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Posted: 13 years ago
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I had been reading some comments about what Preeto did is how it is a disgrace to marriage and izzat of the family and all that.
I would like to take an opposite direction and think about it.
What is a Marriage ? is it bonding of two indivitual/family or rituals and opinion of society and others
if we are concern about Rituals that never happend with the fake marriage
as far as opinion of society is concern, it changes time to time and situation to situation.
Sunny-ji knows how much Preeto is in love with RB. Will they be able to have a very happy bonding even after knowing that?
Is marriage a word for two people living together compromising?
If Preeto- Sunny-ji and Simmi- RB marraige happens thats what it will be. The will be surviving their marriage but will they be living ?
I surely hope that CVS show us the Unite of true love 😭

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Posted: 13 years ago
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And with due respect to your post... what mother of any lady (leave Preeto's case) would reply if relavites, neighbours etc keep asking them .. why is your daughter now not with the ex fake husband though they had been sharing same room, same apartment... same quesiton will be asked each time by different different persons... and I dont think they will be satisfied if mother gives same reply (what You have posted) to them...
Though what You have said is correct... morally... but one thing we cant deny is... it will bring disgrace to Preeto's family... the family will become a laughing unit in whole society... people will make rumours on back of family... I know its bad... but thats our society... it will take ages for our society to think bit liberally... I am sorry dear if I hurt You... just my view... otherwise respect You a lot dear... take care
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: NeerajFan

And with due respect to your post... what mother of any lady (leave Preeto's case) would reply if relavites, neighbours etc keep asking them .. why is your daughter now not with the ex fake husband though they had been sharing same room, same apartment... same quesiton will be asked each time by different different persons... and I dont think they will be satisfied if mother gives same reply (what You have posted) to them...

Though what You have said is correct... morally... but one thing we cant deny is... it will bring disgrace to Preeto's family... the family will become a laughing unit in whole society... people will make rumours on back of family... I know its bad... but thats our society... it will take ages for our society to think bit liberally... I am sorry dear if I hurt You... just my view... otherwise respect You a lot dear... take care

NeerajFan , i do certainly understand your point , What is society? is it made of individuals ? unless we change ourself the society will not change !! i like to believe that the only person that we can change is ourself , i am not asking for reform of our values and change of the society .
What i am saying is that society is evloving and we can't live our life for others opinion. other's opinion will change with context of their understanding. Should a mother worry about her daughters life or what the relavites, neighbours and society will say? I am sure there are a lot of divorces cases and mothers who want to protect the daughter from evil husband or in laws out there is india.
By thinking about the what will others we are limiting us to opportunities in the world.
isn't there any daughter out there living on their own and not disgrace to the society?
i am not rectifying what preeto did is right , some times you need to use negative power to kill the negative power (NA)
so did what she thought was right!
it doesn't mean she has to live with SUnny-ji for the rest of her life because it is diagrace to society and family.
it is like " SAY what you want , those who care doesn't mind , those who mind, don't care about it\'
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I want to agree with u but u know there are lot of things a family need to face and i cant see parents being blamed for everything and even sonu and bani are left...papaji is unwell dikha rahe hain na what will they show further when he comes to know ...marriage has become a game ek taraf Cvs showing fake marriage..dusre taraf pushing simi towards rajbeer doesnt he has a right to choose a gal he likes to have in his life hez not even getting time to move on uper se ready to torture his life..isse kehte making life complicated...serial hai everything possible but outside handling job life and this kind of torture is more difficult for a person either preeto or rajbeer ...itna time kaha haha job se nikaldenge...already lots of flaws in the story they will unite rajpreet but it will not make sense for sure...
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Posted: 13 years ago
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originally posted Angleicq

I had been reading some comments about what Preeto did is how it is a disgrace to marriage and izzat of the family and all that.
I would like to take an opposite direction and think about it.
What is a Marriage ? is it bonding of two indivitual/family or rituals and opinion of society and others
if we are concern about Rituals that never happend with the fake marriage
as far as opinion of society is concern, it changes time to time and situation to situation.
Sunny-ji knows how much Preeto is in love with RB. Will they be able to have a very happy bonding even after knowing that?
Is marriage a word for two people living together compromising?
If Preeto- Sunny-ji and Simmi- RB marraige happens thats what it will be. The will be surviving their marriage but will they be living ?
I surely hope that CVS show us the Unite of true love
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For a minute I will agree with you thinking opposite direction as you said .That means living together without marriage is OK These thing happening in big cities in India .we should not mind it?? or not?

The family structure is a powerful thing There are norms , condition guidelines.which should be followed.
Yes, marriage is two people living together should comprise ,that does n't means if the husband ill-treat wife you should comprise.There are so many changes happening for the better especially for girl but with in the guideline..

man or woman will adjust to circumstances whether it is in love or any thing.

i want CV to show reality in life not the melodrama so that young generation will think in that direction not misguiding them.that give a stable family life.

May be young generation may think differently.How about you???
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Edited by anasuya43 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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anasuya43, I am no more a young person nor I beilieve in fantacy love. I believe in unconditional love the love expects nothing , there is no implusive action , your senses don't react to it. I completely understand living together is not accepted in our culture before marriage. The western world living together is different from what preeto has done . You can be with the man in the same bed without loosing yourself, you need to be honest to yourself.Beeji Papaji must trust in their upbringing , when we are born we know nothing , it is our parents upbringing makes us who we are !!!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Angleicq

I completely understand living together is not accepted in our culture before marriage. The western world living together is different from what preeto has done

yes it is not accetpable she should have thought hundred times before taking decision to have fake marriage.That is why she should forget Rajbeer and get married to sunny

You can be with the man in the same bed without loosing yourself, you need to be honest to yourself.

Are you married? (sorry it is personal question i am asking You need not answer if you do not feel like )
This point i do not want to comment before your answer
Beeji Papaji must trust in their upbringing , when we are born we know nothing , it is our parents upbringing makes us who we are !!!

preeto's parents trusted her fully.That is why she should not go against them .She was brought up in a traditional way.
In my own eyes three families (tradtional, trusted ,caring for children) made their parents tears on their eyes .what do you say for that???

I am no more a young person nor I beilieve in fantacy love. I believe in unconditional love the love expects nothing , there is no implusive action , your senses don't react to it.

If Rajbeer 's love is unconditional he would have waited for preeto or he should have told immediately to Simran that he loves preeto.
Apart from discussion,In serials one scene can stretch he scenes upto five or six otherwise how can they make three or four hundred episodes.


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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: anasuya43

Angleicq


I completely understand living together is not accepted in our culture before marriage. The western world living together is different from what preeto has done

yes it is not accetpable she should have thought hundred times before taking decision to have fake marriage.That is why she should forget Rajbeer and get married to sunny

Easier said than done !!!!!!!!!


You can be with the man in the same bed without loosing yourself, you need to be honest to yourself.

Are you married? (sorry it is personal question i am asking You need not answer if you do not feel like )
This point i do not want to comment before your answer
Yes I am married 😉, that too it was an arranged marriage , let me know if you need any more details
Beeji Papaji must trust in their upbringing , when we are born we know nothing , it is our parents upbringing makes us who we are !!!

preeto's parents trusted her fully.That is why she should not go against them .She was brought up in a traditional way.
In my own eyes three families (tradtional, trusted ,caring for children) made their parents tears on their eyes .what do you say for that???
I am not sure I understand what you are saying here? what do you expect a girl to do when ones life is at stack.

I am no more a young person nor I beilieve in fantacy love. I believe in unconditional love the love expects nothing , there is no implusive action , your senses don't react to it.

If Rajbeer 's love is unconditional he would have waited for preeto or he should have told immediately to Simran that he loves preeto.
Apart from discussion,In serials one scene can stretch he scenes upto five or six otherwise how can they make three or four hundred episodes.


I hope you are asking all this for argument sake , hopefully you did not take my view point personally... I have answered them anyway
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Angleicq

Do not take it seriously This is only discussion sake.I want to know how younger generation (sorry ) feels about it.(The viewers in the IF are young and middle age that is the reason I want to know their viewers)

This will help my Preeto Research😉
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Angleicq

I had been reading some comments about what Preeto did is how it is a disgrace to marriage and izzat of the family and all that.

I would like to take an opposite direction and think about it.
What is a Marriage ? is it bonding of two indivitual/family or rituals and opinion of society and others
if we are concern about Rituals that never happend with the fake marriage
as far as opinion of society is concern, it changes time to time and situation to situation.
Sunny-ji knows how much Preeto is in love with RB. Will they be able to have a very happy bonding even after knowing that?
Is marriage a word for two people living together compromising?
If Preeto- Sunny-ji and Simmi- RB marraige happens thats what it will be. The will be surviving their marriage but will they be living ?
I surely hope that CVS show us the Unite of true love 😭



I do not read the comments..but I think for this reason the CV'S make fake marriage...because if the marriage is what you wrote so they should not married..and in the same time they have problem...so they think in fake marriage...😉
Edited by Ahlem - 13 years ago

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