Levels of extremism - Page 2

Originally posted by: dqno1

I agree with you Soph

It's a truth of society that they will stand only with the strong, the rich, the ones with influence.

If you can't do anything for me I don't prefer to see you; that's the mantra.

Sad thing is helping someone enriches you.

I guess Mauli will be the true heroine here

@ Angel: I truly love the inspiration you hold to aspire women to do the right thing i.e. fight back. However when I chose the title I was hinting at those viewers with the harsh perspective rather than those with a different viewpoint than me (we all are entitled to have an opinion).

The:

- I want to slap her

- She deserves this

- Its Rajdeep jazzbaat (feeling)

Those comments crawled my skin, the unjustified attack on such a woman just because she is different than the perceived fearless kind. If she is weak that in no account allows some other 'women' (I suppose) to attack her in any form or shape. I do understand watching such scene must be upsetting but just a little cautious needs to be applied, because in their anger they are suggesting the opposite i.e. siding with Rajdeep or looking as bad as him. I understand your feelings of saying sympathy leads to nothing and action speaks volume but having some personal experience, I can say not everyone reflects the same. I am so happy that your maid took hold of the matter but some of these women have little or close to zero self-esteem and you can imagine how no confidence would turn an individual? Why do you think suicide had risen? So kind words, or rather words of wisdom spoken in a nice manner can work wonders, the exact job of a psychiatrist?

Personally I feel you do sympathise with victims, but have another outlook of it. Rather than the I'm sorry' speech you set out to inspire. So in my words, yes you do emphasise thus the words of action, had you not pitied or shown sympathy then you would have ignored and simply reflected the issue as its their business' or she must deserve it'.

Thank you Angel for the response, but more so for being the woman you are

Keep motivating

Originally posted by: madlal

Yes,People like Nandini still exists.They are very much part of the liberated women and the 21st century women.Yes it takes courage and strength to stand up against abusive anyone,not only husband even the fisher woman who hurls abuses when asked for a discount.yes there are Women like Nandini even today.

My question is why ?why do people like Nandini still exist?Why are we as women asked to compromise all the time?I know of a person who was having an affair with a girl and the wife fond out through their sleazy emails and did not get any support.She was told that she was not satisfying her husband hence his erstwhile interest.He came back to her and she was asked by her family and his family to go back to him even though even today she doesn't trust him 100%.

I cannot relate to Nandini,yes,But She has my full sympathy.She is brought up that way,I am sure she has seen her mom compromising all the time and we have seen that us daughters tend to follow the footsteps of our mothers.unless we see our mothers standing up for herself,we will lack courage to do so.Maybe that was what happened to Nandini.

Once you show you are weak it is very difficult to rise up like phoenix and fight the injustice.There is a term in Psychology called forced helplessness,which says that once the weak has decided that she is weak,then she herself decides that it is all she is worthy of and the abuses coming her way is what she deserves.Then she will keep on tolerating all the abuses till she gains enough strength to fight back or die.usually it is the latter that happens,hence the high level of female suicides.

Exactly I agree with your POV, why is there such existence in the first place. But the sad reality is, there would always be people like Nandini until there is a drastic change. Men do receive an advantage, centuries before us they have lived like they own the world and some nincompoops still behave so and unfortunately not all families are adopting the changes in the world. Like you said Nandini's family might be one of them.

Personal belief and faith can work wonders, and that's were bullies rule, I feel. When a piece of shit makes someone else feel worthless, the victim no matter what loses her/his capability to see beyond the view of the bully. Rajdeep here is the bully, the reminder of her being a failure in education, calling her ugly, useless etc, is just the act of such bullying abusive husbands. And then people wonder why Nandini is like that? What else do you expect from a women who socialises with no one but a man who mentally and physically assaults her character? She is forced to believe his shit and sees herself as nothing. Hence she puts up with his crap.

Thank you Madlal