SSEL - a tale of selfishness vs selflessness - Page 3

You elaborated it so elegantly.

When Pratima said those deadly words to Suhani, i went into a state of shock. But as soon as i recalled the premarriage scenes, it finally made sense to me. She didn't put on this on herself to avoid the hurtful truth of her father's deal to Suhani, but what she told was 100% true.

Here goes Pratima's selfish saazish:

In the beginning, just like Soumya felt, Pratima too fell into an impression that Yuvani were in love with each other on many circumstances. She finally came to this conclusion that Suhani is her bahu when she saw the shadows of Soumya and Krishna hugging each other, mistaking them to be Yuvani. She might had been in plans already to go to Suhani's house for the marriage proposal. When Yuvraj told her that he is in love with Soumya contradicting her belief, she got shattered. She didn't think Soumya was a bad girl and Suhani was good, but she knew Suhani better and decided her as DIL of BH in mind. She's so stubborn that she didn't take her son's feelings into consideration and also cleverly used her name forgetting/mistaking problem.

Here comes the reason for Pankaj's revenge:

I also feel she would have manipulated Pankaj into believing that Yuvani are made for each other, even before Yuvraj - Pankaj's meet. She might have made him know what type of person Yuvraj is and he believed Yuvraj to be that considering her words. This is why Pankaj has faith that Yuvraj soon shall love her and make her happy, but when now it doesn't seem like that, he is on a revenge mode.

At present, i have more anger towards Pratima and Pankaj than on everyone else. They atleast brought and revealed the truth out, unlike the hiders. Pankaj and Pratima are reason for those snakies to torture Suhani.

What went wrong with Pratima:

She couldn't keep her sons away from Dadi's clutches when they were too young. She let it go all silent, with no tongue in her mouth to say against Dadi. When two DILs of her too followed Dadi who are Dadi's selection, she felt this time she has to have one along with her. So, she went for her selection. She did all this secretly, had she did this openly, it won't have made her this cunning. She hid the secrets in her tummy. She only want her intention to happen. At the end Yuvraj needs to have the wife she got for him, not his choice..bcoz. at that time Yuvi's choice equals Dadi's choice. She not for once thought about Suhani. How can she live with a man who is not in love with her like she was thinking? What happens when she comes to know this dangerous secret? No, it didn't and still doesn't matter her. She does what she believes. My respect for her completely got killed when she said she has no regrets. Even before that episode, she continulously showed her true colors which we took lightly or failed to understand. She only want this marriage..fixed by her to not break. It doesn't matter for her even if Suhani breaks into tears. At that point, i felt she is more dangerous than all the Snakies.

If she truly wished both Yuvani's happiness and particularly Suhani's as she gives coloring that she is her daughter, she would have spoken directly to both Yuvani. She would have told Yuvraj how wrong he was thinking that only looks are everything for a girl. She would have told him that he just attracted to her and ask him feel is it is a real love. She would have defined the true love and also about the true beauty. She would have told him to wait sometime and when he'll get to know Soumya's character and ideologies, if he thinks they match his own thoughts, then they (Soumya and Yuvraj) should have an open talk about it and let the matters proceed, i.e., talking to Soumya's mother. By this time, Yuvraj would have understood that Soumya was in love with someone else and that she lied to him.

Pratima would have given more time for him to heel, even if he was fine outside to fade out his past memories. She would have told how she feels a girl she thinks is a good mach for him. Again, she must leave it to Yuvraj's choice. If it was ok to him, somedays later she would have gone to Suhani's house for proposal. Again, when she came to know that Suhani was in delusion that Yuvraj loves her, it is more important to her to reveal the truth that it'n not that case more than fixing the match. Suhani obviously would have rejected as soon as she came to know. Then after few days, Yuvani..if destiny want them to come together would have made them fall in love with each other and then marriage would have happened on their own wishes purely..without any saazishs.

What went wrong with Pankaj:

Again almost the same mistake done by Pratima. He didn't care for his daughter's feelings. Yes she did like him, but it was only bcoz she was told that Yuvi loved her which wasn't the fact. She loved a man which she thought was in love with her..who wasn't real. So, again if he really cared for his daughter's well being..he wouldn't have married her to someone who didn't love her, want her. He would have told her that he's not in love with her..the fact which he knows and would have waited till a right man comes in her life who loves Suhani. What did he think? That no one else marries her? Which age is he living? He thinks Yuvi is right match for her? What does Yuvi do? Nothing. Just bcoz he belongs to a rich family? Suhani is a well educated girl..all she needs is some respect and love for her. Not a wealthy family bahu tag. Equally selfish soul to Pratima.

Everyone is selfish as well..everyone except Bhavna hurt Suhani for their own needs. Soumya for her elopement to succeed safely, Yuvraj for his family's house and wealth, Sharad for his Guru's sake, Lata to avoid words from society if Suhani comes back to house permanently if their relationship isn't good. So, for many days she made her avoid knowing whatever truth it is.

Truly parents feel they do perfect for their children and know what to do. They feel it is their right to do anything they feel is correct for them. They take their children's lives for granted. It isn't that they want to harm us willingly and intentionally..they do care about us and want our safety but their actions may not be correct always and they don't recognize it even after repeating the same thing again and again. Hence no regrets.

My mother care for me lot. But she has to believe on me, my ability to live alone & my ability to keep myself safe in new world. She has to take my interests into consideration rather than forcing her interests on me. She rejected my wish to study at university in the other state. As a result, even when i got good grades and marks till then, i didn't did well in the college she selected for me. Now i want to pursue my own career as a model/ actress and want to move to new city. She again rejected saying what will others think if you leave the house? Is it any crime to live on myself. My friends will be with me and she know hey are good. Still she doesn't want words from society about my absence in my home. When i tried to convince her, she said once i leave the home..iam not supposed to come back again, ever in my life. Why? For what mistake? Caring for her daughter OR Caring for others' words..i don't know..

Just vented out my pain here..now iam feeling better.

Eli what a brilliant post let me start with the
easiest issue that's Yuvraj and his bashing for
me I dnt mind that he isn't in love with suhani
quite frankly I think its perfect I dnt think he
should fall for suhani I honestly would not fall
in love with her or even allow myself to even
go that way knowing the amount of lies that has
been told to her by her dad, her friend and
him. knowing that everything can slip away
from him in a moment its ridiculous for us to
think he would admit he has something for her or even want to go there after being heartbroken. And more as u said he has done a lot for suhani even though he is not in love with her. That's why I dnt want her to think that he was the sole reason or her main culprit in this whole marriage he is just as much of a victim as her. And what I have loved is that they have showed just coz u married to some1 that does not necessarily mean u have to love them. I think however the fact that he has never ever given this marriage a chance will be 1 thing which does not work in his favour. He has only done his duty towards her and that being the bare minimum.


but my problem with his character is that if u
watched the show from the beginning and then
u watch the show from the middle of jan and u
will that there has been a total massacre of this
character. Yuvraj shallow, superficial please
that's not him. he is deep and moody and very
aware of how suhani is bt they make him look
so dense and stupid and show him with snaky
and show him so unaware of suhani and her
emotions whilst being fully aware of every
emotion on snaky's face. quite frankly they
reduced him to a character that is only good if he is giving romantic looks to suhani and
nothing more. his scenes with suhani when
suhani is not giving of anything comes across as
superficial, candy floss and his character is not
this and does not fit with suhani when he is like
that. no offence to yuvani fans but suhani's
character brought magic when he was a cold
board aka mr bean him superficial when she is
like this does not go with this couple. And my comment isn't a reflection on sahil the actor coz I know whether it was him or any1 else the result would be the same and sahil is excellent.

and then there is suhani for me I dnt knw the mad physche of the ppl in indian bt where I live we do have racists where the older generation has this mentality bt we do not have something as full blown like this. I think seeing the sort of posts made my fans like Apu who always shares her experience with us the issue of a person complexion takes on a whole diff meaning because it now comes home coz u know of some1 personally who has had to deal with something like this and u realize how important it is for suhani's character to be handled with care and shown properly. What I have loved ab suhani is that we saw a girl who was very confident in herself and she was sent into an environment where her every thought, every action was linked to her complexion, status and upbringing. I think for suhani fans to see her there is extremely hard coz I always say this whether u like her, know some1 like her or are not like her u connect to her and this is very rare to see a character like this. And so it becomes frustrating when u see her being dumbed out for what snaky, dadi I dnt know why she is there. This show u dnt even need half a brain bt if some1 just put a little thought into it, it would be such a beautiful show. This show connects and the connection is suhani the trps show it when just with a promo it went up they need to focus more on her the cvs understand this character they need to just start doing some work on this revise what they are doing and just do the basic right for this show to start connecting. this is not how I imaged the truth being revealed and handled

Originally posted by: Elita

Firstly a note to Apu and to all who have commented in her post - brilliant 👏👏👏 you guys have penned your thoughts really well.

I couldn't watch Saturday's episode nor be active int the forum since few days as am stuck with guests. But somehow I took time out to read members take on the episode...and was disappointed with CV's.

Am sure most of you like me started watching SSEL as to how CV' were going to handle this color discrimination in our society which has plagued our people for decades. Education has not refined our society in any way...sad to say so but I feel it's the truth. Coming to SSEL, well I loved Suhani's character...saw myself in her. CV's had shaped this character so well and you couldn't help but fall in love with her. And then Yuvraj too...the brash, arrogant young man who had a typical teenager's idea of beauty and love. But then, Suhani entered his life and I expected him to evolve, learn the value of a person, judge a person by their personality, respect them for who they are and not how they appear. Was confident he'll change to a better humane. But no such thing happened...CV's brought in Soumya and held a mirror to Yuvraj to compare for himself the difference between outer beauty and inner beauty...and he understood. But his upbringing is so strong and deep rooted that his mind refused to accept the inner beauty...he just acknowledged it, but never accepted. Like fools we too failed to see his rigidness. Few concerned words from him and we mistook it for love and raised our hopes. But none of it turned fruitful so far.

You have presented the concept of the show very well. I didn't start watching regularly until December, and what attracted me were Suhani, Yuvraj, and their potential. I especially like what you say @bold.

And then we also imagined a thousand scenes when Suhani would learn the truth and what all could happen...must give it to CV's none of our predictions turned out true...instead they did something which we hadn't even thought of ever.

Suhani the selfless female, who was once strong, carefree with an infectious smile, positive attitude was turned to a BM maid...her mrng and night started and ended doing chores for them to win a place in their heart. [Here, I have to disagree, while applauding your sentiments. Who turned Suhani into the BH maid? Did anyone ask her to do all the things she did? We have seen her claim it as her right to wash Yuvraj's clothes. She is not a down-trodden or uneducated girl, not did she lack confidence and self-belief. She used to work, I vaguely remember, and while we can blame Lata for some regressive attitude, I think the Suhani that was presented was smart enough to think for herself. Yes, maybe she chose to knock herself out to win the inmates over. But I also think that we have to concede that there are many women who like taking care of their households and cooking and doing all that (and nothing more), and by denigrating that by designating them as 'maids', is maybe as much short-sightedness as thinking that is the only possible place for women. And it wasn't that Suhani was burdened with work day and night either] This is the fate of many women in our society...no matter how educated you are, or how worthy you are...your life at times is at the mercy of such in-laws. They decide and dictate your life depending on how well you fit into their frame...they never value what you are, but how profitable you'll be to them all.

Marriage is a gamble...a deal. If the deal's worth it your life is bearable...else misery keeps knocking every other day. You need to keep them all happy...and your happiness matters to none. This I have witnessed in my own circle of relations and friends. And all in-laws are highly educated ppl who have held good positions in their careers and are financially very well off too. A DIL can never be the daughter and MIL can never be a mother ( again a personal opinion).
Again, while what you have written is beautiful and heartfelt, I find it too absolute. 'This' is no longer the fate of all women in our society. It is still largely prevalent in backward regions or in regressive families, yes, but there are increasing numbers of girls, even from small towns, leave alone cities, who are extremely aggressive and real go-getters and would quickly nix any attempt to put them in the 'bichari nari' mould.
Indeed, marriage is a gamble and a deal, and you could get lucky or unlucky. So you could end up with someone who values you, with a family that's supportive or at least not too castrating, or you could get the short end of the stick.What really matters is whether you are equipped to deal with whatever comes--and, IMO, Suhani is. Was, I should say, since she ahs not reacted as she should have.

Pratima for whom I had high respect in the show lost it all on Saturday. After witnessing what all Suhani had been through at the hands of dadi and her son...she had no regrets whatsoever for making a girl's life so miserable. She became so selfish in her son's love that inspite of knowing that he had feelings for another girl and will never accept this girl (as she aint fair) she went ahead and choose her. What the hell was she thinking...?? She failed as a mother to give her son/children proper ethics and values of life and wants a third person to do so at the cost of her life...this selfishness is difficult to digest and is unforgivable. She had suffered enough at her MIL's hands for so many yrs and yet she chose Suhani, knowing very well what all she has to endure. How could she be so insensitive...?? She could have requested Suhani to put some sense in her son as friend too...but why marriage only? She recognized Suhani's free spirit attitude and still let ppl cut her wings...?? Really sickening...if you ask me.

No argument here. I will never see Pratima in the same way as before.

Like Apu said in her post...Suhani is lonely. Even her father cheated her...his love for her was so blind and shallow, that he forced Yuvraj to sacrifice his life for his daughter. He too is a selfish person just like Pratima. He thought her daughter is like a sunshine...she'll go and brighten ppl at BM...didn't think this might burn her in the process?

As of now am more angry and hurt by Pankaj and Pratima than am with dadi. I feel they betrayed Suhani more...of well Soumay too. Each, for their own gain played 'Lord Brahma" (God of Destiny in Hindu mythology) in Suhani and Yuvraj's life.

True.

And coming to Yuvraj...sorry many of you may get angry or hurt...but it's my POV. After listening to Pratima...I don't blame Yuvraj much. Sure he has angered us all since past few days/weeks with his insensitive actions...but tell me one thing gurls - If you were forced to live with a person for whom you have no feelings for...would you have been any different from Yuvraj?

The guy has done as much as possible as a husband and a son...he has expressed his concern and respect for Suhani few times, stood by her and also supported her. He has always been honest and clear about his feelings for Suhani with Sharad and Pratima. Yet these two never stopped playing cupid in his life...either love happens or it doesn't. It has to come from within...it cannot be forced, and ShaTima were doing just that. Yuvraj values Suhani...and only time can convert this value and respect for her into love. So Yuvanians...let us stop thrashing Yuvraj for now...and give him some more time to realize. As girls we realize the value our mothers when we marry and go to another house...till then we take her love and concern for granted, so also Yuvraj. He knows not every pretty face makes a person beautiful (snaky) and also knows his dadi is doing things to hurt Suhani...atleast knowing Suhani for so many months he's learnt that much, he trusts Suhani more than his dadi...for this at least he deserves some credit.

Ah, our yuvi. You are quite right in saying he was also dealt a very unfair hand. Sure I too get really irritated and angry with him, because we tend to identify with Suhani, but I like the character and his flaws and his different sides. I also agree that he has been absolutely honest about his feelings, and he has done, at least to his mind, as much as he could in circumstances where he was really trapped. Where he has messed up, IMO, is by not explicating matters when he decided to stay married to Suhani. That is unfair to her, and his silence has caused a lot of humiliation and pain. I also object to his meanness to Suhani in comparison to his buddy-buddy behavior with snaky in the past month or so. he is inconsistent and often unfair. I also object to his wimpishness in letting BQ be as mean and nasty to his wife and mother as she is, but I accept that that's a plot device of sorts. And one really wants to see YuvAni getting it on.😃

And why was Pankaj angry at Yuvraj...?? He forced...sorry blackmailed him to marry his daughter when Yuvraj had gone to tell the truth...and now he is angry..?? So he expected him to forget the blackmail and live happily...?? Yuvraj may have forgiven him for the blackmail but not forgotten...forget Yuvraj, even Pankaj himself has not forgotten his blackmail. Being a father he failed in his duty...and hence I feel he has no right to show his anger at Yuvraj.

Again, agree.

Note: Sorry for the long post...a thought just occurred and I put it all down. Wanted to think from Yuvraj's POV too...since am one among the foremost to have blasted him many times.

No idea what is scheming in his head...but I do hope it gets sorted out soon. CV's themselves have no idea as to how to project Yuvraj's character...by keeping him mute and inactive they are not evoking audience's sympathy nor empathy. And now they have turned their attention towards Suhani - by making her stay in BM even after learning the truth, viewer's seem to be losing interest, respect and love for this character gradually. I hope CV's rectify their mistake or if it's intentional - then they have to reveal the plan soon else TRP's will hit rock bottom soon for sure.

Elita, I actually wrote out a long post several hours ago, and lost it. There may be things I've missed in this reply, but I think I've got the main responses in. Again, I loved your post, it was beautifully written and I appreciate your sentiments.

Originally posted by: clarity

A brilliant post, Eli! ⭐️ Thanks so much! 🤗

What particularly spoke to me was how you described what women in our society go through after marriage, where a ton of expectations are foisted on them, but no empathy. 😭

Am sure most of you like me started watching SSEL as to how CV' were going to handle this color discrimination in our society which has plagued our people for decades. Education has not refined our society in any way...sad to say so but I feel it's the truth.

Yes, I watched it for the same reason. Its first promo was so intriguing and brought up an issue that afflicts many across our country. However, we have only been disappointed, because this issue has become lost in the Suhani vs Phateechars slugfest.
Coming to Suhani, I feel very sorry for her, because at this point, other than Bhavna, I feel there is no one who cares for her and can guide her properly. I won't include Pankaj and Lata in this list, because they have very regressive attitudes on how a woman should behave with her in-laws. She is truly alone. It saddens me, that a bright spark of life like her, has been all but snuffed out by a few people who choose to degrade and humiliate her. Suhani comes from a traditional set up, and perhaps, I notice her oppression more, because I come from a liberal family. My mother would never give me the kind of bullshit advice Lata gives her and ask me to tolerate people like Dadi and her Phateechars. 😡

The best part of this post was how you said that everyone has played Lord Brahma in Suhani's life. They have taken away the power to decide on her OWN life from her and molded her fate to their liking. 😭

Pratima, like all the others, has used Suhani too. It's the bitter truth that we all have to accept. This line sums it all up-

She recognized Suhani's free spirit attitude and still let ppl cut her wings...?? Really sickening...if you ask me.

She thought Suhani was the solution to all of the Birlas' problems, particularly Yuvraj's attitude, and expected her to magically breathe life into BH. She never thought about how Suhani would survive in the hellhole that is BH. She threw Suhani into a burning cauldron of viciousness, hoping she would emerge victorious, and do what Pratima and Sharad couldn't do all these years.

As for Yuvraj, I agree with you that what Pankaj and even Pratima did to him was abhorrent. In fact, I had made a poll about how many were in favour of YuvAni's forced marriage and I voted for a 'no'. I feel what happened to him was gross injustice, because no matter how disgusting his beliefs were, no one should force a life-changing decision like marriage on someone. 👎🏼 I don't have a problem with his initial attitude and how he took the marriage.
My criticism of him began when he joined ShaTima in lying to Suhani, keeping her in the dark, while not wanting to take their marriage forward. 😲I also have a huge problem with how he let Dadi and her goons torment Suhani in front of him, without saying a word. He let Dadi actively pick away at Suhani's self-esteem and dignity, while standing mute. In today's world, nobody would let someone speak to their friend (won't say wife) like that. He wanted to remain in neutral and not take any decision regarding the future of his relationship with Suhani, knowing it would lead to unhappiness for her. He's a Birla too, and all the Birlas have a habit of brushing things under the carpet and pretending problems don't exist, instead of dealing with them. I think that was a mistake he made and it was very unfair to Suhani.

As for SSEL, I doubt things will ever improve and looking at their writing, I feel they are not equipped to deal with all these serious issues maturely. They can only come up with cliched TRP-fetching slugfests and nothing more. These CVs aren't capable of dealing with colorism, prejudice and discrimination, unfortunately.

absolutely agree with you. pratima is a timid woman, her intentions were not wrong but her means were. forcing somebody into a marriage they dont want is not right. if she believed that suhani would be a better wife and DIL for BH. then she should have used other means. all right what 's doen is done. but pratima and shradh do not provide adequate support for suhani against dadi and her cornes.

Originally posted by: -LovelyLakshmi-

You elaborated it so elegantly.

When Pratima said those deadly words to Suhani, i went into a state of shock. But as soon as i recalled the premarriage scenes, it finally made sense to me. She didn't put on this on herself to avoid the hurtful truth of her father's deal to Suhani, but what she told was 100% true.

Here goes Pratima's selfish saazish:

In the beginning, just like Soumya felt, Pratima too fell into an impression that Yuvani were in love with each other on many circumstances. She finally came to this conclusion that Suhani is her bahu when she saw the shadows of Soumya and Krishna hugging each other, mistaking them to be Yuvani. She might had been in plans already to go to Suhani's house for the marriage proposal. When Yuvraj told her that he is in love with Soumya contradicting her belief, she got shattered. She didn't think Soumya was a bad girl and Suhani was good, but she knew Suhani better and decided her as DIL of BH in mind. She's so stubborn that she didn't take her son's feelings into consideration and also cleverly used her name forgetting/mistaking problem.

Here comes the reason for Pankaj's revenge:

I also feel she would have manipulated Pankaj into believing that Yuvani are made for each other, even before Yuvraj - Pankaj's meet. She might have made him know what type of person Yuvraj is and he believed Yuvraj to be that considering her words. This is why Pankaj has faith that Yuvraj soon shall love her and make her happy, but when now it doesn't seem like that, he is on a revenge mode.

At present, i have more anger towards Pratima and Pankaj than on everyone else. They atleast brought and revealed the truth out, unlike the hiders. Pankaj and Pratima are reason for those snakies to torture Suhani.

What went wrong with Pratima:

She couldn't keep her sons away from Dadi's clutches when they were too young. She let it go all silent, with no tongue in her mouth to say against Dadi. When two DILs of her too followed Dadi who are Dadi's selection, she felt this time she has to have one along with her. So, she went for her selection. She did all this secretly, had she did this openly, it won't have made her this cunning. She hid the secrets in her tummy. She only want her intention to happen. At the end Yuvraj needs to have the wife she got for him, not his choice..bcoz. at that time Yuvi's choice equals Dadi's choice. She not for once thought about Suhani. How can she live with a man who is not in love with her like she was thinking? What happens when she comes to know this dangerous secret? No, it didn't and still doesn't matter her. She does what she believes. My respect for her completely got killed when she said she has no regrets. Even before that episode, she continulously showed her true colors which we took lightly or failed to understand. She only want this marriage..fixed by her to not break. It doesn't matter for her even if Suhani breaks into tears. At that point, i felt she is more dangerous than all the Snakies.

If she truly wished both Yuvani's happiness and particularly Suhani's as she gives coloring that she is her daughter, she would have spoken directly to both Yuvani. She would have told Yuvraj how wrong he was thinking that only looks are everything for a girl. She would have told him that he just attracted to her and ask him feel is it is a real love. She would have defined the true love and also about the true beauty. She would have told him to wait sometime and when he'll get to know Soumya's character and ideologies, if he thinks they match his own thoughts, then they (Soumya and Yuvraj) should have an open talk about it and let the matters proceed, i.e., talking to Soumya's mother. By this time, Yuvraj would have understood that Soumya was in love with someone else and that she lied to him.

Pratima would have given more time for him to heel, even if he was fine outside to fade out his past memories. She would have told how she feels a girl she thinks is a good mach for him. Again, she must leave it to Yuvraj's choice. If it was ok to him, somedays later she would have gone to Suhani's house for proposal. Again, when she came to know that Suhani was in delusion that Yuvraj loves her, it is more important to her to reveal the truth that it'n not that case more than fixing the match. Suhani obviously would have rejected as soon as she came to know. Then after few days, Yuvani..if destiny want them to come together would have made them fall in love with each other and then marriage would have happened on their own wishes purely..without any saazishs.

What went wrong with Pankaj:

Again almost the same mistake done by Pratima. He didn't care for his daughter's feelings. Yes she did like him, but it was only bcoz she was told that Yuvi loved her which wasn't the fact. She loved a man which she thought was in love with her..who wasn't real. So, again if he really cared for his daughter's well being..he wouldn't have married her to someone who didn't love her, want her. He would have told her that he's not in love with her..the fact which he knows and would have waited till a right man comes in her life who loves Suhani. What did he think? That no one else marries her? Which age is he living? He thinks Yuvi is right match for her? What does Yuvi do? Nothing. Just bcoz he belongs to a rich family? Suhani is a well educated girl..all she needs is some respect and love for her. Not a wealthy family bahu tag. Equally selfish soul to Pratima.

Everyone is selfish as well..everyone except Bhavna hurt Suhani for their own needs. Soumya for her elopement to succeed safely, Yuvraj for his family's house and wealth, Sharad for his Guru's sake, Lata to avoid words from society if Suhani comes back to house permanently if their relationship isn't good. So, for many days she made her avoid knowing whatever truth it is.

Truly parents feel they do perfect for their children and know what to do. They feel it is their right to do anything they feel is correct for them. They take their children's lives for granted. It isn't that they want to harm us willingly and intentionally..they do care about us and want our safety but their actions may not be correct always and they don't recognize it even after repeating the same thing again and again. Hence no regrets.

My mother care for me lot. But she has to believe on me, my ability to live alone & my ability to keep myself safe in new world. She has to take my interests into consideration rather than forcing her interests on me. She rejected my wish to study at university in the other state. As a result, even when i got good grades and marks till then, i didn't did well in the college she selected for me. Now i want to pursue my own career as a model/ actress and want to move to new city. She again rejected saying what will others think if you leave the house? Is it any crime to live on myself. My friends will be with me and she know hey are good. Still she doesn't want words from society about my absence in my home. When i tried to convince her, she said once i leave the home..iam not supposed to come back again, ever in my life. Why? For what mistake? Caring for her daughter OR Caring for others' words..i don't know..

Just vented out my pain here..now iam feeling better.

SSEL aside, @bold

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