Episode 11: take Five - Page 4

Originally posted by: Muggle_Diaries

Thanks Aditi...

Ha ha... only we elders know better...😉😆

Of course we take care them. But we also take advantage of our 'Elder-ness'. 😃 I still do...

Love

Kshithi

Originally posted by: Muggle_Diaries

Good for you...😃

Does you brother know you considered him bratty?

Love

Kshithi

Originally posted by: Muggle_Diaries

Thanks Aayushi...🤗

So, you are from Karnataka or have you learnt Kannada?

It was beautiful a scene between Kaushalya and Ram...

Love

Kshithi

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Kshiti adding couple more points in your thread which I couldnt post earlier because I was typing from my mobile.

- First and the foremost the way the are showing Sita's and Ram's character. If you look closely you can see there is a lot of similarity in them. Compassion is there in Ram's eyes when he sees the pain of others. Sita shows her compassion even for the enemy soldiers by willing to take care of the wounded soldiers even within enemy camp. Ram stands in front and defends his brothers taking ownership. Sita is always the first one to take ownership. Both have a flair for leadership in their own way. Why I am taking this point is because today there is a much bigger debate on love marriage Vs arranged marriage. Elders feel the youngsters are breaking the rules, they have no values , no respect for the elders or the system. They had no problems in arranged marriages now why youngsters feel they need love marriages. Youngsters say arranged marriage is old system. Lot of unethical practices happen in it. Division based on caste, dowry, economic status etc become barriers. Love has no boundaries. So elders need to accept love marriages. Basically the problem today people dont understand the concept of marriage. Marriage is a sacred bond( I believe in the sancity of it) and when it happens between 2 individuals change is not only happening to them, but to families as well as society as a whole. Because it is the beginning of a new life. And if the foundation is not right you cant built the castle over it. Whether it is love or marriage the partners have to be compatible. And compatibility has various dimensions from looks, values, interests, respect, etc etc and values form the major part of it. In those days a place or a family defined an individual.But not today. We can have good and bad people from same family. Good and bad people from same place. So some of the earlier parameters dont work as such in today's world. Caste doesnt define a personality anymore. So elders have to look into arranged marriages with a different perspective. Having said that youngsters also needs to understand the importance given to values, respect, social standing etc.. by elders.When they choose , they have to choose someone who is in line with their family's values, someone who can jell with their family too inaddition to the individual. So it has to be give and take from both sides. And they also need to understand intimacy has its own beauty when in private. And certain things it is always better happens in private and when only partners are there.

- Second is the way Janak answered Sita's question and Ram answered Kausalya's question. You need to look at these men to understand how well they have understood the woman. See to touch a woman's heart is no easy business . Because women are emotional. We feel and the one who acknowledges our feelings the right way gets a thumbs up from us. Janak didnt put down his daughter telling she is incapable or anything. He was happy with the duty bound princess. But he told her the reason why she cant go. It is not yet time. She is child and her security is important which can distract her uncle. Sita backs out.

Kausalya asks Ram has also rules been followed. Ram says he has been doing only what she has taught him. Others before self. What can a mother tell to the son who is putting into action her teachings. Which mother wont be proud of the son exhibiting the sanskaars given by her. Yes Ram followeed the rules, but instead of calling them rules, he told his mother they were her teachings. Rules were made value teachings by him. Same thing, but different perspective. And that's all a woman actually needs. Acknowledgement. Acknowledgement of her feeling and alleviating it the right way. Hats off to CVs for that scene.

Originally posted by: Muggle_Diaries

Hey Guys,

Here is today's take five. There were some good points today.

But before that, I have to mentioned these friends.

prishadbest, Arshi (Arshics), adi2512, eternity_of_luv, Aayushi (NEIRAlover), Ayushi (ayushimehra)

You guys are really really sweet...😳🤗 and you know why!! 😃 I really would love to know your names. I know only few of them here.

Moving on...here is today Top Five

1) Responsibility: Whenever there is a problem in the home, of with any one of the family, there are going to be some tension in the air. Children are very sensitive and they catch up on this fact fairly easily. However many parents try to shield them from this problem. But, as long as it is an age appropriate issue, we should share our problems with them. They are good listeners, they are very understanding, they are not as fragile as we think, they are strong and they can bring you hope when you have lost it. Remember, even though they are young, they are not stupid, they have their own identity and self-respect, they can be a contributing member of the house. This will only enable them, they will feel included and be proud of themselves, they can develop a sense of worth.

For example, my mom was a single parent trying to raise two daughters with a very small salary. Both I and my sister were very much aware of our financial situation. My mother never tried to shield her problems from us. This only bought us closer as a family. I and my sister never demanded anything outrageous which would require lot of money. We knew the financial situation and we were content with what we had. I would take care of my sister, who was almost five years younger than me after school. This is when I was as young as 11 years old and my sister was 6 years old. I and sister even today, after so many years share a deep bond which was because I spent time with her in childhood.

I also remember a very fine movie in Kannada 'Namma Makkalu', meaning 'Our Children'. The main family consists of a working father, a house wife mother, two sons and a daughter. Although they are not rich and have humble financial status, they are content. However problems start when all three children have a demand like buying cricket bat, school trip or something like that. The salary of the father cannot afford any of this. They come up with a plan. They let their children manage the entire household for a month, the father will give his salary to them. They have to pay all the bills, household expenses. At the end of the month whatever they are able to save, it is theirs and can do anything with the remaining money. What a lovely movie it was and do catch it if possible.

2) The dreaded 'NO': Often parents word 'No' more than the word 'Yes'. Again, to continue from the previous point. When we say No to the kid, let us explain why that is, instead of making a blanket statement. Let us allow them to make their point and make them realize why their argument is invalid.

3) Elder Sibling: Dedicated to all the elder siblings (myself included 😃) We take care of our younger siblings, almost like a parent, wipe their tears, play with them and promptly give all your unwanted tasks to them and make them work for you!!!

4) A drop of Lemon: A drop of lemon is all it takes for milk to curdle. One petty person can sour our life to a large extent. Be very careful of such persons in your life and stay hundred kilometers from them.

5) Finally mother's wait is ended: After a long wait the mothers finally meet their sons. Again we need to ask, why do we have to neglect the love of a mother for rules?

Love

Kshithi

Originally posted by: eternity_of_luv

Hey kshithi..
Fab 5 take dear...
You always add meaningful points to each episode..one episode and other your takes knowledge..thnx dear for sharing...

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Kshiti adding couple more points in your thread which I couldnt post earlier because I was typing from my mobile.

- First and the foremost the way the are showing Sita's and Ram's character. If you look closely you can see there is a lot of similarity in them. Compassion is there in Ram's eyes when he sees the pain of others. Sita shows her compassion even for the enemy soldiers by willing to take care of the wounded soldiers even within enemy camp. Ram stands in front and defends his brothers taking ownership. Sita is always the first one to take ownership. Both have a flair for leadership in their own way. Why I am taking this point is because today there is a much bigger debate on love marriage Vs arranged marriage. Elders feel the youngsters are breaking the rules, they have no values , no respect for the elders or the system. They had no problems in arranged marriages now why youngsters feel they need love marriages. Youngsters say arranged marriage is old system. Lot of unethical practices happen in it. Division based on caste, dowry, economic status etc become barriers. Love has no boundaries. So elders need to accept love marriages. Basically the problem today people dont understand the concept of marriage. Marriage is a sacred bond( I believe in the sancity of it) and when it happens between 2 individuals change is not only happening to them, but to families as well as society as a whole. Because it is the beginning of a new life. And if the foundation is not right you cant built the castle over it. Whether it is love or marriage the partners have to be compatible. And compatibility has various dimensions from looks, values, interests, respect, etc etc and values form the major part of it. In those days a place or a family defined an individual.But not today. We can have good and bad people from same family. Good and bad people from same place. So some of the earlier parameters dont work as such in today's world. Caste doesnt define a personality anymore. So elders have to look into arranged marriages with a different perspective. Having said that youngsters also needs to understand the importance given to values, respect, social standing etc.. by elders.When they choose , they have to choose someone who is in line with their family's values, someone who can jell with their family too inaddition to the individual. So it has to be give and take from both sides. And they also need to understand intimacy has its own beauty when in private. And certain things it is always better happens in private and when only partners are there.

- Second is the way Janak answered Sita's question and Ram answered Kausalya's question. You need to look at these men to understand how well they have understood the woman. See to touch a woman's heart is no easy business . Because women are emotional. We feel and the one who acknowledges our feelings the right way gets a thumbs up from us. Janak didnt put down his daughter telling she is incapable or anything. He was happy with the duty bound princess. But he told her the reason why she cant go. It is not yet time. She is child and her security is important which can distract her uncle. Sita backs out.

Kausalya asks Ram has also rules been followed. Ram says he has been doing only what she has taught him. Others before self. What can a mother tell to the son who is putting into action her teachings. Which mother wont be proud of the son exhibiting the sanskaars given by her. Yes Ram followeed the rules, but instead of calling them rules, he told his mother they were her teachings. Rules were made value teachings by him. Same thing, but different perspective. And that's all a woman actually needs. Acknowledgement. Acknowledgement of her feeling and alleviating it the right way. Hats off to CVs for that scene.