Let the ladies take the decision!!!!

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Posted: 7 years ago
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Since Kunal is not a character that goes well with my understanding, I want the ladies of this show Mauli & Nandini making the final decision of their respective relationships & future as well.
So, for Kunal apparently 5 years of blissful marriage is a "Purana Farz/Karz". Someone please show this guy a mirror.

Atleast Nandini has the decency of realizing how wrong she is going, Kunal on the other hand is on a completely different level. Literally forcing Nandini to think & accept her conflicted feelings about him when she wants to refrain from doing it. Nandu has a right to fight her feelings without being forced to accept them. She has a chance to do the unconventional.

1. I have literally no problem with KuNan. But it better gets started with a closure. Sooner they get it, better it will be. Allow Mauli to have a closure & take her final decision herself. Neither Kunal nor Nandini have to make a decision for her or on her behalf. Allow Mauli to face this bitter truth and move on from it. The more they keep her in dark, more hurt she will be when she comes to know of it eventually. I would have been more than happy of Nandini would have talked to Mauli about this, that would have been true girl friend power, but it's least likely to happen. CVs will show it in typical way. Both of them should take time to think & introspect themselves in this matter, more so Nandini because of her sensibility and maturity on the level of woman, a friend & a divorcee who herself faced the betrayal which is clearly lacking in Kunal in this case.

2. Also, Nandini should think before getting with Kunal. She has been bitten once in the institution of marriage & Kunal himself doesn't come with a clean record. Just because Kunal isn't as sadistic & abusive doesn't change the fact that he had a change of heart in overnight about a marriage of 5 years & on the top of that he is pushing it too somehow. And this needs to be kept in mind when you decide to enter into a relationship again. Nandini is not so modern women who could just discard everything & say that certain things didn't work. The guilt that it happened because of her is going to be with her for a really long time. Kunal's feelings wouldn't have died anyway since he already was past his limits, but Nandu's would have had Kunal been not so remorseful about his marriage with Mauli. Kunal literally makes his marriage like some sin in front of Nandu, something that should anger her like hell in the first place, had CVs made it a remarkable thing where for a change a friend stood for her friend.

How wonderful & fresh would have it been if CVs had shown Nandini to be not acting on impulse of her newly developed feelings & rather be concentrated on making a strong place for herself in this world but CVs had to go typical way. It would have been so different if makers had shown Nandini to be confronting Kunal for his supposed feelings even when he was in a beautiful commitment but that could have happened only before Nandini had forced realization of feelings on that trip. I would have loved fierce Nandini in this matter. Since promos showed differently, so no comment.

I probably shouldn't say it if guys can follow the motto of "bros before hoes", then ladies can have a similar motto too. Last time Nandini didn't choose Mauli over Rajdeep & Mauli left silently to not turn back ever. I hope this time, these ladies choose each other, i.e. Nandini chooses Mauli and Mauli too stands with Nandu if Kunal on his insane impulse lent out his feelings for her & leave Kunal to introspect some things in his lie. This guy needs to get his head cleared of certain confusion he is facing.

It could have been so wonderful to have shown women standing for each other had CVs not tried to introduce this track in such a ridiculous ways. Please don't come up with the argument that we don't know what will happen in the future, given the history with ITV, I think we all can see where this track might head in disastrous ways with all that true love, destiny thingy.


Makers are most likely to eventually succumb to the popular opinion of lead characters getting together & not showing a different side to such complicated relationships where women choose to stand for themselves at last. And thus this post is a wishful thinking of mine.

I wouldn't want the blame game between ladies. It's Kunal who started this Silsila.

For the tag line of the show, "Juzzbat sahi ya galat ni hote, Juzzbat bs juzzbat hote hn", in my opinion is a little overrated, considering that some juzzbats are inherently dangerous in the first place because they have the power to result in grave actions & consequences if acted upon & even thought to be acting upon.

Again, read the disclaimer properly & adhere to it.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Wow your thoughts are so similar to mine. I totally agree with the post. Mauli and Nandhini both should make a decision. Still Kunal can't be excused. He should be honest with Mauli, but looking at his character graph, it's never going to happen. But Kudos to this post 👏!
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Posted: 7 years ago
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👏👏 Nice post Topic maker - very well put up 👏👏
jazzbat sahi ya galat ho - who cares? But they can be dangerous!!!!

Even I did not like him convincing that she is not guilty. Nandini has somewhat guilt and knows that these feelings will not let her go anywhere.




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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: mas123

👏👏 Nice post Topic maker - very well put up 👏👏

jazzbat sahi ya galat ho - who cares? But they can be dangerous!!!!

Even I did not like him convincing that she is not guilty. Nandini has somewhat guilt and knows that these feelings will not let her go anywhere.





So, Kunal was convincing Nandu that she isn't guilty. Huhh, Didn't see that. Well, Kunal should have been saying this thing for himself at the first place. This guy is all over her that it literally distastes me to think about it.

When something doesn't feel right to you, then believe that instinct. Guilt comes only when your soul feels some wrong doing on your part. But sadly, Kunal is beyond that. Nandini knows it & embraces it in her complete conscience as of now atleast.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Loved your post👏
How I wish makers could read your post.
Even I wish that Nandu controls her feelings and actually give Kunal a piece of mind.If both Kunan cheats then Everyone will blame Nandini more than Kunal because Mauli helped her out of abusive marriage and I dont want that to happen.Nandini is really guilty about this and s doing everything to control her emotions.
Kaunal on the other hand is actually kind of yearning for Nandini to confess her feelings🤢
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Superb Post 👏 I wish both the girls gives tight slap on kunal's face and give him piece of mind too.
Emotional cheating is already done so if makers wants handle this topic maturely than they must show nandini informs mouli everything about her gone case husband and allow herself to live guilt free life . In this way,she will allow mouli to take her final call on marriage. If nandini really wants to do something good for mouli than living her home is not enough now it's her turn to help her friend who is unaware about reality and is living in loveless marriage. Mouli saves nandini from rajdeep and it's nandini's turn to save mouli .
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Exactly my thoughts!
I want Nandini n mouli to get hold of their lives n kick kunal out. This guy needs some reality check. Kunal has no intentions to jeopardise his marriage with mouli. He went early in the morning to find a house for Nandini. It is only the previous night she told him about moving out. He just wants her out of his house before his family comes to know of his feelings n all hell breaks loose. He will do everything to keep it away from mouli so that his marriage is intact. On the other hands he tells Nandini not to feel guilty. He is behind her to acknowledge her feelings. Bloody two faced cheater! ( I don't know if I've expressed myself properly)

Nandini looks lost now. Let her calm down n go to some place which will give her some solace, maybe a temple, n think. She has been thro' something similar when rajdeep cheated on her. She will know how mouli will feel if she comes to know. Try to get hold of her emotions n take the right decisions. In this case to face kunal boldly n tell him on the face that mouli is more important to her than kunal.

I just don't want this beautiful friendship bw mouli n Nandini to go down the drain. Not for a person like kunal.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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My thoughts...
  • To understand Kunal's behavior and emotions, we'd have to walk in his shoes, which is of course impossible. What I know is that every person is different. I was in a long-term committed relationship and I fell for someone else within a month's time. As of today, i am a married woman and yet sometimes I long for someone who I should have been with or at least given a shot (Judge me all you want! 😊). All I'm saying is that Kunal is a very emotional person. He's someone who succumbs to his feelings even when he tries to control them. Have you imagined how difficult that is? It is not possible for everyone to deal with their sentiments in the same manner; everyone's brain isn't wired the same way. And society in general will call them wrong, but there are still some people who understand, and I am one of them, especially because I have faced it. When a new love comes to your life, the old one does look dull; it's not fair to that person, but it happens. And it's not like you won't face the consequences for cheating on someone - you will. Now when it comes to a marriage, irrespective of whether there is another person in your life, there are times when you are not in love with your spouse, times even when you hate them, but you carry on, because that's commitment. Some people are not meant to be bound by commitment, rather they can't be, even if they try. Sometimes the pull from another human is so strong that it can break all the old bonds. And for all you know, the new one emerges to be a firm and lasting one - one that can't be broken. Just because Kunal fell for Nandini so fast even after years of blissful matrimony with Mauli, it doesn't mean that KuNan's relationship cannot last for the rest of their lives. Kunal and Mauli's marriage was almost unrealistically happy, and yet he fell for Nandini and vice versa. That makes no sense, right? It doesn't make sense to KuNan either. But it is what it is. They can't help what they feel. They can't explain why it happened. It just did.

  • Kunal was not wrong in ridding Nandini of her guilt. Both of them are mature enough to know that their feelings are forbidden and "wrong" by societal definition, and nothing anybody says is going to change that. He is trying to calm her mind and stop her from punishing herself. He became her friend before he fell for her, and what he said could have very well been said by the friend in him. If my friend punishes herself for falling for a married man, I will tell her exactly what he said. He is not encouraging her to fall in love with him. Instead, he is trying to provide some relief to her restless mind. He is the best person to help her in this situation because he himself is going through the same phase, so he understands her. By punishing themselves for what they are feeling, they will only create more mess. Instead, it is better to face their feelings, accept them, and deal with them.

  • I agree that Mauli should get closure, but for that, KuNan should at least begin to be in a real relationship. A married person starting to have feelings for a person other than their spouse isn't a reason to break their marriage, because they don't know what their feelings will lead to. If that happened in real life, very few marriages might actually last! Their feelings might just fade away. If KuNan's feelings continue to grow over a period of time (which will happen as you said, after all it's Indian television), they should tell Mauli. She deserves that. But right now is not the time. Also, KuNan should face the consequences of their actions. In a weird way, that might end up making their relationship stronger in the long run.

  • Nandini IS trying to make a place for herself in the world. But how can you expect CVs to concentrate only and only on that? Because that's not what life is like! I remember having to deal with a miscarriage when my husband lost his job and eventually I had to leave my stable job and move to another city for him. When I was in high school, my boyfriend would constantly make suicide threats and at the same time, my parents stopped talking to me, and teachers looked at me as if I had committed some sin by having a boyfriend - all this while I had to deal with the pressure of being the topper of my class, and they were looking forward to me becoming the state topper in board exams. Life is messy and chaotic and Nandini's even more so. Yes, she should not act on her impulses, but she is in a very vulnerable state right now. With an abusive past in her married life and a struggle to stand on her feet, Kunal came as a ray of hope. Seeing what she's been through, I think she's being stronger than I would have been in her situation. In the midst of all this chaos, it's only human of her to fall for a man who is the stark opposite of her abusive husband. Now this could just be a rebound, because rebounds are pretty intense and feel like the real thing. But there's no reason why a rebound can't become someone's true love, because that happens too. Although right now, her feelings are still in the rebound phase, so entering into a relationship with Kunal isn't on her mind. In short, I'm just saying - Give her a break. She is dealing with too many things right now, and the one thing that provided some respite is also troubling her. In the future, if she and Kunal have a real connection, I see no reason for her not to be with him. Him falling for her despite being in a happy marriage is not a certificate of how good a life partner he will be for her. When people are different, the equation becomes different. They may or may not end up together, but there's nothing wrong in trying, right? I am not saying they should get married right away, but why not give a shot at a relationship? As for "bros before hoes", I think that's exactly what she is doing right now and will do it for as long as she can. And even when she gets together with Kunal for good, I think it'll be Mauli who brings them together. I do not think KuNan will be in a proper relationship without Mauli's blessings.

  • The tag line of the show, "Juzzbat sahi ya galat nahi hote, Juzzbat toh bas juzzbat hote hain", is the truth of my life. Emotions are why I think this life is worth living. Emotions are my fuel and inspiration to write. Emotions are what drive me to take decisions. Yes, some emotions can be dangerous, such as those that drive serial killers. Even love can become a dangerous emotion - it can break families apart and motivate to commit murder. Too much of anything is bad. For example, no water can lead to drought, and too much water can cause floods. But we still need water, some people more than others. Emotions are the base of my life, and even though they are really complicated, they drive me. It's okay that you don't feel that way, because every person has different emotions, and different priorities. Emotions may not be as important to everyone as they are to me. All I can say is that...I am really really glad that someone had the guts to make a show that depicts the complexities of emotions, that too by dealing with a topic as controversial as an extramarital affair.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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I have nothing against developing feelings but it's important to realize that certain emotions may have catastrophic results. I have seen examples like that of Kunal-Mauli-Nandini in my rel life. And those haven't been really good. I have seen their struggle which is painful to watch.

At some point we all emotionally cheat but then we all don't act on impulse of it. To say that Kunal is a very emotional person isn't an excuse. Everyone has emotions and it's only proper when you can be healthy about it. Kunal isn't healthy about his emotions. He is turning all the more jealous and mad in this.

Nandu has my clear understanding from day 1 and I actually understand her situation. This whole thing will be worst for Nandu as she will the center of the brunt the worldn is going to throw at her. Such relationships are antagonized forba reason. Mr. Bachchan-Rekha-Jaya had to face the similar thing but Mr. Bachchan chose to stay true to the commitment. Even Bonny-Sridevi-Arjun's mother had to face the same thing And he chose otherwise. And there are countless examples.

Kunal wants to keep Nandu-Mauli both which is the worst. He knows he don't want to let go of Nandu and he is not making any conscience effort to change that.

I can't blame Nandu of anything right now though. Since I knew from day 1 for all the reasons that might lead to harboring feelings for Kunal but it would have been so nice to see her not acting on that impulse that soon. This act is going to be disastrous for her only as the world she is trying to build for herself will crumble into pieces when the world comes to know of it.

This is a grey topic, so it's only natural to not feel very positive about it. Grey things make you question your own morals and things you believe in.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Nice post.
While I was reading through these comments something struck me. The stark contrast between mouli and Nandini. Though situations are different and there is huge difference between what Rajdeep has done and Kunal is doing mouli immediately informed Nandini about rajdeep's character. After which she left Nandini to her fate which was wronged by many. While Nandini knew Kunal is having feelings for her why isn't she informing mouli about her husband? Is this not wrong on her part.
Kunal is cheating his wife while Nandini is cheating her friend not just by having feelings for her friends husband but also by hiding the matter from mouli.

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