Does Suhani have an inferiority complex? - Page 6

Originally posted by: clarity

Yes, Famu. She has changed after marriage and has lost her some of her spunk. Not fighting against Dadi and her goons is something pre-marriage Suhani would not have done. She would have stood up against all this injustice. However, she shuts up now for Yuvraj's PEACE OF MIND. I think he should take sanyaas so that he gets it permanently. 😆😆😆 I don't think there is anything wrong with doing housework, but why does she keep doing it for people who call her a maid for doing it? That's my question. Why does she have to do it for RagMen who clearly DON'T appreciate it?

What you said about Yuvraj defending SUhani is also true. He actually only did it when it served one of his purposes- like making Somu jealous or making sure Dadi didn't find out about Pankaj's blackmail.

Originally posted by: sandiab

Firstly I do not think she derives happiness from other people's happiness but rather she gets her confidence from their love and acceptance of her, When I 1^st starting watching the show I always felt like Suhani was faking her confidence coz I just could not image any person having that much confidence in themselves. I remember I even said this on the forum but no1 really agreed with me than I can't remember what I had said in my comment back than but I found her confidence in herself weird and unnatural. I think we all have self doubts about ourselves and how we are perceived, how we look and I think the most beautiful person would find a fault in themselves and this is a very natural reaction. But Suhani never saw anything wrong with herself considering that she has had people pick on her darkness. Remember there was a scene when a sari lady told her she should not use a certain color coz she was dark so it is not as if she is unaware that she is perceived to be not perfect' so dadi's words is not something she has never heard before. But because of her family's love and acceptance we saw her never bother about those comments coz their love and acceptance made her confident and so we saw a very confident girl who expressed herself, stood up against anything that was wrong.

We then see her in the Birla house and back when I 1^st watched it I hadn't picked up on how uncomfortable she had been with Yuvraj when they 1^st got married (this is why her not pushing or wondering about them being physically actually made sense coz she was not comfortable with him). if u compare the 28 of august and 2 jan episodes u will see 2 diff girls. 28 august- u saw a girl unsure of herself, no confidence, u did not see her try and fit into his world and embrace it and be herself. And then if u watched the 2^nd of jan episode when she met his friends u see a totally different person she is confident, she is talking to his friends, she is engaging them and entertaining them and her personality is coming through amazing. The major difference btw her august reaction to his friends and her jan reaction to his friends is that back than she could not feel the love that Yuvraj was supposed to have for her bt in Jan she did. So hence her ability to be herself is dependent on whether she feels loved from the person who is supposed to love he and if she doesn't u not gona see her being confident in herself and her being herself.

Yuvraj and his family's behavior towards Suhani is very bad and in the long ran could be very detrimental in how she perceives herself in the future and who the real Suhani is gona be. Coz they are in fact trying to change the way she is and modify her to how they want her to be especially Yuvraj. Yuvraj's words without thought, without understanding, u just do what u want to' is gona be a dialogue that is gona stay with her because when she goes forward in life she is probably gona watch every step she takes and for a person whose natural reaction is to react this will be hard. U are now altering how u react to things.

Suhani has not just sacrificed herself at the altar of love but she has given JerkRaj 99% power over her to the point that if he told her to kill herself she probably would. She never challenges him if he does something wrong, she does not change him she just allows him to be. Can u imagine the power 1 would feel to have such control over another person like this, imagine the sense of greatness that person would feel who in their right mind would actually want to let go of such a pathetic person? Yuvraj is the dominant, Suhani is the submissive until another loved 1 is in the picture and then she is not that. Yuvraj loses control over her when it comes to other people that she loves this is when their dominant /submissive r/ship changes coz she doesn't give him the attention he is used to. His reaction to Ankit might not have been actual jealousy because they had not done anything to warrant such looks and irritation from him but rather his feelings might have been coz of the fact that her attention was not on him her Master. With souyma again she is disobedient and does what she wants and when she does this she changes the equation of their r/ship and throws him of balance. She does not obey her Master' really this guy doesn't think he is a Prince he thinks he is her Master and she is his slave'. Their r/ship is just so 50 shades only thing there is no sex lol.

But back to her if u go back to the 1^st episode u will see a Suhani who is not sure of herself it is actually snaky who was the confident 1, the bubbly 1, the go getter but now that is actually Suhani. So again in situations where she is not comfortable she is not confident and she will not go out and do anything. Even the scooter its souyma who taught her and forced her to learn how to use it and be bold Suhani did not want to learn. And dadi choosing the same sari for the kite day and I was very surprised to hear Suhani say that it was actually souyma who forced her to dress a certain or something like that when they were in college. So even in dressing something as simply as choosing clothes she probably does not even know her own style except to choose something she is comfortable with and is unadventurous in that.

In her love for the people around her she seems to change herself to suit them her words on the Christmas episode to the aunties that she doesn't change but rather she is the 1 who changes others is actually not true she has changed. 1 does not notice it because she is a good character and so her kindness is intact and she still treats people the same way but in her basic frame work she has changed. Her not standing up to dadi is the biggest change in her she has modified her reactions already to suit Yuvraj and his botox tramp of a dadi.

As for the goals/ aspiration part I cannot believe that the cvs did not bring up Suhani's work again in the show bloody b****rd. I dnt even know what she truly does.

I do think however that it is truly part of her nature to pamper and worry about the people around her she is naturally like this.

However love' is a powerful word for Suhani, really it is when she feels people are pulling away from her or changing she gets so clingy that she cannot and will not allow them to do this and wants to bring them back to the person she saw them as. For instance souyma the girl now wants to diet she changed her choice I know u find this weird but a normal person would mention it once or twice and then move on but Suhani does not allow a moment to go by where she would not try and force snaky to eat something oily.

Change, uncomfortability , not getting some1s love is something that makes Suhani uneasy and she feels she needs to do things for people to like her so hence her making their fav food or doing something they like is her way of bringing them closer to her. There is nothing wrong with this but she goes overboard and does not allow ppl to be.

Also with Suhani and dadi's initial scenes I always felt like Suhani could have a little dadi in her not talking about mentality but rather her rigidness and stubborn in having things done her way. Remember how she tried to get out of the fish spa and also the diwali issue about the fireworks she wanted things done her way she throw a bitch fit when they where lighting the fireworks. But again even this quality of hers has been changed byJerkraj.

I think the title means A beautiful girl right? But how will the woman end up being. So I think fans need to prepare themselves when Suhani finds out the truth to see some1 totally different coz if even now we do not know who she really is we will not recognize the person she will be after she finds out the truth. When a person is so extreme in nature there is no balance in a person so if a happy person is always cheerful and doesn't allow negative to enter them if something happens to make them unhappy the opposite would happen and they in their depression/sadness may not allow positive to come into their lives. This is why if after she finds out the truth yuvraj tries and is not successful in getting her back into his life and she moves away she needs a link to her past in the form of sharad and hopefully Ramesh to keep a bit of the person she was visible to her. The way she has tried to do with souyma.

I so wish Suhani was in an American show coz we could have maybe seen this character being handled properly really these Indian shows would never give us what we really want with such a character with their need for trps. It seems only if your name is neha yadav will any thought be given to your character.

Originally posted by: clarity

Hi everyone! 😊

This question has been bugging me for a while and I decided to put it out there for all of you too.

Analysing Suhani's character now, I feel she has serious problems of EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY and also has an INFERIORITY COMPLEX. Let me tell you why:

1. Her whole life revolves around her family and loved ones. She has no ambitions/goals/aspirations of her own and seems to derive her happiness from other people's happiness. This may seem like a virtue at first, but what does it mean, that you're ready to sacrifice your self-respect and identity as a person to cater to other people?

2. She is a chronic people pleaser with no boundaries. She always goes out of her way to help people, (even those who don't deserve it) despite being kicked in the face by them repeatedly. Case in point, Dadi, Soumya and RagMen. I really admire Soumya for her approach towards Rakhi and her mother because she DID NOT allow them to walk all over her. 👏 Loving people doesn't mean you let them push you around. Also, her self-appointed mission of trying to win everyone's heart in BH involved her turning into their maid/janitor/even manager/cook, all rolled into one. If you gain people's love by being a people-pleaser, they actually don't love you for who you are, but rather for the things you do for them. This is not love, it's called being a servant. Let me ask you something Suhani, if one day, you decided you didn't love being the BH maid, would these people even want you around?

3. Just because Suhani is dark, does that mean the only way people can love her is by her being a people-pleaser? Look at RagMen, they don't do all this and nobody thinks they SHOULD do all this to be loved. With Suhani, I almost feel like they try to compensate for her being "dark" by turning her into the housemaid. I'm sorry, but from the beginning of the show, I never liked how Suhani became the BH maid. It felt as if the CVs were saying that if you're dark, you better be ready to bend over backwards to get love. 😡 There is a new show on Zee TV called 'Hello Pratibha' which is about how a housewife loses herself and her identity in her bid to keep her family happy- a family that doesn't even acknowledge her efforts. Suhani could go and fit right into that show. She has NO IDENTITY of her own.

4. Yuvraj and Suhani's relationship: Yuvraj thinks of Suhani as an inferior who can never be his equal. Suhani's unconditional love and adoration for him is an EGO BOOST and he enjoys having her around because she acts like his lapdog. When does he get angry at her? When he feels she has DISOBEYED him, as if he is an actual prince. 😡 Suhani does not call him out on his frequent and out of control anger outbursts and tolerates his bad treatment of her because she THINKS he loves her. This shows that Suhani is willing to sacrifice her self-respect at the altar of love. She is willing to do ANYTHING for someone who she loves, even if it involves obliterating her own identity.

Suhani, my dear, I want to say ONE thing- You have to be the sun of your own solar system. If you make somebody else the Sun and they decide to leave, your whole solar system goes KABOOM! When she finds out the truth, her whole world will end and she will lose everything. I am glad this will happen, because maybe this is the wake up call she needs to understand that being a good person doesn't mean allowing other people to trample over you.

What do you all have to say?