. 😛

Lol ya the Marwari clan shrilling about Maas-macchi with harpy voices. Just lol. Besides isn't it much more common for Marwari men to marry Bengali girls? Most of the fuss is about girls marrying out of clan no?

I don't agree with some of your points.

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

Lol ya the Marwari clan shrilling about Maas-macchi with harpy voices. Just lol. Besides isn't it much more common for Marwari men to marry Bengali girls? Most of the fuss is about girls marrying out of clan no?