SGP's Badi Maa!! - Page 2

This forum is still breathing MJ , just need some good topic maker and good topics !!! Just as there are still people out there who wants to see dramas which the director enjoys directing, the actors go extra mile to make it worth acting and the writer who writes from there heart not from there pockets , who don't work for the production houses who wants TRP and only TRP for the channel .

sSeema like late to the party , nice discussion .

Personally , I am with neither party yet with both of them .

In our society , no matter how much girls are educated , they can not escape house work . That is how we are raised. I have hardly seen parents seen teaching their boys how to cook , clean or do house work . Boys must study hard , become something and earn good money . Girls , must learn house work ., study as much as they want . That is a choise but whether they should learn house work or do them is not a choice . It is expected .

Suhana ks spoiled her whole life , first KK now Its BM . loving your husband , standing by them through thick and thine is not all expected in a marriage . When We get married , We don't just marry our husbands but to their entire family too .

By marrying Ishan , Suhana not only has responsibility towards Ishan , his happiness but also his family too . So has Ishan . It is expected that Ishan takes care of Suhana , nher needs , her happyness, her every demands too . So should Suhana . Isha doesn't ask suhana to go to her dad for pocket money , nor should Suhana ask or expect Rano to clean up her room or look after her husband . It should work both ways .

Suhana has in past make an attempt to work household projects . At first Ishan wanted her to change then not change , Rano said she never wanted her to do anything around the house as she wanted to shower her love , but also Rano in the past wanted to suhana to work around the house at that time both Alok - BM told her to give more time . Time is what given to suhana . Suhana claimes she took care of . Did she ? I don't think so . My POV . No matter how much someone stopes u from changing ur life or doing house work , if U really really want to then no one can stopp u for it . Just the way she cooked breakfast she can do house work . Real Q is does she want to do ? If U want to do something then U can seenthe available work or things needs to b done right in front of U .

As its been said before , by constantly covering for Suhana . Its not helping her . She just doesn't have one relationship tied to that household . At some point Rano is right . When they ( rano , bm , rb ) r not their to help them and just like that day Rajni is somewhere else , disha has to go to job then would Suhana b able to do something ?

I personally don't agree with BM on lot of things and lot of thinkings . She has double standards for her DILs. Sooner or later they will run out of things to save suhana from . One truth remains , suhana is responsible for her responsibilities . There always people who b nice to u , tell u there is no need for u to do things but U have to realize what U have to do .

BM needs to take few steps backwards specially after what happen when she let ishan go to mumbai . She needs to realize suhana has to step up the plate . At the same time Rano needs to understand how to present her case. More or less it is rano's outburst just like Rajni - Disha were pushed . They hush it up , now rano too will b silenced .

My fear is nothing will change. Suhana won't take her responsibility , as she is right is not taking them in first . Rano will say sorry , BM - Suhana will hug it out . But like many before me I too believe BM is more wrong than right . Her advice to Ishan well, ishan not only has responsibility towards his wife and her happyness but also towards his mother . He has to find a way to put rano's resons to rest and give her piece of mind . Also suhana needs to find a way to work out a much better schedule .

When We live a joint family , our happiness are intertwined . We can't ingnore or shut of each other's views .

I appreciate all the constructive feedback and different Pov here.

But, I think most of us are getting BM wrong here.

My view is she didn't say "forget about your mother completely."

During BM-Ishaan conversation, she just wanted an honest answer from Ishaan regarding Suhana's work. As Ishaan had just heard Rano's view about the topic earlier, Bm didn't want Rano's stance to influence Ishaan. So, Bm just said, "tum Rano ko bhool jao", meaning just temporarily forget Rano's view & share ur unbiased thoughts on this matter.

She wanted to know Ishaan's perspective & hence said the above line. She didn't mean that you should never listen to Rano or ignore her always. Moreover Bm cares for Rano; so during Rano's outburst, she tried to calm her and make her understand the problem.

Secondly, the thing that Bm told Suhana, " Tum bas Ishaan ka acche se khayaal rakhna, usse hamesha khush rakhna."

I know as a DIL its Suhana responsibilty towards her family as well.

But , from Bm's Pov, when she married Ishwar, she too was of the opinion that ,"Marrianges happen between two families rather than between two peolple." Bm always thought her responsibilty rowards the family comes first than Ishwar. So, she couldnt give enough time to Ishwar & her duties towards him. Remember the Bm-Suhana scene where she told that " Tumhare Bp wanted to have candlelight dinner in our room" or "Bp wanted me to wear modern clothes." Ishwar, being ambitious, started feeling distanced from Bm. This ultimately led to Ishwar getting married to another woman. So, BM is of the opinion that her giving less attention to Bp led to her failed marriage. She has had a bitter experience. She doesnt want her children to go through the same, hence she told suhana to look after Ishaan well.

In Kashyap joint family, difference of opinion are bound to happen as many people are staying together & Bm is just trying to hold the house together and keep everyone happy.

Originally posted by: Excalibur..

I appreciate all the constructive feedback and different Pov here.

But, I think most of us are getting BM wrong here.

My view is she didn't say "forget about your mother completely."

During BM-Ishaan conversation, she just wanted an honest answer from Ishaan regarding Suhana's work. As Ishaan had just heard Rano's view about the topic earlier, Bm didn't want Rano's stance to influence Ishaan. So, Bm just said, "tum Rano ko bhool jao", meaning just temporarily forget Rano's view & share ur unbiased thoughts on this matter.

She wanted to know Ishaan's perspective & hence said the above line. She didn't mean that you should never listen to Rano or ignore her always. Moreover Bm cares for Rano; so during Rano's outburst, she tried to calm her and make her understand the problem.

Secondly, the thing that Bm told Suhana, " Tum bas Ishaan ka acche se khayaal rakhna, usse hamesha khush rakhna."

I know as a DIL its Suhana responsibilty towards her family as well.

But , from Bm's Pov, when she married Ishwar, she too was of the opinion that ,"Marrianges happen between two families rather than between two peolple." Bm always thought her responsibilty rowards the family comes first than Ishwar. So, she couldnt give enough time to Ishwar & her duties towards him. Remember the Bm-Suhana scene where she told that " Tumhare Bp wanted to have candlelight dinner in our room" or "Bp wanted me to wear modern clothes." Ishwar, being ambitious, started feeling distanced from Bm. This ultimately led to Ishwar getting married to another woman. So, BM is of the opinion that her giving less attention to Bp led to her failed marriage. She has had a bitter experience. She doesnt want her children to go through the same, hence she told suhana to look after Ishaan well.

In Kashyap joint family, difference of opinion are bound to happen as many people are staying together & Bm is just trying to hold the house together and keep everyone happy.

Since BM doesn't want history to repeat , she should know that cauz of her advices entire house has problem with now and again .

During BT track , Ishan should have quite his job n stayed at home with suhana so that they can spend sime time togather KAAL HO NAA HO . KK should have paid for suhana's medical expenses n ishan's monthly house expenses. After all Kk has lost his wife so he would want his SIL to spend as much time with her .


Other DIL should not do any household work but just keep their husband s . Just show up breakfast , lunch dinner n don't do house work . But that's not gonna happen . At that time they ( BM - RB - RANO ) WILLsay aaj khaana nahi khaana kya ? Ssab bhukhe ho gaye hain . Jao aab khaana banao , muh kya dekh rahi ho ? How would it look if DILs of the house r sitting around , doing gupp shup while MILs of the house r working their off .

I m just being sarcastic , not towards any of the commenters but towards BM n full of partiality advices .