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Twenty1st

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Posted: 7 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: KuNan
Exactly very well said

thats my point but people dont undurstand these things

they want to leave in dream world

Dream world is a fancy place, but one cannot built a home in the clouds!

Thank you KuNan😊

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Twenty1st

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Posted: 7 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: Sofna
I totally agree with you
It's a grave misconception that people assume that "she's not today's women" and "why can't she leave" - if we actually looked closer and deeper around us with an open mind and kinder heart then there's more Nandini''s littered about than we will be able to count.
We live in a much more cruel, selfish world with much more entitled lifestyles. Just like we can live above and beyond our means - people's greed has reached an all time low and continues to spiral to further depths of depravity.

It is said na women are women's worst enemies - I'm assuming most theses comments are from female members - if it was this easy to leave such relation/brutality and abuse - I doubt there would be beyond a handful of marriages surviving the test of time!

@bold: love the notion. Totally on point but ignorance is a bliss and is kinder on the conscious. Its easy to say people like Nandini should take action but how about help them take that first step in the first place?

Greed- agree, just this i heard on the radio that the USA are backing off from the United Nation human rights because they feel it favous the culprits and corners Isreal. Greed is at unmeasurable number, had they faced or even seen the destruction inside the country maybe they too would agreee with the UN. Anyway thats a different matter.

Back to Nandini, thats why i like Mauli stepping out (the whole women being enemies would be lifted but i don't disagree, the vast amount of criticism i faced were at the hands of fellow women).

For women like Nandini i suppose leaving isn't even a option, why else would she even consider abortion rather than fleeing?

I sure hope the circumstance of the world improves,and peace and safety of all restores.

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Twenty1st

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Posted: 7 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: Mishfan
It's truly sad, but a hard hitting fact there are many Nandinis around us even
In today's times irrespective of education, family background, status etc etc.
There could be any no. Of reasons for them not being able to come out of those
abusive relationships / marriages. Not just empathy, but they need strong support
from both family & society as a whole to come out of it & stronger.
Unfortunately that's not the case many a times & we continue to see tragic endings.

@bold: fact, these things don't built character, yes influences but doesn't provide a shield against such men like Rajdeep or of similar kind.

Support is required, kind words and encouragement can work wonders. Only consolation is that if Nandini exist then so does Mauli, and seeing the response on this thread highlights that kindness is still around.

Thank you Mishfan

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Posted: 7 years ago

#24

yes there r Nandini type woman do exit in world who do not sesperate from cruel husband because either they don't have strong background , either they r alone , either they r so afraid from husband , that if they say anything against about cruel husband. then her husband will torture her more badly

another reason can be that wife do not want to separating from cruel husband and keep silently tolerating husband torture because for a woman living alone is risky so they think they feel proteced under husband

And also Nandini type of woman also think I they share problem with outside then outside people Will make fun of her

or may be Nandini st stuck to cruel husband because before marriage have they lot of dreams that they will make home like this they will do this. do that so they don't want to break their dreams and keep tolerating husband cruelty

Edited by surabhi01 - 7 years ago

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Posted: 7 years ago

#25

Very nice post..

But i think I missed some parts as it is edited..

But anyways, well said..

Women like Nandini very much exist in our society..

Sometimes they are around us also, but we fail to recognize them..

we should not judge someone, when we are not fighting their battle..

We will never understand what they go through as we have not faced anything like that..

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Angels11

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Posted: 7 years ago

#26

Nice discussion here. I think the main prob is the mindset in Indian society that a daughter is a burden & son is god like. Look at Mauli's mom. In many cases I think the parents themselves tell their daughter "Pati hai, haq hai, adjust karlo". Moreover many of these women are not financially independent. So even if she dare leaves her husband she has to depend on her parents, brothers. I ve seen cases where the brothers & their wives resent the woman for coming back to her mayka.

So for the victims sadly its Ek taraf kua, doosri taraf khai. Hence many decide its better 2 tolerate their husband rather than burden their ageing parents 😭

Even finding a house for rent in a city/town is a nightmare for single women. I really dont know when Indian society will progress & stop this regressive attitude towards women...

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Rosh4rose

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Posted: 7 years ago

#27

Look like she is suffering from "battered women syndrome "
There are many women out there , living a life of suffering of various degree
Many marriages are fake
Verbal abuse is also a form of it
Elephant is a mighty animal still it follows the orders of master because it is fixed in it's mind that it is chained and helpless .
Years of torturing makes it like that .
Nandini is a woman suffering domestic abuse , it is not just a character it is for real.
Then the relationship issues ...
See how it evolves ...
Dr.Mauli is an example of an independant lady both financially emotionally

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Twenty1st

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Posted: 7 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: surabhi01
yes there r Nandini type woman do exit in world who do not sesperate from cruel husband because either they don't have strong background , either they r alone , either they r so afraid from husband , that if they say anything against about cruel husband. then her husband will torture her more badly

another reason can be that wife do not want to separating from cruel husband and keep silently tolerating husband torture because for a woman living alone is risky so they think they feel proteced under husband

And also Nandini type of woman also think I they share problem with outside then outside people Will make fun of her

or may be Nandini st stuck to cruel husband because before marriage have they lot of dreams that they will make home like this they will do this. do that so they don't want to break their dreams and keep tolerating husband cruelty

You have depicted each episode of a woman like Nandini, these troubles sound soo trvial to most girls but unfortunately it's not for Nandidi and alike

Ideally I'm like not tolerate bullshit like that but realistically I know people do, in the hopes of a better future especially in the 3rd world. The amount of young girls marrying old men, is a sign of the disproportion in the world. My friend who works at this voluntary centre told me of this girl who's really young and married to a 60+ Buddha, her family married her off so she could move here (abroad) and now he beats her up and doubts her for having an affair with every other man. It's so gross to think like that, why would old men do that?

It's so sick? But she's also tolerating, and most people are like are you crazy? But that's her story and maybe one day she'll break free. I hope she does, and so does Nandini and women alike

Thank you Surabhi

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Twenty1st

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Posted: 7 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: LovelyUmang5
Very nice post..
But i think I missed some parts as it is edited..
But anyways, well said..
Women like Nandini very much exist in our society..
Sometimes they are around us also, but we fail to recognize them..
we should not judge someone, when we are not fighting their battle..
We will never understand what they go through as we have not faced anything like that..

I know just noticed it, something about opionions etc

We do fail to recognise people in our busy life, not our fault but unfortunately everybody is self-absorbed

So beautifully said Lovely, we are no one to jugde others

Thank you Lovely😃

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Twenty1st

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Posted: 7 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: Angels11
Nice discussion here. I think the main prob is the mindset in Indian society that a daughter is a burden & son is god like. Look at Mauli's mom. In many cases I think the parents themselves tell their daughter "Pati hai, haq hai, adjust karlo". Moreover many of these women are not financially independent. So even if she dare leaves her husband she has to depend on her parents, brothers. I ve seen cases where the brothers & their wives resent the woman for coming back to her mayka.

So for the victims sadly its Ek taraf kua, doosri taraf khai. Hence many decide its better 2 tolerate their husband rather than burden their ageing parents 😭

Even finding a house for rent in a city/town is a nightmare for single women. I really dont know when Indian society will progress & stop this regressive attitude towards women...

I don't even think its an Indian thing either , why is there such a big difference in China gender. A country known for such development but statistics suggest theres 20:1 boys;girls in most rural parts of the country and maybe in the towns have a similar number.

Mauli's mother, exactly. isn't she feeding it to her daughter that she should act according to her husband?

Exactly most daughters are very sensitive. why would you return home and be a burden, or so they think. Or be subjected to traunts and looks.

Theres a video on Youtube called The Broken Bride, which shreds light onto one such woman who was a victim to domestic violence

Thanks Angel