Firstly Thanks Priya for this post and raising this imp issue... The discussion that has followed is both interesting and shocking for us...So we are also going to put in our two pence bits (well more than two pence!) 😊
At the onset let us state a few things :
1. This is just our point of view and we are not judging anyone's opinion.
2. No offence meant, so we apologise in advance for any hurt we may cause with our words; but we are completely non-apologetic about our views. We strongly believe in them and we state them strongly.
3. We are not commenting on whether this was the right step for Preeto to take or not - that is a separate discussion.
4. Neither are we going to comment on whether the CVs should have taken this route or not. That is a question that can never be answered... a story can move in many directions and we maintain that it is the prerogative of the story teller, and we don't judge that path or decision.
5. We respect traditions and culture and values.
What we want to comment on is what was the main theme of priya's post : marriage and its sanctity. We really do value the institution of marriage and at no stage do we take it lightly.
We are asking why should Preeto marry Sunny for real because she faked marriage with him?
We are not here to comment on her decision to fake her marriage, so for the sake of this discussion if we assume that she made a mistake by faking it... should she now make another mistake of being in a compromised marriage to cover up her initial mistake?
We are talking about the sanctity of marriage? How about the sanctity of Love?
For us this is equal to saying that the discipline of the temple is greater than the devotion
to God. So, a person who goes with his head uncovered to the mandir is disturbing the sanctity of the mandir, doesnt matter that his devotion and dialogue with God may be purer than the devotion of those who go with covered heads...?
Some viewers have said that she has stayed in the same room as sunny and hence now her chastity and purity will be questioned and hence she should now formalise this 'living in the same room'... BTW who has the right to question the so called purity of a woman???
In our radical view- no one.
But ok for this discussion we take a moderate view and we say that may be Rajbeer can question this... and do you really think that he is going to question? Do you think his trust on her is so fickle? And who is the society to question her chastity when her love, her husband Rajbeer will not question it and her own family and her parents wont question it?
Does Preeto need the certification from everyone?
Those who want to question her chastity can question the night she spent with Rajbeer at the dhaba...
Another point in this, btw... how about the same question for sunny? Why have we not asked that the girl who marries sunny later and her family, they can question his 'virginity' as well as he was also behind locked doors with a girl for many nights.
Another point that has been raised is that the society will question the family and it will affect the izzat and all that. We ask you what is izzat? You are only answerable to your own self and to your God. The greatest test is - can you look yourself and your God in the eye.
The others may judge you based on their own context and understanding... they are entitled to their judgement... but should their judgement be the basis of your decision? In our books this is called fearful living... when you do things out of fear... fear of 'punishment' makes you do things... Society ko kya jawab denge toh sabse sad reason hoga kisi bhi decision ko lene ke liye...
At no stage are we questioning the sanctity of marriage but we are questioning that what disturbs its sanctity?
How can something that is so sacred and respectful be so fickle to have its foundation shaken by something like this? What should be the basis of this most sacred relationship?
What makes marriage sacred? That it is based on something sacred - love, or that it is an institution made to discpline the animal kingdom?
Preeto ne sunny se hui shaadi ke baare mein jhoot bola. We are shunning this lie. And now we want her to lie to her own self??? We want her to not pay attention to the truth of her own heart? That she loves Rajbeer... Which would be a bigger lie???
Preeto ne ek nahi bahut se jhoot bole hain... kuch jhoot bolke kuch sach chupa ke... magar yeh sab usne is "Maya" = duniyadari ki space mein bole hain... ek Jhoot usne apne andar bola hai... Apne "mool" se bola hai... her true core... That she loves Rajbeer and she cannot be true to anyone but Rajbeer because her soul belongs to him... Humne Preeto ke iss "Maya" ke jhoot ko itna bura kaha hai... Rabb toh humare "Mool" ko dekhta hai... Ab iss fake shaadi ko asli karke kya hum Preeto se uske "Mool" mein jhoot bolne ko nahi keh rahe??? Kya aatma ka jhoot zubaan ke jhoot se bada nahi hota hai? agar samaj ka kaam hai hume sahi raah dikhana toh kya samajh ko uss jhoot ko nahi nakarna chahiye? Hume Maya ke liye jeena hai ya Mool ke liye?
Hum aap sabse poonchte hain : Paap kya hai??? aur Sabse bada paap kya hai??
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
