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Good morning / evening girls and boys !!
Hope everybody is doing well. I didn't get a chance to watch Tuesday episode yet. Not sure when I would get a chance.
Jhalak, my friend, answer to your question: NOT A DAMN THING, OTHER THEN BEING IRRITATING AND A BIG MOUTH😡
Again, I will limit myself to her interaction with Mishti only, otherwise I will have a book to write just analysing that woman and her utter lack of depth. I find Mehek's concern for Pari, very pretentious. There are only two possible scenarios for Mehek from my standpoint.
#1 . Mehek is so in love with Pari that she is a guardian of Pari. In that case, she should be watching her like a hawk, and if so, then, she should have noticed the altercation/interaction between Pari and Mishti and intervened and separated them. In this scenario, Pari would never have been in danger in the first place.
#2. Mehek is simply bringing Pari for a swim, as a friend's daughter. She turns her back for a minute, which can happen with anybody. So, in effect, she hasn't witnessed the altercation between Pari and Mishti. Just because, Pari is in a position of danger, she cannot assume that the other child is the culprit and abuse a small child ( Mishti )who is unsupported at the moment. Which parent in the right mind, would abuse the parents as well along with a child? And which sane parent ( read Mauli ) would put up with the rant. If an unsupported child ( Mishti ) gets abused, threatened by an adult, what is her recourse? And which parent ( read Mauli ) puts up with her child being accused, abused and threatened? If nobody knew what happened, and when Mishti says " I didn't push Pari, I simply wanted to get away from her " why doesn't anybody believe her? Shouldn't Mauli at least give her the benefit of the doubt? How do they expect Mishti to prove that she is not at fault for " pushing " Pari into the pool?
That child clearly states, and restates her position, not once but at least three times, NOBODY BELIEVES HER😡😡. Again, I am going to touch on this very common practice I have witnessed which I hate to the core. Putting the child on the spot and to " say sorry", no matter what. Come on guys, the child's sense of right or wrong or sense of fairness is being trashed, taking a beating so an adult can satisfy their " ego" so to speak, and say " I always stand for the right". Clearly, Mauli is wrong in " making Mishti say sorry" to Pari. Really, for what? Please look at it from that child's perspective. Is Mishti wrong AT THIS INSTANCE for trying to get away from her annoyance? For trying to protect her personal space? For trying to defend herself? Look at it from her perspective, SHE DID NOTHING WRONG. If Pari fell, it was a happenstance, both kids were equally responsible for it.
What did Mauli achieve by making Mishti apologize to Pari? Mishti thinking that her mom doesn't believe her. Mishti feeling like she is coerced to apologize for a mistake she hasn't committed. Mishti feelings being reinforced that her mom cares about Pari more than her. In effect, this apology didn't serve any purpose, other than Mauli feeling superficially that " I made her do the right thing, more for Kunal and Mehek's benefit" or her own very superficial sense of " doing the right thing".
I am sorry, a mature parent in that situation would have taken her child to the side rather than put on the spot in the middle of onlookers, there for the drama, and asked what happened. When the child tells her part of the story, would believe her, because she has no other evidence to suggest otherwise. Made sure that the other child is safe, apologized for " the Pari's condition", not for " Mishti's mistake" and would discuss with Mishti how the incident unfolded when alone and when Mishti felt it is safe to talk. Here, all of them, including Mauli have been the judge, jury and executioners of Mishti even without knowing about the incident, COMPLETELY TURNING A DEAF EAR TO WHAT MISHTI HAD TO SAY. They were going to punish her and label her as a bully, even before she had anything to say. MISHTI ABSOLUTELY HAD NO RECOURSE, WHATSOEVER.
And, if Mauli wants to address Mishti's behavior with Pari locking her in the bathroom, this is not the place, nor is this the time. You simply can't pile on a lot of baggage on that child at one moment. If you are addressing the pool incident, address that pool incident ALONE. If we say she is making her apologize for the bathroom incident at that every moment, then she is clearly in the wrong. THAT CHILD DOESN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT SHE IS BEING PUNISHED FOR. On the surface, this might look OK for most people, but ask me who is a mother of a young child. It doesn't work that way😡If you want to correct one behavior, address that behavior alone, NOT HER WHOLE LIFETIME OF WRONGDOINGS😡
If we think only adults have the self respect/ self esteem they need to defend, think again, people . That 4 footer has as much or more self respect than her mother and shameful biological father combined. That reflects in her actions " if you didn't care about me and my existence, I would give a rat's behind about you and your daughter" 👍🏼🤗is what she is saying to her shameful biological father👏And by putting that little girl on the spot, looking at her as a culprit from the get go or a horrible person, and making her apologize for a mistake she hasn't committed, Mauli just sold out her daughter's self respect and self esteem😡😭 It is heartbreaking to see that little girl literally singled out and fighting against the world including her mother😭
Sorry, Jhalak, if I have gone out of context in your post. Was lazy to post another topic. If Mehek is messing with my child, truly GOD HELP HER😡😡
May be this is all moot in the context of the new episode, I don't know😲
Have a good Holiday, guys!
Bade Achche Lagte Hain Naya Season
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